If I tell you that I was going to kill myself...?

Question

what would you say to me to make me change my mind? Can you convince me that this life is worth living? Or you'll just tell me go for it (if you thought of it you're not worth living right)? No nonsense about God...or else :) And have in mind that I'm not a simple person.

how can I send you a video of my suicide?

wow...a star...do I get more stars if I really do it?

I don't have any problems. Really. My life's great. I have everything I need and want. But I don't want to live.

If you put me in a mental institution, do you really think that would make me better? I doubt it!

Answer 1

Life is like a movie, if you've sat through more than half of it and its sucked every second so far, it probably isn't gonna get great right at the end and make it all worthwhile. No one should blame you for walking out early.

Answer 2

From a purely hypothetical standpoint: There's nothing I could say to make you change your mind. This is a decision you and you alone make. Telling you to think about your loved ones is pointless, because let's face it, you weren't thinking about them when you thought about suicide to begin with, so the more likely result would be that if you did decide to "stick it out" you'd just feel as though your loved ones were holding you back.

What it seems more like is that you are feeling alienated, and are seeking attention, either that, or you just revel in the wrong kind of attention, and have a perverse pleasure in watching people scatter to "save" someone that they've never met.

In most cases, a suicide won't reach out and seek help, until after a failed attempt has been stopped, and in those cases, they purposely fail by making sure that someone is close by to "save" them. Your candor appears too playful for someone that is seriously considering ending their life.

You also claim to be "Not a simple person." If you were a true suicide, I'd have to disagree, because only a simple person would take the easiest way out to solve a problem.

Answer 3

Aside from the obvious, (call a free suicidal hotline, find a decent therapist whom you feel comfortable talking to, etc. which most of us would rather not do), I would say keep in mind that sometimes we get sick, or have really terrible days, even months or years in our lives, and at some point, almost like a change in hormones, we can feel better. Today, for example, is not one of my best days. I've had better. I hate the class I'm taking, I'm about to fail a midterm, quite honestly, and I should be studying but I'm here on yahoo answers. I've had happier moments in my life. But, I try to keep in mind that if I have to drop this class, and I don't get a degree, and I only make an average salary, even if I never find love with a significant other and I live my life solo, it's better than slapping my parents in the face with my own dead body. I mean, I'm lucky, I've had people who are very nice to me in my life and therefore I kind of feel like I owe it to them not to throw myself off a cliff. You could be in a completely different situation. Anyway, I could I have a month of depression, then one day wake up and just really like something about myself and my life and the day is totally different. It can happen when you least expect it. And if you're depressed, it's like happiness doesn't even exist. Some day, unexpectedly, you will have a moment of happiness that reminds you of what life really should be like, and it's moments like these that keep me going. Life isn't easy. But rare moments of love make it bearable. If you're really needing to get away from it all, take a trip or volunteer for a day at an animal shelter with puppies and kittens, etc. You may find you can come back an reapproach your life from a different perspective.

Answer 4

I have a friend I met on Y!A.
She wrote that she wanted to kill herself. She talked about her family issues.
I answered that it would be a horrible thing to do to her children.
That was enough to change her mind, as she realized the repercussions her suicide would have on the kids.
We've been friends ever since.

If you don't have kids, this plea might not have an effect on your decision. But there are others in your life who would be hurt by your death, and never recover.

When I'm feeling depressed, down, wondering why I'm even here, I go outside at night, breathe the night air, look at the sky ... my problems don't seem so huge then. I get a better perspective on my life, how short it is anyway, and I want to live what little there is left of it.

Sometimes I cry really really hard, over things in my past that continue to cause me grief, and then -- trite as it may sound -- I feel better.

I hope your question is purely philosophical.

Answer 5

The first question would be: have you experimented with mind-altering drugs? If so, would point to a problem with ending your precious physical embodiment: such drug use seriously tends to land post-passing souls, who've taken their lives, rather than resolving their drug-karma, into hellish circumstances. Be prepared.

Second, would note that any soul, upon post-passing waking to the realization "I am!" notes playing conditions have changed.

Third, you have a divine plan and pre-embodiment hopes and goals.

Fourth, life is indeed worth playing, until one's natural body temple timing for passing is accomplished.

FIfth, those who've remembered past lives (e.g., "Reborn in the West: The Reincarnation Masters," Vicki MacKenzie) do give thanks for opportunity to live.

Sixth, would suggest you read Ann Ree Colton's "Men in White Apparel." It is a remarkable study in the various types of existence souls progress through, after passing on.

Seventh, would note the obvious: most people do not take their physical lives, for reasons which are related to hope, love, and so on. Therefore, would ask of you, questions regarding your health, your state of mind (angry, depressed, confused, anxious, etc.) which would be perhaps unhealthy, and which, when helped or healed, would be regarded by the "new you" as less desirable.

Would note that studies i.e. of people who've attempted to kill their bodies by jumping from a bridge, and who survived, find just about all to have immediately regretted their decision.

Would note, in case you do consider talking to a counselor, the free 1-800-232-6459 number (1-800-AFAMILY) and their http://www.family.org website.

Also, http://www.coasttocoastam.com radio has some guests on occasion who speak to your question.

blessings, and apologies for any shortcomings with my opinion,

j.

Answer 6

I 've been there before, I know how you feel. I went and stayed in a hospital called the Marion Center for being sucidal. My life was horrible, and to be honest, I really don't know how I made it through. I probably sound stupid or my answer may not do any good, ( no offense, but people that are suicidal do not listen to anyone, they are very stubborn) anyways, I don't even know what else to tell you except my story of when I was going through the most horrible time in my life I was told to think about the people around you, in your life. At least do this, think about a certain question that I thought about, which is " If I wasn't living anymore, would I get to see the people I love again"? I thought about my daughter I had 4 1/2 years ago, and her father, who I am in love with. We had been together off and on for 5 1/2 years now,we've been together for 2 years straight now, but obviously I got pregnant only 4 months into our relationship. Not good. My daughter was born prematurely on June 13, 2003. She got taken away from me and my fiance by the State of Missouri a month later. Oh boy, I didn't know what to do, what to think, how to feel. I kept thinking "This is all my fault, this just plainly, flat out MY FAULT!" I wanted to die, truely. I did not want to live. I've always felt like 90% of the bad things that happen in my life is my fault, but it's not like that. Somethings happen that are just out of your hands, you can't help it. So those things that happened to my fiance, our daughter and I aren't my fault, I should've done things differently though, but it's not my fault. If I had killed myself because of the way I felt I would definitely never be able to see her or my fiance. I would've not got to see her on September 22 of this year for the first time since she was born. That's like 3 1/2 years my fiance and I have missed out on and we're not even dead. And just for the record God has nothing to do with anybody killing themselves, that is your own choice. Everybody told me my life is worth living, especially if you want to see the people you love. For me, my life is worth living because I have a child I want to see. Now, you think of something that you think is a good enough reason. No one can convince you. You have to on your own. One last thing, if someone tells you to go for it and kill yourself, then maybe they shouldn't live. They aren't good people. If listened to someone tell me that then I''d be dead now. Well, I really wish you the greatest luck, whether you believe that or not. Like I said it's your choice. I learned that my choice that I thought was a good one, turned out to be the very oposite, my life is currently better than it used to be.

Answer 7

you know what?.......if you kill yourself now, hiow are you gonna be able to see what happenes to you if you dont kill yourself and get older and your mind changes?......I've been where you are, I had almost a million bucks, had a great wife, a drug habit I could afford and did,......had houses and a store of my own in a quaint little town in Texas and yet that was all yesterday and I love being able to look back on it and see all the screwups and all the great things that happened, my two wonderful kids who still need me even if one of them hates my guts (her mom's doings I'm sure).....I can walk outside my ranshackeled old trailerhouse here in Oregon at age 49 and look at the trees and wonder why they chose there to grow?......I can look down and see a single blade of grass and ask myself,.."if I step on this blade of grass, will it spring back up and still be alive?"........then I can wonder what's for dinner and fantasize about hot buttered cornbread & bar b que or even watch football or some stupid movie on t.v.
Ok enough of the philosophic bull,.......there's no way I can stop you from killing yourself , I dont even know where you live but the odds say that the sun will rise tomorrow and it will rise on you as a living soul and even though I dont know you, I'm glad you're alive. and if you do kill yourself, you'll just end up being a demographic number likie the rest of the people who kill themselves. it's your choice to live and give or say "bye" and die.......is that any help at all or do you think I'm full of crap?...........cuz alot of people think I'm ful of it and I'm not without my faults.

Answer 8

If someone really wants to die there is nothing I could really do about it, I know this from experience. I have felt that way, waking up every morning & just really not wanting to be here. I would not offer you empty platitudes of it will pass etc. None of that ever helped me. I could tell you now what finally did help me but I know when I was feeling this way your solutions usually just made me angry. I guess I would just try to listen if you wanted to talk, really listen. Solutions from others are not what someone looks for, they know them all. But somtimes someone willing to just sit with me in silence & shut up or listen when I was ready was helpful. I think mostly I just wanted someone to see me, to not feel invisible or alone.And possibilty know that someone cared, not the cold, sterile caring because it's your job, but cared on a personal level. I am anything but simple minded myself & I don't like to be talked down to. Ultimately you have all the power in this decision, & I am truly sorry that you find yourself here, I really hope we hear from you again. If I can help, I am willing.

Answer 9

I'd say get thee to a doctor for it could be as simple as an imbalance. A remedy as simple as a pill a day. I might tell you the pain is overwhelming now but people in worse positions pulled through to see a better, happier day. Then I'd say don't burden yourself by trying to take your heavy weights alone. Then I'd finish by saying you still have work to do before your time is up. Complete the work first.

Answer 10

Well, this is a serious question. If you called me telling me something like this. I would try and get you to remember all of your favorite childhood memories. Good times you spent with friends and family. While you caught up in the moment I would pick up my cell phone and call 911. To get you some medical attention. Then I would try and get you to think of all the things you would like to do, that you haven't done yet. Depending on how seriously ill you are, I may make you a deal. That I'll take you to any country, city, or state you would like to visit, and when you get out of the mental hospital, I'll take you there.

Answer 11

I wouldnt tell u anything. Im not you. But I can tell you Ive thought about doing it myself....and an odd thing seems to happen. I change my mind...because the next day just happened to be better for whatever reason. But its still an intriguing question amongst the many other questions that can be summoned upon, in this strange existence.