My husband lies to me about several things, controls all money, and gives me loads of grief because we have lots of cats. He says he purposely stays away simply because of them (lame excuse). He works for himself and puts that above all else. Even though he is working so hard, since May he has paid 2 phone bills & 1 light bill. My house that my Mom gave us is now in serious jeporady of being foreclosed. I found out he was keeping crap from me again and told him that was it, I was done. Now he is coming around acting like it was just a fight and like nothing ever happened. That is his way. I sort of want to work things out, but I am tired of going through this and I can not believe a word he says. It makes it worse for him to act like nothing ever happened. I have tried at least 100 times to talk to him, and he ignores me or just says I am b_tching.
I don't know that I can handle anymore roller coaster's with him, yet I love him. So Yahooer's what do I do?????
2007-10-21 14:24:15 · 9 answers · asked by tonyer71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you cannot believe anything he says AND he hasn't been paying the bills, throw him out! YOUR mom gave you all a house to live in, what more does he think he deserves? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not someone just participating when they feel like it.
2007-10-21 14:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you should tell him to pay the bills before you are both on the streets and second if the cats are a problem then you could get rid of some of them. If he lies and you can't trust him then your relationship will never be anymore than it is right now. If you are feeling trapped and can't let him go because of the $$$ then you need to work on relationship or get out and look for a job so you can gain some independance.
2007-10-21 21:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he puts himself before all else, it may be time to introduce the counselors. As the owner of the house, it may be wise to move to a less expensive home before you end up in over your head on a house payment that only you want a part of. He sounds like someone trying to find any reason to make you the "bad guy" and get sympathy. If he truly loves you back, he will sit down with you and have an adult conversation about the finances and what can be done to correct this situation. If he can't do that for you, maybe it's time for him to move out.
2007-10-21 21:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by ABQmommy2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my first husband. I know the frustration. Life is far too short to live that way. Try and holdd on to the house your mom gave you. platter. Marriage is about honesty and trust. He is never going to stop his lies. So stop for a moment and ask yourself, what it is that you really want from life.
If it is not the life he can give you then end it and move on. Go and find your peace and happiness and real love somewhere else.
Everybody deserves to be happy. It is a hard path to take but it gets a little easier with time.
Good luck and stay strong.
2007-10-21 21:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger Lily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I think we are married to the same man. I have made a decision that enough is enough....... I think the constant lies have caused mistrust that will never go away. I wonder where his money is going if he's working so much and not paying for anything, is there another woman too?
Somehow you have to develop the self respect to say enough is enough. So do I. Good luck
2007-10-21 21:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by itsjust me123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you already know the answer in your head but your heart is a whole nother matter.you know the patteren he has created,the excuses he has made and all that goes with it. so now you must decide if living your life with this man is worth what you are going through if you are sure he will not change and how much are you going to loose before it ends.good luck in your choices
2007-10-21 21:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of those cats and your husband might want to come home. evidently you are so used to the smell it dont bother you, but your husband is out all day and his nose is clear, so wake up and smell the cat crap
2007-10-22 08:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love??
2007-10-21 21:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by muffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where can I find dumb women like you?
2007-10-21 22:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by optitkl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋