LADIES: Ok... so what is confidence? Is it when the man acts like a manly man and not feminine?

Question

... then that must mean ladies who prefer confidence in a man want to be taken under his wing and be taken care of. Agree?

Then you got to admit that the man has more power in this situation.

Equality kills this very same structure dont you think?

mrscaptainnevysilver: lol.

Answer 1

I would rather go out with a confident, manly man than one who is not. Effeminate men are a turn off.

Answer 2

Confidence is the ability to read a womans emotions and to act on them. If she is sending signals that she wants to be with you, you better step up and notice that and do your part.

If you go on a date with a woman and you act afraid and are unwilling to make a move even when your chance of success is obvious then she will put you in the friend zone.

Guys have a tendency to want to try to change this particular dynamic by saying that women act harshly when they reject men who are aggressive. This is a result of the guy seeing something that wasn't there and it's one of those things that will always be present and at times you will fail. The question is still open as to whether women sometimes set men up to make a move so they can reject them. This does happen and it's usually with a certain type of woman that has been damaged by other men in their past.(the statistics on child abuse,molestation and rape are high which would explain strippers).

For the second part of your question the answer is yes and no. Yes a man has more power ECONOMICALLY if he is the bread winner in a relationship. This is a power that a man should never even consider using. The reason is because a woman provides her time doing things that make a mans life easier and more fulfilling in these situations. Usually she'll clean and cook and take care of your children. So using your power of money is an enormous breach of trust no matter how a woman acts. In these situations you don't own your money and neither does she. The money becomes your family money. You take from the family money to buy things and then it belongs to you.

Even if she doesn't take care of your children you don't have more power. If you love her then she is more valuable than money. You can replace her but it's not like buying a new television. She's a unique and special person and when you come home and she gives you a big hug because she feels safe and warm in your home that's priceless. The world is a tough place and if you can make a woman feel like you will take her fear away and that you will protect her from harm no matter what happens,the feelings and love you will get will keep you toghether forever.

Instead of being worried about who has more power or what she has to do just worry about you. If you try your hardest to really give love to a woman it's not something that you put on a scoreboard. It isn't about doing something then pointing to it so you can persuade her do what you want. You do it because her happiness is more important then your happiness. When you have that concept in mind and actually mean it you'll find that everything you need you will get and a lot of the things you want.

Answer 3

Human behavior has a wide, wide range. There are TWO things that are exclusively "womanly"--breastfeeding and surrogate childbearing. There is ONE thing that is exclusively "manly." Sperm donor. Sexual orientation is A PART OF your personality. Some gay men are more "feminine" than most hetero men. Many are not. Some lesbians are very "masculine." Many are not. Same for bisexuals. Most HUMAN BEINGS have many "masculine" qualities and many "feminine" qualities. My very het brother-in-law is a mush for animals in trouble. He's pretty quiet and undemonstrative with most people but show him a kitten or puppy and he's Papa Bear. I'm female, but if anybody condescends to me they'll find out really quick that I'm not a little girl looking for guidance from Daddy... Don't be so hung up on gender roles. Just accept people as they are.

Answer 4

A confident man is probably a "manly man" a lot of the time, but has he confidence to act feminine without worrying that it will hurt the way people see him.

Answer 5

Sometimes. Other times it takes confidence to allow someone else to make a decision. Control freaks are often that way as a result of lack of confidence. By being out of control they cannot predict what will happen and insure it will happen in a way they want it to.

Obviously you have to both take charge and let others take charge as well. In an equal partnership the person who is more talented, has more skills or is more successful in that area would take charge.

My husband knows WAY more than I do about cars (if it involves more than checking the oil I am clueless), so he takes care of our cars.
I have a natural ability to remember dates, so I make sure that friends and family get birthday, anniversary, Christmas, etc. presents in time as well as what we are to do and when.

I could list 100 more examples. But in the end he takes charge when we do something that involved his strengths and I take charge when it involves mine.

Answer 6

Confidence per se is that part of ones personality which presents to others as being able to cope in whatever social or emotional setting one finds oneself in.
The ability to speak the words.
To be able to feel at home in any social setting.
Most confident people I know have an effortless ability to do this.
Other less confident people find this amazing.
Confidence can be taught.
Over here in The UK if you are fortunate to attend a top school confidence is instilled in you from the age of 11years; hence by the time you leave to attend university at 18 years you know how to carry yourself in any situation.
At my school we were taught how to be confident both girls and boys.

Answer 7

A man can act like a manly man without resorting to "machismo", which is silly and immature. If a man is secure with his masculinity, he doesn't need to constantly prove himself by acting all tough just to prove his manhood.

Answer 8

Confidence means applying your own values and principles in choosing who and what to be and if women appreciate that, so be it. If not, it means being able to stand alone.

And what people prefer sexually has no bearing on the moral imperative of equal protection under the law, equal opportunity, etc.

EDIT

I wonder if it's the feminists thumbs down for saying a man should listen to his own values and not women's preferences or the anti-fems for saying this has nothing to do with the issue of justice under the law?

Answer 9

Many women consider a man that has confidence as one who minds his manners and is a gentlemen; in doing so I believe men are treated well which in turn he exudes confidence.

Answer 10

In the same token it's like saying a confident woman doesn't need feminism; she follows her own path. Spots on in what you said now come and watch them rip it for all its worth.