why are some little kids so mean?

Question

I have a little brother. Theres nothing wrong with him and he looks ok. He's only in the 2nd grade. Then one day he showed me the girl he liked. I told him to talk to her. He then said "no I'm too ugly" I wondered why. Then I see him play with another kid and he always calls him butt head and ugly. Does the little kid mean it or is he just trying to be mean. I don't see how a little kid can just tell if someone is ugly unless they are deformed. And why are some little kids so mean and do this?

Answer 1

Kids try things out and if rewarded keep doing it. If you call another kid a name and they react it will make it fun to do again.
If the kid is instead caught and punished he might not do it again.
My niece cut the boy next door's hair when they were 5. Then she told him they were going on vacation and he couldn't come because where they were going they didn't like ugly bald boys.
My brothers and I would hunt for snakes under rocks. I never let on that I didn't want to actually catch a snake, I knew if they thought I didn't like them they would give me one. Not reacting is the best defense.

Answer 2

Well some little kids are mean because they are honest, so when they see people, they say the truth, and people see it as them being mean.
But if they are the same age, its probably because he's growing up and we are living in a world where everything is about looks. And although at that age, noone really knows what hot is, they just say it because they see everyone around them using the word. He probably feels like he's cool because he's making your little brother feel bad. You should teach your little brother how to deffend himself, and I don't mean in a physical way. I mean emotionally, if he lets other guys pick on him, his childhood is not going to be very happy... and why do we want that?
When I was around 11, I used to let people pick on me, and now that's the way I think of my childhood, got picked on, had a low self esteem, don't really have "memories" I would want to share with other people. I dont know you or your little brother but that's not something I want for anyone.. because when you're going through it, it sucksss.

Answer 3

Probably because his parents aren't bringing him up right. OR if he's two Im sure the other little one isnt far from him. You know how they say age 2 is called "trouble Twos". Otherwise maybe he's just miserable but then again I dont think a 2 yr old can be miserable. Maybe try talking to the kid or to his parents. I feel bad for your little brother. Im sure he's adorable.

Answer 4

Lack of home training or a dysfunctional and verbally abusive household is where children learn to be mean.

Don't encourage the "romantic" notions of a 2nd grader. Tell him you are sure the little girl would probably like to be his friend and leave it at that.

Answer 5

its called parents not doing their job.Kids watch to much tv and pic that kind of behavior up from it.I guess people have forgotten our lives are not sitcoms and that we are real people with real feelings that get hurt.next time tell that other kid he is being mean and owes your brother an apology.Ask him how he would like it if he was the one being called names.Dont be mean yourself just ask him in a matter of fact type manner.....

Answer 6

People need to be taught to be nice. And if they are surrounded by a lot of name calling, or get called a lot of names themselves, they will attempt to elevate themselves around others by calling them names as well.

Answer 7

Kids usually mimic their parents. If their parents are mean and insecure, this is the behavior they act out.

Answer 8

kids dont really have their morals defined at that age..that is why it is important to punish them when they are doing something wrong, and praise them when they do something good. Be a good role model and explain to your bro why what he is doing is bad.

Answer 9

They are just "little kids". Eventually they'll grow up.

Answer 10

Because their parents are too lazy to correct them.