ok me and my exfiance just decided to go our seprate ways . Im in a new relationship and living with my new boyfriend. Well i have a 4 year old son and me and his father have joint custody of him . He gets him every weekend friday till sunday . The problem here is every time he comes back he dont want nothing to do with me and he crys till he goes to bed . I just dont know how to deal with this problem im a young 22 year old mother and i need some advice how to deal with this situation please help.
2007-10-21 13:00:08 · 5 answers · asked by bunnieboo2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Plan to take him to do something fun when he comes home that first day... for instance, build a routine of stopping by a park on the way home, or going out for ice cream.. something that he looks forward to when it's his day to come home.. at 4, transitions are very hard and frustrating. Just understand he loves you too and is just having a hard time missing his dad too. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, just fun and with special mommy time.
2007-10-21 13:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with dear dad and tell him to quit slamming you to your son or you will take him back to court and have custody changed limiting his visits to supervised with no overnights, and/or youllsue him in court for slander and defamation of character. You can also tell him you have contacted a legal officialand this is what he advised before filing an injunction in the courts. He doesnt need to know any names or titles other than you have contacted a legal official of the courts and that should stop his games. Please contact me if I can be of further assistance
2007-10-21 20:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son why is he crying?
If he says because he misses his father, explain to him that it's your turn to see him and he should be happy to see you because you really missed him. Ask him to show you some stuff that he did over the weekend that he enjoyed and ask him to talk to you about his weekend.
Give him a paper and some crayons and tell him to draw his favorite part of the weekend.
Then, he can still reminisce on his weekend with his father and hopefully be occupied with drawing it and talking about it that he wont actually be sad.
2007-10-21 20:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same spot 2 years ago.I just sat down with my little boy ,told him why me ,and his father couldn't be together.That work for me. Yes he had alot of questions I could not answer then ,but now that he is older he under stands.good luck
2007-10-21 20:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by amanda f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he just misses his dad becuase its hard on kids. u should tlak to him and ask what has happened. maybe its the new bf. talk ot him before he wants to get further from u. goood luck!
2007-10-21 20:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋