Should I Be Mad and Get Him Out Of My Life?

Question

I have a friend who just got his first boyfriend after recently coming out and I want to be happy for him but I wasn't ever because they just met and his boyfriend is annoying so i assumed this kid was shallow{no lie their first convorsation started by him saying "i like you" how can you like someone you've never talked to?} so i didn't make an effort to be his friend and tried to hide how i felt.
One day I was on AIM and me and my friend were talking and we havn't talked in a while and he was like i got to go i'm going to my boyfriend's house and i'm like "come on stay and talk to me" and he was like "no i'll call you from his house" and i was like "don't bother."this is where he started to realize{reolize?} i didn't like his boyfriend.
so he asked me{if i liked him} and i didn't answer.he got his boyfriend to ask me and i didn't wanna answer.

So later that day on AIM his boyfriend was like "hey Nana"{my nickname} "can we talk?" and i said "im horribly busy" n he gos "wow, rude *****"{a female dog}out of the blue. so i was like whatever. so later we had a huge arguement{me n the boyfriend} and he ended up telling me i was a *****{female dog}, that noone likes or me whatever, that i was a coward etc, etc, and he got me so mad i almost told him that my friend is only going out with him out of desperation.
So i went on Myspace and i told my friend to choose because i'm not dealing with some fake{he pretended to accually want to bb my friend} spoiled {he tries to force things and gets mad when it don't work} and shallow {you can't fall in love in a week} dude.
Guess who my friend chose. I've known this kid 4 over a year, he's known his boyfriend 4 3 weeks

o and also my friends a lying hypocrite. he hates when people put the day they started going out with someone on their myspace, he hates when people post about how there in love, he hates when people say i love you and dont mean it, he hates when people put pictures of them making out with someone on their page and now he's doing it

and he told me he didn't have a phone and he lied because his boyfriend can call him fine and he can get rides to his house no problem
i had to get a new cat to get my friend 2 come over.

**nite: some of you answered before i was finished with the situation. i had to retype it because i dont like people complaining about how i type in "teen" so those who called me immature get over yourself because im really looking for help and your answers were immature. i dont have to grow up, this is serious. thank you to those who took me seriously and didnt judge me like that.

excuse me captian s i am gay thank you

u guys still dont get it!!! he told me that he was WILLING TO THROW AWAY ANY FRIENDSHIPS TO MAKE IT WORK WITH HIS BOYFRIEND. im not jealous im hurt that he would even.

im a little hurt...well alot...this happens so much to me...whenever my friends get a boyfriend/girlfriend they tend to throw me away.............

Answer 1

i think you should just talk to your friend about how your feeling how you feel he's ditched you for this new boyfriend if he's a true friend he'll be understanding if not maybe he's not as good a friend as you thought he will realize his mistake if they break up but don't let him walk all over you if this happens make sure he know he's wrong!1
This happened and is happening with me and some friends so i know how your feeling its quite the crap so try sort it out asap
good luck xx

Answer 2

I don't understand your reaction. You're not gay and you've never had to cope with the complexities associated with "coming out". I don't profess to understand it either, but it stands to reason it's not the conventional circumstance most folks encounter. So if that's true, it must also be true that developing relationships might involve nuances you and I are unfamiliar with. So, why would you expect his journey to follow a path you would accept and approve of instead of following parameters suited to him (them)? I'm not trying to sell you on the lifestyle, but if you're his friend, BE his friend by letting him be who he is, however that's accomplished.
If you'll permit the observation, you seem jealous...maybe a bit resentful of this new person that's coming between you and your friend and in some ways taking him away from you. If that's true, don't feel bad. That's at least an honest reaction to the situation that makes some sense. Ironically, an assertion like that to your friend would be more appreciated and well-received than all that other stuff you said, (and it's probably closer to the truth).

Answer 3

Just let him go. It's been an awkward time in his life. I am sure they are not going to get married or spend the rest of their lives together. It's his first boyfriend. Remember ur dirt b/f? He prob. wasn't that great. It's kinda seeing what guy u like and finding what u want in a relationship. You will be there for him when this boy is no longer around. . Try to hang w/ other people when he is w/ his b/f. They should have time together.

Answer 4

You just need to get used to him and if it makes your friend happy being with him then let him be.

It happened to me (i'm straight) by best friend since 1st grade has been gay since well this year (were sophomores) and his boyfriend (junior) is kinda shallow.

me, my girlfriend and him and his bf were on a double date and that was THEIR first date (i am asuming they have never talked much before)

so he just kept telling him "I love you"

he WOULD'NT hold his hand at the Mall (Sacramento, CA mall if you know that mall)

so thats when i relized that he didn't really love/like him

ummmm..yea

just wait it out

if you think that your friend will get mad at you and stop talking to you, don't tell him. if he is just using ur frend then your friend will learn the hard way. sure he might be on the phone with you for

about 2 hours at a time (epp, that happened to me i didnt' really care because i don't really see that way)

or you can tell him, risk your guys' friendship and then he will find out you were right to begin with from the beginning

well

i kinda hope this helps...

BYE!

Answer 5

Of course, i don't know your friend's new boyfriend, but it seems like your friend likes him, and that should be some thing for you to consider. My point is that he may be annoying to you, but is this new guy worth you losing your friend over? I know, it sucks that you dont like him, and you don't want to like him, but you don't have to as long as you are civil when he is around as a show of respect for your friend.
Could it be that you may be jealous of the new boyfriend because you now have to share your friend's attention? If you are, that's fine, you are only human, but you need to recognize it so that you can deal with it before you become too unhappy. Good luck.

Answer 6

I lost a great friend cause she knew how much i hate her bf and I argued her about him all the time - I can understand both mine (he was a f*ck to her and I wanted her to be happy + I was jealous she spent way more time with idiot like him than with me who she knew for 5yrs before all that) and her (I was her friend not spiritual guide and it was unfair of me to stick my nose to her own business) point of view but she ment a lot to me so that's probably why now I regret a bit cause I got her out of my life...So I advice you not to go there if you care about him as a friend.
PS.maybe you don't know that guy that good not to like him?You wrote "...so i didn't make an effort to be his friend"

Answer 7

My only advice to you is his boyfriends will come and go; you may like some, you may hate some for various reasons. What matters is that you are there for him through whatever heartache or joy he may experience. To me that's what a friend is. It's not easy to be that friend, but I have done it many of times when I did not like the boyfriend/husband.

Answer 8

Grow up, you obviously are jealous, you mightn't think so, but actions speak louder than words, you can fall in love within a week, when i was 38, i met my soul mate, we confessed our love to each other on day 2, said we were soul mates on day 3, and within a week, he had moved in, 5 years later, we've been happily married for 3.5 years, and still as in love as when we met, If you really are friends with this guy, you should try and get on with his boyfriend for your friends sake, so he shouldn't have to choose between you, A REAL FRIEND, would bide their time, and let their mate find out for themselves if this boyfriend is not right for him, Be supportive and think of your friend's feelings, how hard would it be to come out, he's found a guy that likes him, let him explore this relationship and let him find out for himself if he's THE ONE! If and when this relationship fails, if you've stuck by your friend, you will be there to pick up the pieces when and if this relationship fails. So go on be a TRUE FRIEND, explain nicely that yea, you don't really get on with the boyfriend, but you are not going out with him, so you'll stay friends but prefer to see your mate alone, "but i will try and get on with him for your sake, we're mates and we'll work this out". Go on give it a try, your friend will love you more, and hey in time you might like this boyfriend, if not, be nice for your FRIEND.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

If you don't like your friends boyfriend tell him, its most likely gonna be your job in the future to snag the nice catches for him seeing as you know more about dating boys then he would.