2007-10-21 10:44:53 · 11 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All of the above, plus..makes you feel you're not good enough, looking at other women...comparing you to every other woman he knows...
2007-10-21 23:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even think you might be in an abusive relationship get out now. Jealousy and control are some big issues in abusive relationships. Basically any relationship you are in that does allow you to be yourself you should get out of. There are better things in life and much better people. Do not settle. You are worth more than that and deserve to be loved in a good way.
2007-10-21 17:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mmgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but one of my now more distant friends is sort of in one. I'll give you some big red flags.
For one, the guy graduated like 2 years ago, when we were sophomores. He had a girlfriend who went to our school.
They broke up at some point, and he became suicidal.
And then I guess his parents put him a mental hospital for a while.
Then he was working at a Blockbuster, and went out with a girl he just met, and was engaged to her within a month(or 3 month, I forget). He got her pregnant but she had an abortion.
Not to mention he smokes and I'm sure he drinks.
My friend used to abide by the rules and she doesn't like smoking or anything. She was way into her religion and all this stuff.
Since seeing him(idk what the deal between them is..She doesn't tell me) she's become hostile towards her mom, finds ways to sneak off to him since her mom doesn't like him, ditches me and my close friend to go spend time with him.
He's SUCH a bad influence and she will not listen to us. She's heading towards a dead end.
Defiantly not physically abusive, maybe it's not abusive at all, but it's not good, not in my eyes
2007-10-21 17:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! There are different kinds of abuse; physical,verbal and mental. All is just as bad. So, I'm not sure which applies to your situation.
My situation was physical. Red Flags: Jealousy then, came physical abuse. I caught him lying and see his baby mama behind my back, whom he told me wasn't his child.There was evidence one thing after another. I toke me left about three years before I left my husband. I been in a women shelter and you can make up every excuse to stay in the relationship. But, you have to want better for yourself. You can't change anyone. Get out! before something bad happen to you. Like your life!
2007-10-21 18:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by colormelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- very controlling
- poor communicator
- insecure and overly concerned with what other people think of him
- emotionally unstable
- self-centered, thinks most of the time in terms of himself
- he seems anxious, nervous and "unbalanced" a lot of the time
- he flies into fits of jealousy or anger
- more "traditional" ideas about women, thinks his gf/wife should be obedient and submissive to him.
- wants her totally dependent on him. Tries to keep her from her family/friends, having freedom on her own (car, her own income, her own property, credit cards he doesn't control).
- if you observe him exploding over little things, or losing his temper and going ballistic on his own family & friends, or strangers.
- if he puts you down verbally, like tries to cut down your confidence and self-esteem with little comments and insults
- if he grew up in an abusive home himself. then that is his model for how a relationship ought to be...
- if he is very physical in his anger (hits things, throws things, kicks a pet, breaks things to show how mad he is)
- if he abuses alcohol or drugs (makes abusive behavior worse)
- if he ever threatens you
- if he has a history of being abusive (not just police/criminal records..ask his family and friends if he was ever violent)
2007-10-21 18:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by kallista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jealousy, controlling, seems to be watching every thing u do or say. finds fault, name calls, hits, destroys your things, shows no respect for u, insults u alone and in front of others, demands sex and not in a nice way.jealous feels his needs will not get met, tries to separate u from friends and family, threatens u with different things, controls all of the money, and won't let u have any. accuses u of cheating, just makes your life miserable in every way.
2007-10-21 18:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His relationship with his family (especially females) his realtionships at work, past gfs. controlling behavior, forcing sex. Abusers can only behave for just so long, then the real stuff comes out and it only escalates. GET OUT!
2007-10-21 18:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting, screaming abusive words, I heard it all for 31 years, got the balls to file for a divorce.
2007-10-21 17:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
controlling and overbearing, always want to be on top of what you are doing. dont want you with anyone else, some even try and keep you from family. throwing things, breaking things... eventually could escalate to pushing and it goes from there. get out now if the signs are there. I know you love him, but he wont change
2007-10-21 17:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY controlling.........needing to know where you are at at all times. Calling 24/7 getting mad because your spending time with your friends instead of them. Not returning their calls right away. Good Luck to you.
2007-10-21 17:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by collie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋