kay im 14 and this is my first year of high school. i feel my best friend is trying to replace me. we'v been best friends since the 7th grade and now theres this girl that she hangs out with and invited to our tradicional friday night sleep over. it sounds lame but its always been us and now i feel like the third wheel. plus they bought the same diarys and do everything together this sounds really imachure but i dont want to loose my best friend and dont no what to do about it.
2007-10-21 10:09:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This can happen in high school even to people have been best friends since kindergarten. Just make other friends, still hang out with your old friend. But you need more than one friend, which you probably have. Maybe you should talk to her about it but it might be perceived as jealousy.
My best friend (i mean we did everything together) through elementary, junior high, and high school got married the fall after graduation and i wasn't even a bridesmaid (it sounds immature but i cried) but i was still happy for her. (a couple of the bridesmaids she doesn't even talk to at all or know even where they are) but I don't really talk to her that much anymore either different states/ different lifestyles, as sad as it may be that is life.
2007-10-21 10:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by littlemisscontroverse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in high school now.
Your friends will change.... and sad to say, maybe your best friend is to.
I'm a senior in high school now, and I have a totally different group of friends from when I first entered the high school era.
Its not that me and my bff's didn't like each other anymore, we just became different.
If your best friend is hanging out with somebody else, its normal to be a little jealous. You should take this as an opportunity to make new friends.... maybe instead of it being your traditional sleep over with you and her, you could invite a new friend and she could invite hers.
Thats what I did when my best friend started hanging out with new people and we're still best friends, we've just expanded our friendship circle. :]
2007-10-21 17:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jaycee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be, but at 14, that is just the way things go.
YOU don't sound as immature as they do. You could just straight out ask her what the hell is happening, but she will probably not be honest with you.
The one thing is, if she is that fickle, she will soon move on. Is this the kind of friend you want?
Just be steady, and think hard about the nature of friendship. Be a good friend to all, and if you still want to be friends with her when she gets tired of this one, promise that you will not treat her or anyone else badly.
Good luck. Teenage years are hard. Sorry.
2007-10-21 17:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that sucks. It sort of sounds like you are. You can talk with her about it because maybe that's not the case. I had two best friends in high school & all 3 of us hung out for 2 years. Then things blew up & they remained friends. It happens, what can I say? If it is the case, then join some other groups and make new friends. Unfortunately they tend to come & go...
Best of luck!
2007-10-21 17:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Brittae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set her down and tell her, let her know how you are feeling and what your friendship has meant to you all these years.. Just be honest with her and be kind when you talk with her about it ... Good luck. Remember one thing there are others out there that might need a friend to, who knows this might be happening so you will be free the make a new friend that need someone in there life, things happen for a reason....
2007-10-21 17:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by ynot_chas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she is trying to replace you if you guys are still hanging out together it sounds like your friend is just trying to add more people to your social group This happens when you start high school you meet more people and start hanging about in groups and try new things. I wouldnt worry about it if you do obsess over it you will only push them closer together just be yourself and if they dont like it then they aren't very good friends are they I would look for new friends
2007-10-21 17:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, at your age we look for only one best friend. She might find this other girl more interesting. Friendships should develop with common interests. You can't own a person, and that is what most of us think. I have a best friend, she is mine, I am dating this guy, he belongs to me. It's our nature to attach ourselves to one person. If however, we decide that there are more people out there that we share a common interest with, then we would have more people we can associate with and make more friends. Try that, and don't just hang onto one person. Good luck
2007-10-21 17:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by dear_vern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you like this new girl? It could be that she just likes this other girl and wants to be friends with her too... Always give someone the benefit of the doubt... And if it gets worse and she stops inviting you to things, then confront her about it.
2007-10-21 17:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Romocop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school is rough, but heres the thing
theres literally billions of people out there. one friend is no big deal, high school is a place to meet and get along with new people. most likely she's not replacing you, but if she is, dont think too much about it.
2007-10-21 17:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean the same thing happened to me. I don't think she is trying to replace you she is just making new friends. and if you refuse to be her friend then she will really miss you. I bet she still thinks you and her r still real tight.
2007-10-21 17:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by brandi_richcheer14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋