On our anniversary after being bestfriends few years before getting into love physical relationship with my best friend would like to make sure this relationship has future.I want to know if he plans to marry me sometime in near future sees me as being wife and mother to his kids when time comes.Please give me few questions i can casually ask him so i can know if we turn our relationship from best friends to lovers we have future will get married someday or dont want love relationship with physical intimacy being virgin ruining friendship of years.
2007-10-21 10:07:48 · 4 answers · asked by earthworldsky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you know someone as friends its very different knowing someone as lovers even though being best friends for years.
Love-First is there unconditional love between you two as friends and lovers to get you through everything and everyone
What if tomorrow one of you had an accident or one of you were sick would there be love and unconditionally for eachother
Finances-Are you both financially sound that you both can help eachother when time comes or do you act like two separate entities when it comes to finances.
Trust-Do you two trust eachother that everyone cant come between you two or can any person come in between change your opinion between both of you cause problems etc.Trust is very important that no matter what you two trust eachother.
Compatibility mentally physically emotionally are you both compatible mentally emotionally without any issues problems from past relationships with family friends relatives or compatible in bed sexually even being virgin after marriage its important that you two love everything about eachother.
A man just like a woman should be true loyal to his lady does he make things official engagement marriage without having commitment issues does it make it official in front of the world or does he live two lives one for the world and one between both of you.His loyalty and character must be excellent like if between your relatives or friends or everyone around you if he had to take someones word for something would it be yours or theirs thats loyalty and characterwise if you two were together does he cheat or does he go behind your back or does he want something more like female friends or does he flirt if no then hes the man to marry.
For marriage two people should be so in love so committed so there for eachother that through everything you two have to life life together by choice because you two love eachother.
All these things are important in marriage as well being parents.
2007-10-22 02:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after sorting out what you were trying to say, I think that you need to understand that love isn't enough. You have to KNOW what his character is. I would say date like you are going to marry him....that means you ask him to show you ALL of his financial documents...you need to know that he always pays his bills on time, and that he has enough money to put some away each month, and that he isn't just wasting it on stuff. Does he hold a good job or does he job hop? Does he make enough that when you do have kids you can stay home with them? Does he want you to stay home with the kids? How many kids does he want/how many do you want?
Get on the same page with everything that is important to you before you make a committment....have you already slept with him? It was hard to gather from your answer, but I hope you haven't. If you both have the same goals in life, then giving him the gift of being pure on your wedding night will be the greatest gift you can give a man.
Ask him to take you to church so you can see his relationship with God. If he doesn't go to church, you better be sure you are ok with that when you have a family and you want them to learn about god, and he doesn't go with you and you start resenting him.
Are you ok with his lifestyle? Does he drink and smoke? Does he party alot or does he enjoy being at home? How does he treat his mom and sisters ALL the time? You know how a man will treat his wife based on how he treats his mom. It is VERY true.
None of these things will change just because you get married and you need to know that if you marry him knowing how he is and you do it anyway, you have no right to complain about anything.
I know that seems harsh, but I got married at 18 and was way too young to even see that as a priority and as a result, 17 years later and divorced, I am really struggling to sort out my finances. He never paid a bill on time and never taught me how to save money or how to live on a budget. He never had a steady job, and he was verbally abusive and had a bad addiction that I would have known about had I been older OR taken more time to get to know him.
2007-10-21 17:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask casual questions. Have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him exactly how you feel and what you want from him. Don't play games. Be open and honest. If that ruins the relationship, then look for someone you can be that way with who loves you as much as you love him.
2007-10-21 17:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly your best friend you should be able to have an open honest conversation with him about your future together..
2007-10-21 17:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by shorty081101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋