my daughters pregnant?

Question

my daughters 15 and shes just told me shes pregnant. i don't know what to do ?
help x

and its so hard because i had my first child at 15. and i always wanted better for her,

Answer 1

First off don't turn your back on her. Love her.
Tell her that you two will figure it out. Find out if she has told the father. If not get a positive test and then you and she should go over to his house and tell him and his parents the situation.
Second--tomorrow morning call an OB and make an appointment. I would recommend a mid-wife. They tend to be less judgemental.
Third---go to the nearest WIC office and get her signed up for that.
Fourth if you can't afford insurance for her and the baby go to the nearest DJFS and get her signed up for a medical card to cover all the doctor vists.
Fifth--pray because you are going to need all the help you can get.
Don't get angry with her. Don't let her face this tough time without the love and support of her mom.
Good luck

Answer 2

My 18 year old daughter, still living at home, "surprised" us in January with the news that she was pregnant. The only thing you can do is accept it and make sure she's getting the medical care she should have during her pregnancy. It's time to start thinking high chair, playpen, crib, bottles, diapers, walker, car seat, etc. I know from experience the state of shock you must be in. Believe me, the shock will wear off and it won't be long until you start feeling excited about having a new baby in the house. Just think...your grandbaby! Go to the doctor with her and share in the joy as you hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time and see the ultra-sounds. It began to feel more 'real' to me after we found out the baby was a boy. He's four weeks old now, and I can't imagine life in this house without him. He is truly our little blessing. My daughter is a great mommy, and is handling her responsibilities well. Your daughter is younger, I know this isn't what you had planned or expected for her, but that baby is on its way! I helped with my daughter during the delivery, I watched my grandson come into this world and take his first breath, I cut the cord, and I can't begin to tell you what a totally awesome experience that was for me. I wouldn't trade it for anything in this world. Take some time to adjust to the fact that she's pregnant, and enjoy the entire pregnancy, labor and delivery. And you're gonna be on cloud nine when you hold the little darling in your arms! I wish you and your daughter and her baby the best of everything.

Answer 3

This is an unfortunate situation considering your daughter is so young, i suppose your daughter has to decide if she is going to raise the baby herself or put it up for adoption. After that she is going to need your support no matter what decision she makes, if she is keeping the baby you need to make sure she is responsible for her child and that you are only there to help.
This is exactly what happened with my cousin she had her baby at the age of 15 and now she is more interested in spending time with her boyfriend and her friends than what she is raising her daughter, bub is being raised by grandma. This has caused alot of confusion for bub as she isn't sure who mum is?
I wish you both the best of luck and even though your 15 yr old daughter was very irresponsible by getting pregnant its happened and you just need to support her and not bring her down because of it.

Answer 4

My sister got pregnant when she was 16 all my mom could do was support her in whatever decision she made. I would just say be there for your daughter and find the baby's father. If she wants to have the baby then she is almost old enough to get a job and support her child. Just have an open relationship because you don't want to push your daughter away.

Answer 5

Love your daughter unconditionally. She will need massive support, and although you may be angry, it will only hurt her. She knows you are upset.

Get with the boy's parents, and all need to make a plan. There will be a child, who will need everything your child needed. Since this is a case of children having children, you may have to take a teamwork approach, getting the two parents and as many of the responsible adults around to make a team to get a success in place.

Further, find other resources, too, of which there are plenty. If you are in the US, and she wants advice, help hook her up with Planned Parenthood, a responsible non-profit that can help her make good decisions. You may also be able to call 211 in your area for free referrals to service agencies for support.

Ultimately, since she is underage, you and her father can make some decisions for her, but to preserve the relationship, try to work things out with her reasonably. Do not despair, just get busy and stay positive.

Answer 6

If she knew what she was doing I would tell her to go through with the pregnancy give birth keep it or give it for adoption and if the father chooses not to step up and be a man of the actions that he took I’d get him for child support if he's legal to work! whatever you do just don't go through abortion with your daughter. I mean she’s fifteen right? She should of known better about getting pregnant at her age unless it was rape then it wouldn’t be her fault but if she kept on having unprotected sex then she needs to take responsibility and be a mother and so does the father. Just continue to be her mother and try to understand what she's going through. Pregnant teens and women need someone to be there for them through pregnancy some don't have that. Contact the other person's parents and make sure they really do something about it. If you need my advice or have any more questions email me through yahoo! answers.

Answer 7

I know it is probably really hard on you as you probably are dealing with so many emotions. But I am sure as many emotions that you are dealing with, she is dealing with even more. If I were you I would sit her down and really explain to her without getting angry that she made a mistake, and that she now needs to grow up and grow up fast. I do not know if you are for or against abortion, but I wouldn't force her into doing either or. She made the decision to have unprotected sex, and now she needs to make the decision on what she is going to do next. If this boy that she get pregnant by isn't going to be there for her, then even though its hard you are going to have to step in and be that support for her. Good Luck with everything!

Answer 8

I know this has got to be difficult, bu the two of you can get through this. I think you need to sit down and tell her about all the options available to her; or at least the ones you allow in you household. Hopefully you will GUIDE her to make the right decision for her, and not just tell her what to do. There are things you need to gently get her to open up to you about, though; Who the father is, what led her to her decision to have sex with him, why protection was not used, (you should definately cover the protection talk now) and ask her what she wants to do. By her coming to you, she is moreso looking for answers FROM you, so don't hesitate to talk to her about the truth of her situation. I wish you both the best, Blessings....

Answer 9

just love her and support her. dont put her down or make her feel like shes less of a person because of her situation.....everyone makes mistakes but love will get you through....i was a mother at 14, 16, 18, 20 and im expecting again.....i didnt have love and support from anyone so it made things very hard on me.....just be there for her because she may not show it all the time but shes scared and doesnt want to be a disappointment to you.

Answer 10

im 17 and just found out im pregnant and if your daughter is anything like me she will already feel like she has let you down. the only thing you can do is help her, guide her and be supportive however hard it may be for you.
she is going to need you as a mother more than ever at the moment.