okay... I have sometime to wait to see if I am pregnant, but if I am pregnant, with a family, that I swore to not to get pregnant, what should I tell me my mom and family if I am? If I am, I have let alot of ppl down, but those are my demons that I have to deal with. Please, help me, with how I should break this kinda of news to my family
2007-10-21 09:17:11 · 13 answers · asked by ◕‿◕ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First, you have to tell your parents. Just them, at first. And begin by telling them that you THINK you're pregnant. It gives them time to adjust to the fact a little before the reality lands on them when you tell them a few days later. They'll have time to think, without feeling like there is an emergency situation staring them in the face; and they'll react better if the news comes in parts.
No one is "let down" or "disappointed" by a family pregnancy, even an unplanned, and possibly, unwanted one. Granted, this is not the choice thy'd like for you to have made; but everyone makes mistakes, even life-altering ones. That doesn't necessarily mean the changes are all bad. You're going to be surprised to find that there will be some very positive changes come from this family crisis.
2007-10-22 07:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay ... I was there in your shoes about 5 years ago. I ended up pregnant and felt like I let a lot of people down, including myself. I had even signed one of those commitment cards not to have sex until I was married and gave it to my parents a year or so prior. But I was not careful and I ended up pregnant. My parents sorta just found out. And now, I wish I would have just been an adult and went to them and told them what happened. I wish I would have said "Mom, Dad, I have let you down, and I have let myself down. I am pregnant, but I am going to work through this and I hope I have your support." But I didn't. After my parents found out and got over their initial reaction and being totally pissed at me, everything was good. I have a great family and even though I did something that I maybe should have waited to do, I was still accepted and so was my daughter. I had a great boyfriend and he is now my husband and we have 2 children now. Everyone is human. We make mistakes. We screw up. But its not always a bad thing. I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter that I am thankful for. Don't give up on dreams. I had her in highschool and went on to graduate with honors and then on to college. You do what you have to and you move on. If your family is not supportive, find people that will support you and you continue to grow and achieve and prosper. And regardless of what you think, your life is not over, its just been changed!
2007-10-21 09:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by jas2mh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hi:: I advise which you've your infants make all their grandparents a card that publicizes i visit get a recent in 9 months!! i'd additionally attempt to have a bbq and make a exciting suprise annoucement, and tell everyone we've become 2 babies in some months!! i'd say to start up at the same time with your loved ones, then friends, on your friends can discover out in distinctive methods, you're transforming into some plant lifestyles on a table for dinner, one which is blue, crimson, yellow, and say what's it (our third) going to be?? I say have a exciting time and something you do is going to be great, for me: I had lost 2 pregnanices previously this one, and one become my twins at 12 weeks, I had my daughter tell her daddy, via carry interior the attempt, and asserting "Daddy i'm getting somewhat one, look!!:)" Then we gave out enjoying cards to the kinfolk throughout the mail, that suggested look who is going to be a huge sister, and the calls got here in!! SO any way is the the excellent option way!
2016-11-09 03:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are pregnant, and those people are related, but also tell them that although the people that they have issues with are involved, the baby is delicate and needs support when it grows up. It'll need care and understanding. Tell them to focus on the baby's health and feelings and not on their own personal opinions. What's done is done and the future is what they should be worried and focused about.
2007-10-21 10:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by DCD4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your family the truth, you cannot hide this for a long time. be easy when breaking it to them. your family will probably support you but whatever you do don't lie to them. honesty is the best policy!
2007-10-21 09:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by kutchigal2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth, no you cant say it was a accident because who has sex by accident?! Tell them the truth, and only the truth.
Good Luck!
2007-10-21 09:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
not much i can say. You do the crime you have to pay the time. basically you have sex when your not ready or fully sure about it you will pay for it one way or another. Sorry but ur best bet would talk to ur mother bout it.
2007-10-22 06:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you're pregnant. Your parents love you unconditionally. They'll be surprised but won't stop loving you.
2007-10-21 10:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by hungry_hipppo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, tell them you're pregnant...period.
2007-10-21 15:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that first answer is very ignorent!!! just tell em you had sex and were not protected and now your pregnant
2007-10-21 09:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by My Hubby Rob&Son Dakota Robert 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋