Gulity and homosexual.?

Question

I'm gay. I feel gulity. I believe in God.
And I also believe in the Bible.

People say it's what god made what it is but maybe it isn't. Maybe it's just rationalize ourselves. I don't what is true. It's matter of choice. Someone choose to believe it and someone don't.
And I decided to believe it.(Please don't say anyting about my choice. Gay cummunites are trying to say that people are different and we have right to choose about ourselves. So I have every right to make choice for myself.)

But that means I have to give up Sex, My own family, love... .Don't say I can't be straight that's impossible. It's not something you can change.


I'm really serious about it. Lately I'm thinking about surgical options. Like Remove my prostate And vasectomy. So I don't have to tempted. People are fragile to temptation. Is it bad idea? I don' want to have child.(I had bad childhood and I'm sure I'm gonna be a bad father. I probably abuse my children like my father.) What should I do?

Answer 1

The people who will tell you what you want to hear are the straight fundamentalists who hate us happy gays with a passion. You're seeking miserable gays who want to change. The problem is, most of us like ourselves, or at least don't hate this aspect of ourselves. By telling you that it's ok that you feel this way, it would be saying that there is something horribly wrong with us. I, for one, believe there is nothing wrong with me being gay. So I will not tell you that there is anything wrong with you.

Honestly, what you need is a neutral therapist. Not a christian therapist, not one who specializes in gay issues or any combination of these two specialties.

If you think you will be a bad father, don't have kids. If you don't have sex with women, you're not going to have to worry about surgeries.

Answer 2

You say "Please don't say anything about my choice. Gay communities are trying to say that people are different and we have right to choose about ourselves. So I have every right to make choice for myself."

You leave no option for input. I can tell you it's not a choice. I can tell you I believe in God, as do most people. I can tell you the Bible is a lot more vague than you have been led to believe. I can tell you that my God doesn't make mistakes.

But since you choose to ignore that input, you have left only the choices you outline. Remove your prostate, rip your balls off and join a monastery, and do it in the name of a misguided belief system if you are so inclined. But you do not have my sanction on it. And the choices you make will be entirely yours, because we would all try to stop you by enlightening you, if we can.

Then years from now, with your manhood destroyed, you will realize we were right all along. Do you want to take that chance?

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Go with it. Quit worrying. But be true to yourself. Don't lie to yourself so that you can believe the Bible. Do you really think God would ask you to do that?

If you want to change, there's no reason you can't try. BUT don't you dare get into a relationship with a woman, all the while knowing that you're attracted to men. Christ directly condemned adulterers and divorce alike. He never said anything about being gay.

Forget about surgical options. No ethical physician would agree to such a thing (Hippocratic Oath = First Do No Harm).

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 5

I'm sorry I don't really know what your asking? Are you saying that you are thinking about getting surgery so you won't be tempted? Wow that's very noble of you ,but a little costly & unneccessary.
We are all sinners. Even a just man sins 7 times a day. Its a sin for me to have unbridled sex with my husband. I know how it feels to be lost and not to know what direction to go, but I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I wonder what plan God has for you. I bet you must be pretty important if He doesn't want you to be tied down with a family. I understand the giving up sex part, but why do you have to give up your family & love. Love is God's greatest gift. I would like to know more, if you want to email me. [e-mail]

Answer 6

If the choice is between giving up sex and your sexuality and an oppressive religion, give up the religion. There are more tolerant religions around than fundamentalist Christianity. Find one that allows you you be yourself. You were born gay, you had no choice in the matter. No god is going to penalise you for doing something you were born to do. It is the god-botherers not the gods who don't like sex. Get away from the religions.

Answer 7

I am a closeted sixteen year old guy that is also a christian but I will never consider surgery. Your gonna have to accept yourself and have in faith in God. Remember you need to learn to love yourself for who you are. I been through stages of denial that were not fun at all and I realized I am who I am. If your that scared of your parents reaction stay in the closet until college or after so you can support yourself in case of a bad reaction.

Answer 8

Don't get a surgery. I'm straight and can control my sexual temptations, so can you. You just need to find a gay-Christan community, so you can be around other abstinent men. best wishes.

Answer 9

http://www.google.it/search?sourceid=navclient&hl=it&ie=UTF-8&rlz=1T4HPEB_itIT217IT218&q=gay+christians

this is a google research I did with the key words "gay christians": there is no need to give up on sex or to do surgery: being gay doesn't mean you can't be Christian :)

Answer 10

i to believe in god
but i don't fully agree with the bible
homosexuality is not a sin
god is the one who made us this way why should we pay for what he did to us?