I'm 31 yrs old and don't plan on getting married or having kids. Will I regret this when I'm older?

Answer 1

It will hit you in your late 30's early 40's. The hot 20 year old girls will look at that old Salty guy buying them drinks and laugh thinking ,,,,,,he really thinks he as a shot. Move on buddy. You can be a playboy for about 5-6 more years, then find one.

Answer 2

No one can tell you that. Some people at my age--53--are glad that they didn't. Others are sorry they did (although fewer admit it about kids than getting married). Some didn't do one or the other or both and wish they did. People as a whole in their early to mid-40's are probably more regretful about not having kids because many thought that they would and nature didn't cooperate when they (finally) decided they were ready.

I got married at 23, became a widow with 2 kids (5 and 9) at 37. Despite 3 degrees and a host of professional dreams, as it's turned out, those kids (now 21 and 25) are my greatest accomplishments. Although time and desire for more children have passed, I hope to marry again. Marriage provides excitement, security and satisfaction in a package that I haven't found elsewhere. My children were a challenge, but my values live in them and come through more fully in me because having little eyes and ears around forced me to lead a truly authentic life. In that sense, they made me a better person.

Answer 3

Yes. I have a dear best friend, who I met when she was exactly your age 31 and we have remained friends all through the years. She dated occasionally, but she has an attitude that turns off men in general. She is a great friend, but she has never gotten over the emotions of a 16 year old. She is in a time warp. She is now 57 years old, lives alone, no children, her mother and father are dead, she has two brothers in Florida. Her neice died suddenly at 18. She regrets not having children and not marrying. I keep telling her it is not too late, but now she is set in her ways and everyone I introduce her to, she finds fault. So don't let that happen to you. Keep your options open. Try a dating service on the inernet but don't let life pass you by..In the end it is all about love, sharing life with a person you love, and family.

Answer 4

If that is who you are then you should not compromise your beliefs. I dont believe in regrets, regrets only keep us in the past and we are meant to live today. So how you are feeling today may be in some ways a reflection on your past. If you were brought up in a troubled family situation it just may be that you dont want that cycle to continue. I guess my advise would be to really truly find out why you believe that and then go from there, because if the decision you are basing your present on has anything to do with the past then you are really just living in the past and could be missing some wonderful things in your present and future. I think society tells us that we all must at some time settle down and have families but to me this is a very selfish act. If you dont want a family then you will always feel tied down, not true to who you are at all. If you are truly happy the way you are then dont let anyone else try to change that . Best of luck

Answer 5

Think about how you will feel when you get older? Can you picture yourself with a wife and children? Can you picture yourself alone? You are young yet and you do not have to rush into anything right now, so go out have fun and in about five years when you might feel tired of going out and being alone you might change your mind or you might be comfortable the way things are. Since you are asking this question at 31 yrs young, I think deep down inside you want to be married and have kids, but right now its not for you.

Answer 6

Is that the kind of life you would have wanted to live when you look back? If you can see yourself being happy and staying happy the way you are, then you might not regret it. Who says everyone must get married and have kids? Half the people that get married get divorced these days anyway.

Answer 7

If you're 31 and are not planning on it, then you won't regret it. If you're asking this question then you should think about it. Don't get married and have kids to fit in with your stage in life. Do it because it will enrich your life.

Answer 8

You might so I would keep the possibility open. In my opinion here there is nothing greater than a family. Sharing your life with someone special can give your life more meaning and give you a reason for the things you do in life. Marriage and having children can be the most wonderful challenge you'll ever take in life.....and the deepest form of love you can ever know on this earth. But I guess if you choose to only be with yourself you'll never know if anything was ever missing? I know what is to be alone and I know what it is to have a family and I would never give it up for anything in the world. I will take the bad with the good anytime than to grow old and be alone. There is no better feeling in the world to me than seeing a part of myself and everyone I have ever lost and loved through the eyes of my children. They are an extension of me and the love I share with somebody that accepted me and made me know that life was worth living.

Answer 9

My uncle is in his eighties and lived his whole life never marrying or having children. My grandma's neighbor is in his early 50s - same situation.
Now, while the neighbor, being younger, seems pretty contenet with his social life and friends, my uncle... well, he seems pretty lonely.
It's a personal choice, but from what I've seen, as you get older in age and friends grow scarce, it seems like it gets sad. And by that time, who wants to look for someone, right?
I don't know. I'm 24 and I've been married for almost 4 yrs and have a son and a baby due in December. I'm very happy being married. I love it. I love my husband and my kids, and yes, it does get stressful, but it's nice to feel like I really belong to something finally....
It's your choice. And my opinion....

Answer 10

I'm sure you'll find that out when you GET older. Take heart in the fact that you can marry someone 20 years younger than you and adopt a child if need be. Then your spouse can raise the little one (is that terrible of me to say? lol).

Answer 11

You might, you might not.
Becuase I'm not in your body and don't know how your mind works.. but maybe in time when you're much older you'll regret not having a family, not having any kids to look down to.. and you might actually be a really grumpy old man. Who knows.