my husband works while I take care of the kid/s And I watch the budget and make financial and investment decisions for our family?
Does that mean that my husband is the head of the household or I am?
My Real question: does it have to be an either or thing?
2007-10-21 07:20:06 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
And Yes I am irritated by the "head of the household" debate.
2007-10-21 07:28:55 · update #1
Lioness I respectfully disagree..
2007-10-21 07:31:38 · update #2
Char I'm not a mother Or wife yet! lol!
This is just a what-if thing to ask the question. :)
2007-10-21 07:34:14 · update #3
(((Lioness!!!)))
I'm not angry with you sweetheart I'm just not high on the question and concept..ok?
2007-10-21 07:37:23 · update #4
Lioness I don't think we have the same taste in men ... that would mean you are a Cougar! LOL!
2007-10-21 08:24:21 · update #5
Again I am from the old School,
I believe that one person within a marriage no matter how equal it is,needs to have more power in decision making than the other, people do not all ways agree. when both parties discussed the situation fully and still disagree and a decision has to be made, that person makes it. No one dictates who it is him or her, whatever works best.
I disagree with the lady that said if the bacon is brought home, than who ever cooks it is the HOH , the person eating it would have an input into how it will be cooked and if the person did not bring that bacon home , there would be nothing to make decisions over?
2007-10-21 15:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Considering that I would define Head of Household as the holder of power expressed outwardly, the man would be HoH in your scenario. Even when discussing "traditional" HoH families, there is not really absolute power by the HoH. There may be the idea of sphere of influence where the woman (or other partner) runs the house, plans the social events, heads the servants and the children, and allocates the income within the household. Of there may be a situation where the man still does the 'outside' tasks like hunting but the society is matriarchal so the woman and/or her family represents/speaks for the family members politically to the larger world. It gets a little complicated when you mention making investments but I don't think that changes it enough. If your husband is the face of the family on the outside, then he'd be the HoH in my book. That's not to say you wouldn't have a lot of power though.
2007-10-21 15:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Maverick 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no "official " head of the household...that is something society created for decision makers of households
Both of you are heads of the households and have different but equal and important responsibilities
HIM: Washing the car, mowing the lawn, driving the kids to school, cleaning the garage, etc etc
YOU (Assuming you stay at home): Pay the bills, cooking, keep the household clean, do HW with kids, etc etc
Its all about that specific relationship/marriage and how the couple decides to spread out the responsibiites
There should be a compromise and I don't think there should be a relationship where someone's thinking "oh he has more power than me or she has more power than me"
2007-10-21 15:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The head of household is the one who earns the majority of the income.
2007-10-21 16:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a partnership.
One of equality.
No one partner is the Head of the house.
Both should make decisions and contribute to the well being of the household.
Whether as a woman you have made the decision to be a stay at home mother or you have decided to pursue your career your opinion is as valid as your husbands and vice versa.
2007-10-21 19:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it doesn't have to be an "either or thing", and it certainly isn't in our household.
Sure each of us does somethings better, knows more about computers and cooking, or gardening and herbs. We make most of our choices together and usually the person who knows less will raise "what if" type questions to help make those choices.
There are times when both of us think the cats might be heads of the household though...
2007-10-21 18:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Twilight 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I can't conceive of the concept of the "head of the household" much less that it's automatically the man. How ridiculous can you get! Running a family successfully is a team effort, even if he does bring home the bacon. (Raw bacon is no fun. It doesn't mean anything until it's cooked.)
It's not an either or thing. It's what you both decide, and don't let anybody tell you different.
2007-10-21 15:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Your husband would be head of the household.
2007-10-21 15:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The head of household term implies that that person is supporting the family monetarily. I understand your question.
I ran everything from raising the kids to handling the finances.
Military wives are called CinC House.
Yes. It is still either or. Eventually we'll come up with some new terminology. You are in the command of the house and family. Even without a label, you are fulfilling a respected and necessary role. Good for you.
C. :)!!
2007-10-21 14:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋
ofcourse not...who ever makes financial n investment decision is the HEAD...thy decide for the family n house...i dont mean tht the guy is somone who is jus a machine which gives money wen need bt a women who sits at home usually hv more mental stress than the one workin n they strain more thinking if all the family needs are satisfied if not how to solve things...loads more...if a women is at home she obviously is the "KING" ;)
2007-10-21 16:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by frendly brat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋