Im a 23 yr old virgin and have never really felt ready for sex before now! but reacently me and my friend have become really close and i feel ready to loose my virginity to him!but there is one major problem...he has a girlfriend(she lives in a diff part of the country so i dont know her).
Im feeling really confussed and my head is all over the place!! Help???
he knows abt my feelings for him and told me he feels the same for me.
we have also kissed a few times
I know this makes me sound like an awful person but believe me im not!!
2007-10-21 06:58:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
First of all, it is spelled "lose," not "loose."
This is fine on one condition: you do not expect him to be in a relationship with you. If you think the sex would be fun but you don't expect to attach commitment or feelings to it, this is fine.
If you like him and want to be his girlfriend, you're probably out of luck. He feels the same way but continues to date someone else? If he doesn't break up with her ASAP, you two will never have an honest relationship because he isn't honest. This is under the assumption that they do not have an open relationship and she does not approve of him having sex with other women.
The sex is no big deal, sex is lots of fun and you'll enjoy it. I get the feeling that you've attached feelings to this, so be careful not to fall in love (if you already have, DON'T do this).
2007-10-21 07:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdreams99279 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if this guy broke up with this other gf, and proved beyond a shadow of doubt that he had no more feelings for her - DON'T get involved. The fact that he was juggling two women is indicative of his womanizing genes. Can never trust such jerks and is complete waste of the gift of virginity. You have fought the good fight and stayed clean till 23, make sure you give this precious gift to the right person.
2007-10-21 07:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by JGA 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your friend should probably break up with his girlfriend, you don't want him to be in a mess. I don't think you should have sex with him if he still has a girlfriend. And second, you should only have sex with this friend if you really have feelings for him, not just because you are a virgin. Your first time should be special and with someone whom you love. So if that is how you feel about him, talk it over and ask him what he thinks.
2007-10-21 07:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are determined to have a relationship with this man knowing that he has already cheated on his girlfriend, then at least tell him that nothing can happen between you unless he breaks up with her first.
If he will not break up with her, then it is obvious that he cares more about her than you, and that he is a scumbag for leading you on and kissing you behind her back.
After waiting all this time, don't lose your virginity to this man unless he will demonstrate that it is your relationship that is most important to him.
If you do this before he is properly available, you will end up feeling guilty, dirty and used.
2007-10-21 07:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-21 07:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I doubt you will listen to anyone here when they say it's a bad thing. You have probably already decided and no one can stop you. Most people will tell you that it will be a bad thing especially if he doesn't end the other relationship first. You will have to live and learn, hopefully you will not repeat this a second time.
2007-10-21 07:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by nochocolate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's already not going to end well due to the fact that he has a girlfriend, in a different part of the country or not she's still his girlfriend. Sleep with him and it'll end in disaster.
2007-10-21 07:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not an awful person..you are letting yourself in for a lot of emotional pain and hurt.........I would really give this some thought...How would you feel if this was done to you if you had a real boyfriend??? The choice is yours.
2007-10-21 07:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got lost a woman buddy for telling her that her boyfriend hit on me and uncovered his penis to me. no longer something occurred between us, of direction, yet my lady buddy broke up with the guy yet went returned with him some days later and now they're married and that i haven't spoken to her on account that :(. I unquestionably have yet another lady buddy the place I found out of her then husband cheating on her with another chick and that i did no longer tell her because of the fact i did no longer opt to work out the discomfort in her eyes. I cried for her once I found out approximately it. of direction, she ultimately found out via somebody else (i develop into there for her while she did and supported her by way of divorce) and we are nevertheless very close friends suitable now. in line with danger issues are distinctive with men yet from my adventure, i does not tell him each and every thing. i will hint around it...yet maximum in all probability, your buddy will understand that his lady buddy isn't being hassle-free and faster or later, he will discover out approximately your different buddy.
2016-10-04 07:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you lose your virginity to such a jerk? If he does not respect his relationship to his girlfriend, he will not respect you! You have to get out of that, and dont start a love triangle...he does not deserve you.
2007-10-21 07:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋