I have only been married for 6 months and am already wanting a divorce! What should I do? Wait it out?

Question

We just argue all the time.

We don't have children. We knew eachother for 1 ½ years before getting married. We argue about everything. Laundry, dishes, sex.

And we both work.

Answer 1

If you think you can never be able to negotiate, please get a divorce. Dont be like me, I had 2 kids, was so forgiving and patient, in the end he dumped me and ran away with my 2 kids.

Answer 2

If you are arguing all the time and dont see a solution in the future, then I say get a divorce. Why wait longer and make things more complicated. God forbid you have a child together and then feel trapped. Dont let the situation get more complicated. If you dont think you can both work it out, then it is time to get out.

Hey, you tried, you had the best of intentions I am sure. Why make it so you are both unhappy.

What will waiting it out do? Do you think it will solve any of your problems? If you are not able to solve your problems now, how will you in 5 years? It will just get worse and possibly you will both stop talking to each other altogether.

I know I am going to get a lot of thumbs down for this comment because people have a romanicized view of what marriage is and should be, but truth is, it isnt and it wont be.

If its bad now, why wait any longer and make things more complicated?

Answer 3

Yes, you should wait it out. While you are waiting concentrate on how to fix it. This is why marriage statistics are so horrible. People don't recite vows because they mean them anymore. They recite them because it is part of the ritual. All too often marriages end because one part is not happy. If everyone would concentrate on their spouse's feelings, then naturally we would be happier ourselves. You argue because you choose to argue. Next time, choose not to. Just throw your arms around him and give him a great big sloppy kiss on the lips. It will make things better no matter how mad you are. Start asking for ways to make it work instead of seeking justification that it will not.

Answer 4

You have to decide how badly you want this relationship to work. A marriage isn't all candy and roses all the time.

They say that the first year of marriage is one of the hardest. Maybe you should get to the root of the problem as to why you two are arguing all the time.

You have to be able to communicate. If you aren't communicating your marriage isn't going to last. Neither one of you is a mind reader. You have to actually talk, not yell, about what is going on and how you are feeling.

You need to sit down and discuss what is really going on.

Answer 5

It sounds like the honeymoon is over. It happens to all couples. It is perfectly normal and healthy for a couple to argue. The most important thing for both of you to remember is that you aren't always right...either of you. Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP not a dictatorship.

If you are concerned about your arguments and don't seem to be able to solve them on your own, I would DEFINITELY suggest that you look into marriage counseling. Another thing you might want to do is read a book called "Getting The Love That You Want," by Dr. H. Hendrix.

I don't know what you tend to argue about, but sex and money tend to be major contributors to fights in the average marriages.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 6

When you married that person, you made a vow that you would be married until that person dies. You said that you loved them. And how can you divorce them just over a couple little arguments?! Try to straighten up your act. If you don't have kids, and live in squalor, then get a job. If you have kids, make sure he doesn't come home to a mess in the house. Remember, he is probably the main source of profit for you. Imagine being in his shoes. He comes home from work and sees the whole house in a mess, hes already stressed enough from working.

Answer 7

Marriage is hard work. If you're ready to bail in six months just over arguing, then you shouldn't married in the first place. It used to be, once you said I do, you were in it for the long haul, but now, as soon as things don't go the way they do in a fairytale, the marriage is over. You're going to go through a lot of trials and tribulations and that's how your love is tested. Try counseling and good luck to you both.

Answer 8

First of all i think you jump at the chance of getting married to fast it takes more than year to truly know someone first of all you have had something in common in order to get married.
Try to sit down and work things out since you got married and if you both decide to get a divorce. This is your choice not mines okay.

best of luck

Answer 9

I agree with CSIDES3... Get some counselling.

As a single person, everyone has it their own way, From what time you get up in the morning to hoe money is spent to where you go on vacation.

Before I got married, we went to a counselling thing called Marriage Encounter. I helped us see each other's side i a lot of things. You'd be surprised how a third party can help is situations like this.

Men usually don't like to go to a counsellor but if he wants to save your marriage, find a way to convince him. Focus on the things that bought you together.

GOOD luck

Answer 10

Go to your nearest book store or go online and get the books "The proper care and feeding of husbands" and "The proper care and feeding of marriage". Read them and learn from them.

Marriage is hard. Most people go in thinking love will see them through and quickly learn marriage is hard work! You need to get the tools and understanding to make it work. Don't give up until you've read those books. You need to know the differences between how men and women act and react, you need to understand what it really means to be a wife to your husband. You need to learn to choose your battles wisely and that it takes two to argue.

I wish you the best in your marriage!

Answer 11

All couples argue. It's a part of being a couple. Do you still love him? Does he love you? If both the answers are yes, you should try to work it out.