She wanted to talk "as friends" and said it would be good to hear my voice. She hoped I was doing well. Truthfully, I'd be doing much better if she hadn't been unfaithful and left be with no choice but to divorce her. She has remarried and has her own family now.
2007-10-21 03:33:27 · 28 answers · asked by pistonclash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ever hear the song..."I'm so happy that I can't stop crying"?
you just lived the first verse.
2007-10-25 01:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answer to this question. If you feel that talking to her is going to bring up a lot of emotions that you are not ready for then hold off on the call. On the other hand if you never call her you will always wonder what she had to say. A lot of people grow up after a while and sometimes sincerely want to take the time to apologize or maybe, God forbid she wants to talk to you as a friend to tell you of an illness she has (you will never know if you don't call her). Good luck
2007-10-21 04:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is really up to you. I think with her past history, I would tell her married women don't get to be friends with other men and skip it. I wouldn't trust her motivations. I wonder if maybe the grass wasn't so much greener on the other side and she is looking to see if you might consider round two. Or...maybe she feels bad for what she did, has grown up and wants to say she's sorry/make amends. Tough call. I think I would be honest and do what is right for you. If she causes you distress and brings back a lot of pain, I'd tell her that and drop it.
2007-10-21 03:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your life, your ex-wife .... but if it were me, NO, I would not return the call.
It's very suspicious -- she wants to be friends, although she was unfaithful? It would be good to hear your voice? Those two things are red flags.
She cheated on you, and may be contemplating cheating on her current husband .... and her target could be YOU.
You said it best in your final sentence: She has remarried and has her own family now. Well said .... yes, very well said.
2007-10-21 03:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by tracy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many things can change in ten years and what could a phone call hurt? If it doesn't go well, you can always hang up. People do regret their past mistakes, and perhaps she just needs to know that your life turned out well in spite of what she did to you. Drop the hatchet and make peace with the woman - doesn't mean you have to stay in touch with her.
2007-10-21 04:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble in the second marriage. Tell her you are too busy at the moment. Don't forget she was unfaithful to you.
Leopards never change their spots
2007-10-25 02:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has rmarried and her own family, Id leave this one well alone and let the past die. This is probably exactly how she started when she destroyed your marriage. Some people never learn. Forget her and move on
2007-10-21 03:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it as is. It will only bring back past memories and hurts. It sounds as if you still have issues with what she did. Obviously she is feeling some guilt or she wouldn't have contacted you. Don't give her the opportunity to do more damage.
2007-10-21 08:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her back. If for no other reason you can tell her exactly what you said here...
"I'm doing fine, but truthfully would be doing better had things not happened as they did - I would appreciate it if you didn't call me again."
She probably has come around to feeling guilty...and wants to clear her own conscious - and truthfully, what harm would that be for you to help her with?
If you don't call her back, I'm afraid you'd probably come to regret it.
2007-10-21 03:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A similar thing happened to me. I think if you call her it will just bring back all the past hurt & and bad memories. I don't think you deserve this. You need to look ahead not back. Stay strong!!
2007-10-21 04:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her back- perhaps she is ready to apologize. If all she wants is chit-chat, cut it short and don't answer if she calls again. You never know, she might have something important she wants to tell you, and it might be good for you to hear it. Give her one chance.
2007-10-21 03:56:07 · answer #11 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋