i have had 3 misscarages what now?

Question

i have had 3 misscarages and one was very resent but my husband wants us to try again. i really do not want to but he is forcing me to. he bought me an ovulating kit and everything. im still mourning the loss of our resent child but he just wants me to get pregnant wahst should i do. please help.

Answer 1

Keep a journal it will help you thru the losses of your children and also realize there was a reason they weren't able to be born. Unfortunately you may never know what that is. Please don't go crazy by asking yourselves could've would've should've Q's. Your children are in a better place and if God wants you to have a child naturally then it will happen one day or God will show you other options out there to having a child of your own adoption or i can't think of the name but its when another women uses her uterus to give birth to you baby. Your husband and you need to check out your reproductive systems to see what may be going to help you too out. Tell your husband that you need alittle time to recoup (body and mind) then you will try again if you are wanting to. Be honesty with him thou if you truly want to keep try let him know that if you don't let him know that and seek other options. Anyhow I hope this helps P.S I'm Sorry for Your Losses xoxo

Answer 2

You need to see your doctor who should refer you to a hospital for further tests as after three miscarriages they will normally run some tests to see if there is a reason why you are miscarrying.
My heart goes out to you as this is a very difficult time. You have to talk with your husband and explain how you feel, you are in this together and he has to try and understand your feelings.
Take the time that you need to mourn this loss and then when you are ready move forward.
I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

I can sypathise with you. I've had two. Place your lost children somewhere. I placed a pot cat at my families tree at the crem. OKay, I know my baby isn't physically there, but it helps me to cope. When she was due, I visited the tree and spent an hour or so talking and crying, then I let her know that I love her and she is always in my thoughts but I have to move on. She is safe as she has joined my family and I will see her one day rather than on a piece of loo roll.

Men don't understand what you are going through as it was never born. Don't let him push you into anything. Only do it when you are ready. My husband thought I was being stupid so now that I have a special place, he can't take that away.

I know it hurt, and I'm close to tears writing this but you will heal emotionally, but it takes time.

Thinking of you.

Answer 4

First off, I am very sorry to hear about all your miscarriages. I had one in 2001 and it was hard, I can't imagine how you are feeling but with prayer and staying calm you will get through this *Hugs*

I don't blame your husband for wanting to try again but you could nicely explain that as trying is okay, you still need time to cope with the three losses you guys' already have.

so he wont force you, willingly give up sex at least once a day this will keep him happy and keep you from having to have sex to much.

Hang in there sweetie

Answer 5

I feel what your going through I have lost as well,and I now have 4 healthy beautiful children.
Mourn and find closure maybe write in your journal or something like that. But move on and live in the here and now.
Pray and try again. Have Faith if its meant to be you will conceive.
Maybe God wants you and your husband to have children in another way.
There are so many children that would love to have a good home and loving parents.

Best wishes. My Prayers are with you!

Answer 6

Before trying to get pregnant again I would talk with your doctor again. It would be good. After three misscarages something is causing you having them. Have a talk with him and tell him want can I do to make sure the I can't carry this baby. I had a coworker that had mis carry three time and she needed help and now she has a wonderful baby that she wanted.

Answer 7

Be honest and tell him the truth.Trying for children is one thing.But in your circumstances you need time to recover.I know a woman whom had several miscarrages.She thought she was not meant to have children.She just gave birth to a boy 3wks ago.So relax and take your time.I cannot imagine what you and your partener are going through but talking about the past may be a good way to discuss matters about your future.I do hope everything works out.

Answer 8

After three you should be referred for testing to see what the problem is.

You need to take time out and mourn your loss. how can your husband "force" you?

Tell him there is no point in trying again until you have been thoroughly assessed and checked out medically. You may need some treatment to help you.

You don`t sound emotionally ready to try again. Please don`t . See your doctor a.s.a.p.


Good luck.

Answer 9

They normally start testing after 3 miscarriages. So what dont you go and visit your doctor. maybe that may stop your husband pressuring you and also he mayb able to find you someone to talk to. Also you must speck up to your husband. Mayb he dont realise how you are feeling. You need to mourn and you should have as long as you need.

Answer 10

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