Hi all. So i JUST found out I am pregnant. Im almost 19 and freaking out. I havent told anyone yet but am going to soon. I have only been w one person ever, so it is 100% his! THe problem is I havent seen my ex since aug.. We both went to college in diff places. Him ohio state, and me a school in cleveland. I lost his email address so i cant email him. and i cant go visit him. so how sould i tell him? Im really nervous. Im worried what hell say. Do i even have to tell him? Please help! thankyou.
2007-10-21 02:58:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You should tell him. You are going to need support for this child. Call him and let him know. He will probably be in denial, mad, scared some of the same emotions you went through. It is his right to know.
You might want to have a heart to heart with someone in your family to help guide you better.
2007-10-21 03:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him. Even if it's just a phone conversation or an email. He might not like the news. But at least you are giving him a chance to participate in his right to be a father to his child (both of yours, that is). If he does not want to be a father (or worse, wants you to get rid of the child), don't pursue relations with him any further; keep your baby and raise your baby yourself. You can get a judge to order your ex to submit to a paternity test, and force him to provide child support if he refuses to do what is honourable. Whatever you do, please be a good mother and love your child in spite of how your ex might react. Plenty of men still find a single mom very attractive and sexy, so don't feel pressured to try to marry your ex. August was not that long ago (very short time has elapsed) so this is not as shocking as showing up 10 years later with a child at your ex's doorstep. Everything will work out fine.
2007-10-21 03:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by MJQ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know his parents ask them for his number or to give hime yours so you can speak to him. Just tell him out right and let him know your plans. Just don't marry the guy because you are pregnant because that will only make a bad situation worse. If he swears that it cannot be his, go ahead and obtain a hair with roots sample and put it into a plastic baggie for the DNA testing later on. Don't fight with him about it becaues this is supposed to be a happy time for you and it will take 9 months to prove you are right. You need family and friends around you at this time to get you through, not someones drama. If he is a standup guy then he will take responsibility for his actions and help you and this child through. You have a moral obligation to tell him but not a legal one. Think ahead to when your child begins asking about his dad....what will you tell him/her?
2007-10-21 03:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is a way to get ahold of your ex in order to tell him. I think he deserves to know, whether he is happy about it or not. It's his right to know...and should be contacted about it.
Tell him the truth...lying will only dig you a deeper hole.Tell him you are pregnant and that you believe it is his and deal with it from there...
Good luck to you !
2007-10-21 03:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to Hallmark and send him a congratulations your a dad card! Than wait for the phone call!
2007-10-21 03:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jenns705 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell him. There must be away to find him, try mutual friends for the address.
You must decide whether you would want him back if he offered.
2007-10-21 03:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by David C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you really DO need to talk to him and let him know, he's the father so he SHOULD know.
So CALL him, or call the college and get in touch with him that way.
He NEEDS to know!
2007-10-21 03:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call his mom at home and tell her you're pregnant. I'm sure she'll get in contact with him.
2007-10-21 03:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by ladyusc229 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him face to face.
2007-10-21 03:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberlee Taylor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call him and tell him
2007-10-21 03:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Haleigh F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋