What do you do when your close friend after having an arguement thats been going on for a week or so decides to tell you she doesn't want to be friends and is not inviting you to your birthday party because your not her friend?
2007-10-21 02:37:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
** to her birthday party
I meant.
2007-10-21 02:37:41 · update #1
Whatever you do dont just assume that if you leave them alone and dont say anything everything will sort itself out. It wont. Give them a bit of time to think then talk to them about it. If its not meant to be then it wont be. But if your friendship was as strong as you make it out to be then youll find eachother.
2007-10-21 02:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to be friends with her, then sometimes all you can do is bite your tongue and apologize - whether you were in the wrong or not. Tell her you're sorry that everything got out of control, and you think your friendship with her is more important than any argument.
Let her know that you still value her friendship. And tell her that you want to get her a gift for her birthday, whether or not she invites you to the party. She will see that you are trying to be a good friend to her, and the argument will clear up... but NEVER bring up the argument again!
2007-10-21 09:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sounds Painful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sad for you. You know, some people are just mean. Maybe she is just taking control of your friendship and letting you know she is boss. Or she could be really hurt by whatever the argument was over. If it is nothing that you have done, then she is just being dumb,so try not to let it upset you. In time she might come around. If there is something that you might have done, then maybe try and talk to her, on her own and apologise, but don't mention the party. Only make it about the situation. Give her time to think about it. Take care :-)
2007-10-21 09:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that hurts however the sooner you know that she wants to sever the friendship AND inflict further insult by not inviting you to her birthday party then I would consider yourself lucky that this particular nasty side of her character has shown itself now. Better she is taking aim at your feelings by merely uninviting you to her birthday party and not years from now trying to get your husband in the sack when she is mad at you, right??? Don't show annoyance with being excluded. You sound like you are worthy of nice people for friends and not spoiled brats. Don't argue with her. Hopefully you know other people and get yourself involved with another crowd that won't discuss your business with her when she starts to miss you in the future. Don't ever want anything from anyone who isn't content just to have a different opinion, she has to see you suffer or feel bad as well. Hold your head up with a cheerful smirk and from now on that EX-friend does not exist.
2007-10-21 09:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by sliverofmoon2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So be it if you're very sure she didn't want you in her birthday party! That's very mean and she's showing her true colour. Wether she'll have a change of mind and decide to invite you the last minute...just turn down the invitation politely. I'm sure you can find another friend that you really deserve! Good luck!!!
2007-10-21 09:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by brainwhacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieve for a friendship that wasn't as valuable to your friend as it was to you and accept her decision. That is probably the hardest thing to do, but you really don't have any other choice. Maybe she will come around and miss you and your friendship, but remember you can't force anyone to be your friend. And if she doesn't come back, wasn't as close to you as you thought. Find someone else in time who will be able to appreciate your attributes and loyalty.
Good luck!
2007-10-21 09:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Diane T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone argues with their friends,
if you've done something that needs apologizing for,
maybe make her a card and remind her of all the good times you had together, and apologize in person to her.
And if she still won't accept being your friend then she isn't that much of a good friend at all, and you should try hanging round with a new group of friends,
i hope you make up soon,
hope,
x
2007-10-21 09:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value the friendship then you have to make up, but if the friendship is not that valuable then leave your friend alone. there are a lot of people whom you could befriend
2007-10-21 09:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who started the argument first and who's the person which is being sensitive here? If its her, then stop being friends with her. If its you, then you'll need to apologize to her.
2007-10-21 09:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~Sieg~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a problem of ten year old girls...
Try asking her what you can do to make up and beg with your best cute puppy eye look. Bother her everyday so she will make up with you, whether she likes it or not...
2007-10-21 09:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋