--PROS--
I have a GREAT place to stay, where I know everyone and they will give me all the living necessities and more
my dad forces me to wrestle when I suck and just get beat up
--Cons--
my mom is awesome, and I love her so so much
I am only 15, yes I know I sound stupid/immature but believe me I am not
I will have no money
this is completely based on opinion
answer with what you think I should do
also include if you think I should leave at 16 when I have a job and some money to start on instead
2007-10-21 02:14:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell you're dad you dont like wrestling and say that you hate getting beat up. i dont think you should run away because you're dad will feel bad. i think you should see you're mum on weekends. but when you do tell you're dad. i think 16 is too young to leave home.
2007-10-21 02:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Livy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are not immature. However I believe that you should stay at home and finish school. I think that even when you turn 16 you should stayat home but get a part time job. Start saving money, get your drivers license.
Why do you want to run away only because your dad makes wrestle or does your dad beat you up? If your dad beats you up then perhaps you should live with your mom. Or are they together. I don't know enough. But if you are not in any danger then it is best you stay at home. If you are in danger perhaps you can find a relative to stay with but, do it by talking to the relative first and getting things straight not by running away. Think through it, make plans, stay in school, finish school. Go to either a tech school or college and finish that. Education is important not only for your independence but for your future and future jobs. If you are willing to stay till you are 16 then what is a few more years? You can do it. My concern is if you are in danger then something needs to be done not running away. One more thing about running away. You can be declared a juvenile deliquent by running away and be put into the court system You do not want to do that.
2007-10-21 02:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think running away is a terrible idea because it just makes running away that much easier in other phases of your life. Develop the habit of staying and facing your issues....(if anything, be SO determined to confront things head-on that you make OTHER people want to run away!) You've wisely concluded that leaving would be a financial distaster, so common sense suggests you stick things out, at least until that situation improves.
Now let me sweeten the pot a little bit: This advice comes to you from a guy who ran away (briefly) when he was your age. I jumped on a bus and went all the way to Atlanta, GA before the police found me and shipped me back to KY. For the life of me I can't remember now why that was so damned important to me...but there are some issues I've been running away from ever since. So, it's better to beat a habit by not developing it in the first place. Stay up....Good luck to you.
2007-10-21 02:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your Dad is beating up on you, contact the proper law enforcement people. That is abuse, and you don't need it.
As yourself important questions, instead of asking them here. Like how much money do you think it would take to live on your own? How will you finish school? Where will you live?
If your Mom is awesome, tell her you want to get out and maybe she'll divorce your Dad and give you a better home life. As an adult, she needs to be more responsible for you. Talk to her. Don't make a mistake you'll regret by just running away. Best of luck to you.
2007-10-21 02:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't run away. First think of what it would do to your mom.
next does your dad really force you to wrestle? If so tell him you don't want to do it any more and do you mean like be on the wrestling team or wrestle him? If we are talking about a wrestling team and he is trying to toughen you up take something else like martial arts. You need to find what you want to do.
I am sorry but I had drunk stepfathers who use to beat me and I didn't run away. I don't think being forced to wrestle is all that is going on here, if it is then stay home and actually have a sit down talk with both of your parents and tell them what is going on.
2007-10-21 02:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sponging off of other people for your living necessities usually doesn't last too long. You say you love your mother. What do you think running away will do to her? Is it worth breaking her heart and causing her all that pain just because you don't want to wrestle? How does you dad FORCE you to wrestle? At gun point? You can always tell your coach you want to drop wrestling
2007-10-21 03:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes running is the answer but in this case, its not, confide in your mother as to help with the father situation. No you should not leave when you are sixteen and have money, just save that money so that when the day comes to move on, you have a somewhat more stable base to start with. If the mother thing doesn't work out then research other avenues to get on a better relationship with your father. I know a lot of this from personal experience with my father playing mental games with me for most of my life and I hated it as well, but you learn to stick with it and just find other avenues to avoid that contact.
2007-10-21 02:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rohbert H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you start "running" now............when will it stop? I mean you have a supportive, loving home that you want to turn your back on? What will you do when you find out that life is not easy on your own and you have no one left to turn to?
An "awesome" mom that would be heart-broken if you left.......or doesn't that matter to you?
Teen years are very hard on everyone!!! The teens and the parents alike! You are physically and emotionally changing while your parents are facing the "loss" of the child they have dedicated their lives to raising and it causes a great deal of stress on everyone. Talk to them!!! Communication is the only way to find answers that will respect the feelings of everyone.
Good Luck.
2007-10-21 02:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by redheadedstepchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you will be safe. Focus on leaving for college! Don't you know that's the best escape route! Maybe college preparation (studying/getting tutoring for SAT's, etc.) could outweigh wrestling practice. You need to be ready to choose a college sooner than you think...
2007-10-21 02:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being abused. Call social services to stop this. After you call, have a long talk with your Mom and tell her everything you feel. Maybe your Dad can get some help and you can salvage your relationship. But do not run away, it solves nothing and worse things can happen out their than at home. Some times we have to be brave and strong. The only way for you to help out his miserable situation is to reach out for help. Tell your school guidence couselor, social service, police, who ever you are comfortable with. But deal with it now.
Love and peace
2007-10-21 02:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋