Friendship Misunderstanding(VERY HARD DECISION)?

Question

I had many friends once,in school.
One day,I don't know... they started ignoring me in an annoying way. I wanted to talk to them... but they just walked away. I still had many friends... including my best friend. But those friends that ignored me were once my best friends too! I can't "live" without them.
I wonder what had happened?!!
Well,since I don't know what happened,I will NOT apologize. Is there any other way to get together again? It's a very hard decision to make.
PLEASE HELP(A. S. A. P.)

Answer 1

confront them and find out what is wrong or you will spend the rest of your life wondering what went wrong.

Answer 2

It sounds as if maybe there was a rumor about you. If you don't know what it was, and you can't find out, just try to ignore it. Be your own sweet self. Hold your head high.

If you CAN find out without shaming yourself, do, and set the record straight, but don't be desperate. Consider who your true friends are. Someone who would drop you on the strength of a rumor is not a true friend.

Don't even consider apologizing for something you didn't do. If, however, you find out that there's something you did that got everybody against you, and you need to apologize, then do so, sincerely, and hope they come back.

You don't say your age, but this sounds like young friends stuff, and it may blow over. Be as mature as you can while you wait it out. Can you talk to a parent about it? Write back here if appropriate. I will be looking out for you.

Answer 3

There's nothing to apologize for as far as you know, so I agree with you, an apology is not in order. There is something bothering them where you're concerned so it may be beneficial to you to confront them to find out what that is (if you truly value their friendship.) Beyond that there is no choice to make because it seems as though they've made the choice for you by going their separate ways. As to the assertion that "you can't live without them", it seems as though you have to because they're gone. The real question is: have they deserted you out of mere pettiness or did they actually have good cause....that's what you need to find out. Because, if it's pettiness then I'd say you're better off without people with fleeting loyalties anyway, but if you've harmed them in some way (even accidentally) it's best to determine that so you can make amends. There's no better way to accomplish that than talking to them....the sooner, the better. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

It's really hard for you to decide either to keep them, or just ignore them. But in instance, why would they ignore just like that? Maybe it's a rumor, but don't they have a little more faith in you? Maybe you can't "live" without them, but if they're treating you THAT way, what's the point of keeping them? Lot's of people are there for you anyway. It's just not them.

They really have to trust and under stand you a LOT more. They shouldn't go walking past you when you talk to them too.

Just advising. ^^ Hope it helps dearie.

Answer 5

Damn i hate people like that. Personally you i think you should forget them if they are bitchy without saying why but i understand you miss them so here is some no nonsense advice.

1. Ask your mates whats going on but try your best to ask politely. Say things like "Im sorry if i have upset you can we please talk about it"

2. If they carry on being bitchy give them some time and space.

3. Ask them again. Things should be better by then but if they say something like they don't want to be your friends anymore. Then you would just have to accept the truth.

If they do say that then forget them you sound like a great person who cares for her mates and get out meet knew people and get to know you other friends more.

Good luk gal. Fight da bitchyness.

Answer 6

The answer lies in you !! Think of the days when you had too many friends and think of the present where they ignore you!! There may be many changes in you that repels your friends. It can be high self ego expressed by you, your "I don't care" nature, your short temper or worse, another possessive boyfriend who scares others and prevent others from friendship with you!!! Come back to the original good self and you will find your friends back!!

Answer 7

Why don't you have a good talk with your friends to find out what is the problem. Once you know the problem, then sit down and see how can you resolve the problems and hope the relationship is back to normal

Answer 8

High school is horrible. It's not just horrid for you and I, but EVERYONE has bad experiences at this age. Your friends need to grow up and stop playing sheep. That is wonderful that your best friend is sticking by you cause when i grew up everyone would sometimes side against me and be nasty, then a few months later they're worshiping you and everyone is sucking up your ****. You should act confidently and smile at everyone since everyone loves people who make them feel happy and welcome. Good luck, this time will pass

Answer 9

You had better to see what happened on between you and them first , so maybe you can know about that from persons else, and then decide to do some things for being together again from fixing problems.

Answer 10

Gosh, I know that's got to be really tough, and sometimes, when you know you aren't to blame, you never know why friends do that. Try to talk to just one of them in private and tell them you are sad that they don't want you around, and want to know what happened. Just understand that in doing that, you might really get hurt by the answer. But I guess knowing why is better, so you can move on.

Answer 11

First you need to find out why they started ignoring you in the first place, talk to them! Make them listen to you. But if they treat you really bad then just tell yourself that they're not worth it and you have much better friends.