We all have room for improvement. There is often something we hang onto that keeps us from moving forward. For example, for most of my life I've had an independent streak and I will do things my way. Sometimes I realize there is a better way to do the same thing, but I just want to do it my way. That's stubbornness, to a degree. Yet I realize if I were to let go of that stubborn streak, whatever I'm dealing with will get done better, probably faster, and I'd end up being a better person simply by recognizing maybe my way isn't best. I'd be a better person if I let that independent streak die away. I'm working on it.
What about you? In what areas could you be better, and what's holding you back? What are you holding on to?
2007-10-21 01:21:17 · 17 answers · asked by Lady G 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I am a procrastinator in the worst way. I have so many things that I REALLY need to do but just keep putting them off. What is really bad is I don't mind doing the stuff that I put off doing. Once I get started on a project that I have been putting off, I am fine, it is just the GETTING STARTED part that I can't get. I could get so much stuff done if I stop procrastinating.
I was never this bad about procrastinating until I moved back with my parents. But when I go to do something here, mom has another ideal or she wants to keep it, not happy with the way I did it or doing it, always something. So I think it is more so cause I dread getting gripped out about something is the reason that I procrastinate so much more now days.
So I know for a fact if I would just stop a lot of this procrastinating that I would be so much better than I am now.
2007-10-21 03:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey dear Lady G!
I'm downsizing again. I've done this several times already in my life, but I'm doing it again. The things that get in my way are junk, and I can get rid of that.
Actually, it's not junk to everyone, just me. Like I gave my neighbor, who is single with three kids, a couple of comforters and some china. You know, things that I don't want to take with me when I move out of state, and they're just too good to throw away, especially when someone needs them and can't afford to buy them.
Bless you for asking this question, here's a little star!
2007-10-21 08:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Cranky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety born of fear [the mother of all other negative things]. Seems recently I worry about just every thing - how long will I be able to work and support myself; what happens when my mom runs out of money and can no longer stay where she is; do I have just a nasty case of bronchitis [going to doc tomorrow evening] or something more serious...so I'm just trying to hang in there and practice what I have always taught to others....easier said than done...lol
[I read somewhere this weekend that sometimes just the act of writing something down can defuse a bit...hope this works]
2007-10-21 03:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My total Independence, I wont be bossed about anymore, I had 30 years of it during my marriage, now I like to make my own rules and decisions for my life. I could be living with a terrific guy if I wanted, but the thought of being answerable to some one else again made my blood run cold. So I keep him at arms length. Sad really buts that's the way it is.
2007-10-21 01:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When we were first married, we didn't have a lot of things, just what we really needed and I realize it made me feel more free. Now we have 'stuff' everywhere and it really clutters my life and kind of keep me in the past somewhat. I hate to get rid of gifts I've been given, letters, cards, photos or things we've bought. You always think you'll need them again, but after awhile you know some of it has to go. I start cleaning things out, but then get side tracked and put it off again.
2007-10-21 06:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading all your answerers I realize I too have a lot of room for improvement. Independence also one of my major flaws when it gets in the way of what my new husband wants to do. He was on his own for l0 years like me so we were both set in our ways. Also things his ex did constantly get in our way. Getting tired of hearing about her and being compared. Although most of the time he says I am nothing like her.I hope thats a good thing. I dont procrastinate I just reschedule. He is the king of procrastination though .
2007-10-21 02:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine has to do with stuff the kids made as children. They are now 23 and 28. Neither live at home. But I just can't bring myself to throw out the pictures they drew in school(hanging on the fridge) and old toys they left behind(ie, etch-a-sketch, tonka and matchbox cars). I came across some of their favorite little golden books, when I was cleaning off a shelf in my sewing room...I put them right back on the shelf.
2007-10-21 01:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by janice 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The things my mother did to me.I'm getting better as time goes by.My husband is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time but,after my first husband I don't trust very much.I take my past out on him.I know it's wrong but,it still happens.
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2007-10-21 04:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by fernwood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I've aged I've become more aware that my divorce of many years ago wasn't ALL my husband's fault. I spent so many years being angry at him that I forgot the things I did that also caused the breakdown of the marriage. I've confessed it but I keep picking it back up and feeling guilty about it.
2007-10-21 03:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My own plate is full....and yet, I am forever trying to "help" my daughter. I'm putting my two cents worth in when she doesn't ask for it. Giving advice about the way "I think" my grands should be treated.
If I keep my opinions to myself, she thinks I am upset about something. If I advise, she usually resents it. After all, in 4 days she will be 33 years old.
I really need to mind my own business....I'm working on it:)
2007-10-21 01:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋