i read in a book that "a man must be honest with him self before he gets honest with others!"
what does the writer men by "being honest with our selves?"
plz dont make fun!
thank you
2007-10-21 01:02:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Stop kidding himself and realise whats going on.
2007-10-21 01:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by SquiRel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how far you would go with it and what your local laws are, such as if touching is allowed and how much you take off. A stripper I knew said how men would often proposition him for sexual favors and how tired he got of it because he was only a stripper and did not engage in prostitution, but many people thought that he did. If you set your boundaries beforehand and stick to those boundaries, it would not be self degrading, but others will think that you will do anything for money and proposition you frequently. The only self degrading part would be if you did more than stripping or allowed yourself to do things that you really did not want to do.
2016-05-23 23:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The applies for women too. So first ask, how can you be honest with yourself. Then you might understand his position better.
Your question, as it stands alone, is one of the great ones of all time. Replacing the word, "man" with "person."
Being honest with oneself is a matter maturity. Buried in the word maturity are things like intelligence, experience, self-control, self-discipline, patience, etc.
An example: Consider the braggard. They always brag about how great they are...the fish they caught was bigger than yours...the car they drove was faster than yours...their dad made more money than your dad...etc. You know the type. They know they're lying, and hence are lying to you. Until they have the maturity to be comfortable with who they are, realizing its okay to not always be better, they will continue to lie. When they "grow up" and mature, realizing the truth is okay, the truth is always the best play, they will stop lying to other people. The person has to decide on a conscious level that they will stop lying.
You can help by getting the person to read that book. Might not happen. You can gently (key word there is gently) nudge them to see the obvious error of their ways and the damage it causes.
I find honesty is an indication the person has other problems that are closer to the root cause...like self esteem. Help the person work on that and the lying will fix itself as an outcropping the person's self image improving.
Never give up. Best of luck with this one.
2007-10-21 01:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Richard F 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tears,
Honesty is a big word. It talks about being true and finding this truth inside you that will lead you to the ultimate "being".
Our life is full of dishonest people. most people around us tell things they don't believe in. most people live a life without thinking about "Why?"
Do you think when you parents told you to go to school, where they honest with you? did they tell you that you go to school because this is what everyone does and it will be hard to be different. it is honest to go to work when you hate it? is it honest to tell someone something not nice only because it is the truth? what is the truth?
Because truth for me is different than truth for you. I first have to find mine in order to understand yours.
Ronit
http://www.ronitbaras.com
2007-10-21 01:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The author probably believes that if you want honesty, you should probably start with being honest with yourself. There is a song that the children sing at church. Its title is "Kindness Begins with Me". And in life I think we find that true of anything. If we want honesty or kindness, it is best to start acting in a way that promotes it.
2007-10-21 01:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Armchair Nutritionist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a man can be honest when he 'll face all the realities of life,when he compare him self with others in every espects.its a man nature to think him self greater than others,but when he compares him self with others,&he by his own self try to solve his mistakes rather than fleeing,when he can hear the truth said by others about him.
2007-10-21 09:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rare girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the most powerful, and difficult questions I have seen. We have a tendency to justify anything when it comes to ourselves.
2007-10-21 01:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Robert S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called rationalizing. Most rationalize justify our actions when we know that they are wrong. It is a way of deluding oneself and what every religionist does.
2007-10-21 01:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by gdc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need to either accept or change our ways, for ourselves, before we attempt to convince others. We need to love (or at least like) ourselves before we can love others.
2007-10-21 01:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To face our short comings.
2007-10-21 01:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋