I've been dating this guy for a few months and he has just told me he wants to visit a woman friend in another country. He tells me she is only a friend but I'm really worried as I don't know her and wonder why he has to do this. He met her when studying overseas a year ago and they've been in contact since. She visited him once (before we got together) and they've kept up the contact by chatting. Am I paranoid? I can't help feeling that if a man needs to visit a woman, he must have feelings for her. Any words of wisdom would help me.
2007-10-21 00:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
do you love this guy? what does he say? did he say that he had feelings for her? if he said he doesnt. then you should leave it at that. if you love the guy, trust him for gods sake!
2007-10-21 01:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely has feelings for her, but the question is what kind. Friendly or romantic, who knows?
I think it's best to not be reactive in this situation. All you know for sure, is that he's going to visit her and that they knew each other before. Until you have actually caught him or her engaging in some sort of questionable behavior, all you've proven is that you are reacting to what seems to be the case.
I say, let him go. For the time being he's in a relationship with you. And, if anything came out of it, (he cheated on you, or decided that your relationship wasn't going to work out) then really, it was the way it was going to be.
I say, just listen to what he says, give him the benefit of the doubt based purely on only what you know as fact, and keep on keepin' on.
2007-10-21 01:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dayna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance this is inosent but the odds are against it ,, warning signs of trouble to come will let you know after it's too late to rescue your heart ,, tell him that your not happy to feel this way but this is herting , see if he says " I won't go " or " Don't be that way " ,,, if he is worth a ring , he will tell a friend to enjoy the company of someone closer , ,,,, if he is only a friend of yours , you shouldn't get in the way of his chances of having a better life {{ WINK WINK }} ,,,
2007-10-21 01:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. It does sound suspicious that he feels the need to travel to another country to visit a woman who isn't even related to him. If he had offered to bring you along, it might not be so suspicious, but it doesn't sound like he did. You have every right to be suspicious here.
2007-10-21 01:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by lj1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you go with him?
If its feasible, offer it up as a suggestion.
Then watch his reaction. If he makes excuses or trys to convince you not to go, then I'd be worried. If he thinks its a great idea, then you can decide if you'll actually go.
2007-10-21 01:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your paranoid. So what if he has feelings for her or doesn't?
2007-10-21 01:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Phil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋