Are parents in the UK responsible for the current violence among young people?

Question

Yet more shootings and violence reported in the news today by young people on young people.

An answer I received from a previous question a 16 year old replied that it was the fault of those older than him.

Is he right?
Are we as adults not teaching our children proper and correct repsect for the law?

Are parents today derelict in their responsibilities?

Young people are being badly injured and dieing on the streets of the UK on a daily basis, what needs to be done to stop it?

Kamran, as most behaviour is leanred from the home, I do not see it as a Government issue, if the Government advises on these issues, it is accused of nannying.

Bandit2, If you knew my background you would class me as one of those chav people you would remove with your vigilante gangs.

Do you not think that such action would simply increase the levels of violence.

Answer 1

Mate seriously I am a mother of 5 kids I raised them to know right from wrong , I showed them the consequences of their action's from a very young age , while I raised my older 3 children with a firm hand and a thick belt strap I have come to find with my younger children I dont have to use the belt because they have seen the effects of it on their older sibling's .That being besides the point.

A 16 year old who think's he know's it all answer's your question and refuses to take responsbility for his actions and blame's adult's and you as an adult believe him? come off the grass mate , The government is the 1 who enforces the law , I have heard so many time's from our local police about how their hand's are tied now compared to the 80's and how the youth of today are not only fully aware of their legal right's and fully aware of what they can get away with it drives the cops nuts.

Judges complain they cant lock youth's up for graffiti'ing walls , breaking and entering , thieving and it drives them insane , my god father is a supreme court judge.

Stop blaming parents for teens choices they know right from wrong from age 10 younger if your like me and teach them right , You want kids to stop dying get up your government's @zz about giving police their right's back and parents be more vigilant in knowing when their kids start taking drugs and carrying weapons , be responsible and stop making parents like me look bad .If your kid has a gun dob em in to the police and dont think you owe them loyalty you gave birth to em you have every right to show them whats wrong and right.

Mind you unlike the USA and the Uk Australian teen deaths to guns are rare the only time we hear of threats with guns is after a mass shooting in schools in the USA.So do we blame the news stations for showing the footage?

Answer 2

Some are and some are not:

In a lot of cases where we see a young offender committing theft (shoplifting, or theft from motor vehicle), maybe burlgraly or criminal damage to our cars, they are far away from home and/or it is late at night. I know of cases where people as young as 12 have been caught burlgaling a house at 4AM...in these cases what are the parents doing at this time?

I agree that some parents out there do not look after or teach their children properly.

However, the majority of parents do teach them respect and how to behave. The fact is that it's the minority who spoil it for the rest, they are in the news all the time. It's only natural to stereotype and think that all young people are the same...but there not.

What I fear most is, the young people who are committing crime and are not being taught properly by their parents, when they have children themselves, what will they do to help them grow up properly...they won't have a decent chance in live.

The government is doing things to help with this but they are not trying hard enough, maybe they should bring back national service to teach people how to look after themselves and teach them respect.

The main problem is a lot of young people who are causing problems does not show any respect to the police whatsoever! This is wrong, more action should be taken.

Answer 3

100% ccorrect and right.far too many parents neglect the moral teaching of the children and i am afraid that far too many parents should have been sterilised at puberty because they are either stupid,morally degenerate or drug addicts,with no backbone or social responsibility.it is the small minority of parents compared to the overall population that produce the tearaways,and no one has the guts to say-i am sorry you just are not worthy of parenthood.If the parents were locked up as well when the kids did the crime then the majority of those parents would see to it that the kids did not commit any more crime.some parents cannot physically controll the kids because of age or infirmity,for those parents there should be the option of letting the army training sort them out.for far too long this country that i love called great Britain has just let the low level morons ruin a fantastic country,it is way past the time to call a halt.

Answer 4

I have always thought parents do not take enough responsibility for their children's actions. They are too concerned as to whether their child has all the materials things they need, along with the fact they want their children to 'like' them - and too many parents think the sun shines out of their off-springs' backsides so do not see fault with them!

Only mitigation I can see is that we (in the UK) have babes having babes! Young girls with no parenting skills at all, little education and a need for love which manifests itself in wanting to be a mum! (or believing that if they have sex they are suddenly grown up or will have a man stand by them) - this is not the case in the real world - too soon the majority realise their mistake and another generation grow up without decent parenting. So it goes on ad.infinitum.

Answer 5

Well I don't really accept that the 16 year old can pass all blame on to older person !!! He/She must accept personal responsibility for his/her own actions ,
However I do agree that the initial guidance should come from parents , then augmented by school and peer role models
There are far too many feckless parents around who bring children into the world and are incapable or just can't be bothered providing guidance and discipline , this then follow on with the grandchildren too

Answer 6

you're making many good factors. I stay in canada, and it somewhat isn't any distinctive here. such as you mentioned infants might desire to be dealt with as so. I grew up in a house the place admire develop right into a given and being a youthful new child, I had to earn my place, my admire. slowly yet actually, the infants we see at present are given no barriers or is it that no barriers are allowed to be made via mum and dad or society? we are raising a technology that blatantly is accustomed to this is not important in the event that they shot somebody or come living house while they like, because of the fact actually, what are you going to do approximately it? The help gadget for persons and voters alike are being side stepped. bypass to a counsellor and you will see, it is going to become "properly what could you do greater useful as a be certain? no longer even keeping the youngster responsible for incorrect doings. kin values have been replaced with video games and tube tops. infants are raised in daycares while small because of the fact the two mum and dad or one has to artwork to be waiting to get via. it somewhat is a social duty all of us might desire to be responsible for, no longer basically mum and dad. infants are the main concentration in entertainment and being "undesirable" is glorified, being a plastic female, is glorified. i'm happy to declare in spite of the incontrovertible fact that this 300 and sixty 5 days my daughters college has switched over beck to the classic college and thinking she spends maximum of her day there, i'm happy to appreciate that the morals and values I instill in her would be finished there besides. i could bypass on approximately this perpetually, yet I merely opt to declare thank you for a great question.

Answer 7

Just a couple of thoughts:

We are fast becoming little America. We are changing our language to become American. We watch a vast amount of US TV and films. Ect... Therefore taking on the values of the USA, which is a violent society.

There is also the problem of how much violence there is in the the media. It isn't just the amount but that it is seen as getting the results you want. It is also seen in some cases as the right thing to do.

Answer 8

Yes, at least partially. Children and their behaviours are hugely influenced by their home life. If they are taught early and firmly that violence is not acceptable, it is much less likely they will take part in it than kids who are undisciplined, or who witness domestic violence in their homes.
However, parents cannot be completely blamed for their children's actions. Society itself also influences the actions and decisions of its member and we should remember that kids have minds and personalities of their own that also have a part in their violence or non-violence.

Answer 9

In my opinion, it is a mixture of a lot of influential things in society nowadays. Firstly, it has to be the parents, because these are the people that gear us up for the big world. If you bring your kids up with, what I call, free - range parenting, they will not confide in you as much, they will have less respect for the parents and therefore others.
The introduction of games consoles, the best brands, and more Independence at an earlier age means that our young people are getting life too easy and being spoiled. They will then expect the same on the streets. The attitude is,if I want the latest phone, I will beat that man and take it, and if it comes to it, I will take his life. This is not the old way of getting money up to buy their own.
Secondly in a long list of things which I couldn't possibly explain in this one answer, is society itself, in that I mean attitude of friends, people's attitude to you, television adverts and programmes, lack of facilities and the law or lack of it. For instance, David Cameron's theme was "Hug a Hoodie" Now is that really the stance to take towards people who terrorise, beat, bully threaten, rob, and even murder people of all ages in our communities. What will he come off with next, kiss a rapist. Tickle a paedophile? Society has got too much ahead of itself and can't go back.

Answer 10

It is the parents fault and the educational institutions. The children need to be counsiled on a regular basis. They are at a very vunerable age. They need to know the facts of life and the dangers all around in the wicked world. Teach them young and safe guard their interests. Tell them all they need to know. You as parents who are more experienced need to educated the children.They are the future. Take care of them.Form neighbourhood groups and print pamplets and have parent meetings and discussions and do the best you all can to take care of the children.