if it sounds too good to be true, is it too good to be true? what is the status of her relationship? btw, she has been with him for around 7 year years, married for a couple
2007-10-20 23:28:18 · 19 answers · asked by teh smooth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's calling her relationship perfect all the time, she's trying to convince herself she's not miserable.
2007-10-20 23:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the status of her relationship is what she says it is. Some things might sound to good to be true, but in relationships I don't think this is the case all of the time.
When you find that right person for you and you are best friends along with being in love and respecting one another then I would say that is the combination for a perfect relationship/marriage.
I have found my perfect person and we are best friends, in love and respect one another. We don't argue...we talk things out. We spend as much time together as possible as we honestly want to be together. I could not ask for anything more perfect in my relationship. And my husband feels the same way and lets me know he does all of the time as I do him.
Some people do cover up bad relationships so they won't have to go through the 20 questions like you seem to be asking here...But that does not mean that she is one of those people who is covering up. So in this case it is very possible that her relationship is just as she says it is.
Hopefully you will find what she has for yourself one day.
And besides, why are you so concerned about this instead of being happy for her? You are not jealous are you?
be cool...
2007-10-21 00:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably depends on the person. I think that for most people, if they talk about something all the time and keep saying that it is perfect, it is likely that the opposite is the truth. All of their talk of perfection is simply wishful thinking, or magical thinking -- as if saying it over and over will make it so. Also, they do it to alleviate their pain. But I don't think this is true of everyone. Some people have the habit of talking a lot about their sweetheart, without there being anything behind it. It is part of who they are, and it makes them feel good. Usually, though, when something comes up constantly as a topic of conversation, and it seems obsessive, it means there is some problem there.
If you haven't seen the movie, Sex, Lies, and Videotape, rent it! You'll like it!
2007-10-21 00:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pythia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone, and, I mean anyone, that claimes to have a happy marraige for so many years, especially 30, is either lying to himself or doesn't see the light.
These people that stand up for a testemonial and say they've been married for forty years and have never had a fight etc, etc, either don't know what their wives are doing or, husbands during their lunch hours or, are lying to themselves
or, to everyone else.
After a poll of wives and husbands that have had marraiges for over ten years have had some kind of affairs or advances on them, almost all over the twenty year mark had an affair, a quicky and had never said anything about it.
There are some marraiges that have held up, not many and not any that were ever polled.
2007-10-21 00:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is letting everyone know that her marriage is very special. Sometimes in this life, a few people luck up and find the perfect partner..but only a few! I think any relationship is what you make it. Its like anything else, you can make it or break it. You get out of it exactly what you put in it, kinda like a job. I think she is one that has found what she has been looking for and she wants the everyone to know it. I don't think anyone is as perfect as maybe she is saying but she is very happy with him. , so...if I were you, I would wish her all the best and try to find that kind of happiness yourself. Its out there, you just have to make it happen..
2007-10-20 23:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's like this - if I have to tell you I'm classy, I'm obviously not. I'm trying to convince you with words rather than showing you with my actions.
Likewise, the woman with a "perfect" marriage and husband doesn't have to prove it by talking about how "perfect" it all is, because it actually is and there is no need to brag about it.
The one who does, obviously needs to prove to everyone that her marriage and husband are perfect - which means it's very likely that it's not completely true.
It's one thing to say you are happy with your relationship, and are proud of your husband/wife, once in a relevant conversation. It's another thing altogether if the person is seemingly trying to "prove" it to you over and over again.
2007-10-20 23:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the hell do you care what the status of her relationship is? What do you care whether her marriage is as good as she says or not? It should mean NOTHING to you as she isn't married to YOU.
2007-10-21 08:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that people can have happy marriages. I have one. But when you can't admit that you have disagreements from time to time, then you are probably trying to convience yourself other wise. Nothing is ever truely perfect.
2007-10-21 07:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone's idea of a perfect marriage is different.nobody is perfect but when 2 ppl can make it work very well and love each other,it's perfect to them.
2007-10-21 06:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by bratt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is happy.
I am in a very happy relationship. I am so purely happy with him
Some people roll their eyes but it is the full truth
2007-10-20 23:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋