why the americans are no 1 in divorce?

Question

i don't know why the ratio of divorce rate is so high in america.
why the american's won't think a lasting relationship.if parents took divorce altimately the victims are childrens.i think in every realtionship some problems are there but divorce is not a good solution.why the american's won't sacrifice thier life to their family.before marriage we should know each other and love each other.

Answer 1

I have a theory: excessive individualism and a misconception about love.

First, excessive individualism puts your need before those of any other, even your own children. Thinking like that is common to lose your patience with any stupid incommodity that may appear after some time of marriage. Also you tend to ignore your own personality defects and blame wife/husband for everything . Is like everyone wants to be king and be served all the time. Obviously, that way of living doesn't encourage a healthy marriage or even healthy relationships.

Second, a misconception about love. There is this tendency to think of love like fairy tales in which you feel infatuated with this person and everything is peaches and cream. Once you know the person disvirtues and recognizes he or she is just another human like you, you start to think that what you feel for this person is not love anymore, but a necessity to share moments together due to habit. That is so not true, love transforms, evolves. It doesn't mean it gets weaker but gets stronger. We love the feeling of tension and expectancy and that's just what is love at first. But you have to learn the beauty of love at long term, you love this person because of who he/she is, you are there for each other, to please each other, to be a team, to be his or her lover but also his most dearest friend. If people don't learn to see this stage of love as beautiful, probably the divorce rate will keep increasing since we are looking for a feeling that will always keep evolving after some time shared.

Answer 2

Because it is too damn easy to get a divorce. I think it should say that when a couple marries, they have to go to some sort of counseling before they can divorce. I believe alot of the divorces would never happen if they could find out what is causing the trouble for them.. I bet you most people that marriage, are in love, but so many things some into it, they both forget why they fell in love in the first place. If we all will sit for alittle while and think about it, we will remember the love in the beginning was so true and so special. Maybe if we all try to just keep love alive, we won't be # 1 in divorces..

Answer 3

they say that 50% of marriages fail now days. a lot of times they say it has to do with money problems and rushing into marriage. they kind of go hand in hand. two young people rush into marriage because they are crazy about each other. they get married and realize they weren't ready and don't have the money. they argue and have problems and it all goes down hill from there. also getting married at a young age and rushing into it, they haven't seen what else is out there. they get married and realize that there are a bunch of other people out there that they are attracted to. there are many things of why it happens. i guess that they just don't think before they get married. maybe it's just cause they want to have sex and that's it. i think that people need to take marriage more seriously and not just keep getting married and divorcing people until you find out what you want. i think that they take advantage of it. like it's no big deal. i think that it's a really big deal. find the one that you love and want to be with for the rest of your life and stick with it. if you see some one that is attractive, look away and forget about them. don't wonder what if or things like that, because that will cause even more problems.

Answer 4

Sorry I'm not going to sacrifice MY life so my exhusband can beat the crap out of me. Divorce sometimes is the BEST solution to a miserable marriage. If my parents had divorced us kids would have grown up much happier and mentally healthier and our parents wouldn't have wound up resenting us kids for keeping THEM in a lousy living situation. Grow up and smell the coffee, divorce isn't always BAD.

Answer 5

When people get married they think to themselves well if something goes wrong there is always a divorce. We see it as a way out if something dosen't go our way. No one seems to think that you should be sure when you get married and that getting married once is ideal. Divorce is just a easy way out and is so convient and common that most people don't want to work on things and actually honor they're marriage vows. Thats my opinion.

Answer 6

As Americans are No 1 in others fields.

Answer 7

Americans are not number one in divorce rates. They follow:
Belarus
Russian Federation
Sweden
Latvia
Ukraine
Czech Republic
Belgium
Finland
Lithuania
United Kingdom
Moldova

While I do agree it is a problem, particularly with the effect on children, it is not an American problem. It is a human problem.

Answer 8

Because in 40% of the divorce cases, the wife finds a 'bad boy' with a criminal record to put some excitment into her life. She leaves her husband and kids to be with a bad boy. In another 40%, the husband finds some hot, nubile skank to stick his d1ck into. In the remaining 20%, both happen simultaneously.

Answer 9

In my opinion too many people treat marriage like we treat everything else it is just part of our throw away society.

Throw it out and get another one. We have lost the art of communicating and tryingto resolve our prolems and just want to move on. It is part of our TV lives too many people try to mimic what hey see on TV.

Answer 10

Because they are no 1 in getting married too young & also No 1 being too liberal thinking.