I came home from work yesterday to find my wife in bed with the neighbour...who just happens to be female. She promised me she'd stop her bisexual activities. Am I wrong to consider this a betrayal ?
2007-10-20 22:17:59 · 32 answers · asked by Mr X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would of hopped in and had some fun, then i would get rid of her,and found someone else. thats what i would have done!
2007-10-21 01:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by allan l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not. If she promised it to you, and then broke said promise... Well, that's pretty much the essence what a betrayal is. Your course of action is your own, as I certainly don't know enough about the relationship between you and your wife to tell you what to do, but that is without question a betrayal, and should be treated as such.
2007-10-20 22:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Aqua The Fox 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No absolutely not. Cheating is cheating, whether it be with another man or a woman. How would she feel if she caught you with another man in the bed? Bad scenerio, I know but you get the idea. It doesn't make it any less of a betrayal just because she did it with a woman. She's doing something intimate with someone that is not you.
2007-10-20 22:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey Mr. X. Of course sex with anyone outside your marriage is betrayal. It matters not whether with a man or woman. You need to consider very hard what you will do now.
2007-10-20 22:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude! What a mess, if this is a repeating occurence and your not cool with it, its time to find a new woman that just wants only you to fool around with and only likes men. But if you like that sort of thing then climb in with them. I learned years ago not to do that sort of thing with my spouse, you get burned in the end. But if she is bi- then she probably isn't just cheating with women and without your consent it is definitely BETRAYAL!!!! Get out while you can and find you a real woman. The woman I have totally is in to men and nothing else. Good Luck
2007-10-20 22:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a betrayal....your wife is probably a latent lesbian, so if you take her back, she will eventually do this again. Consider marriage counseling first, then if that does not work, I would consider divorce.
2007-10-21 13:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a plot line from Desperate Housewives.
Unless you joined in, I would consider it a huge betrayal.
2007-10-20 22:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well even though this is kind of my fanticy it is a serious situation. I actually have a buddy who's wife left him for a women. He thought it was great with the threesomes but then his wife opted to go strictly to the other team. You have some tough decisions ahead.
Good luck and God Bless
2007-10-20 22:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What an exciting situation. It's too bad that you and your wife vowed that you would remain faithful to each other, if you hadn't, you could have the time of your life with these two ladies. But thank Allah that you took your vows seriously. Your wife is a cheater, it's as simple as that. It doesn't matter the sex of the person she chose to cheat with, the fact is that she cheated. She will do it again too, if you take her back. The only advice i can offer to you is to leave her in the gutter where she belongs.
2007-10-20 22:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by smokey virginia 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, I wouldn't say you're wrong! It's a betrayal in more than one way-- she's cheating, and she's cheating with someone of the same sex!
2007-10-20 22:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah for sure it is! You would even debated it if it was a man, you would have known it was betrayal, she cheated on you Boot the Bi*ch Out!
2007-10-20 22:21:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋