Why do some men expect to be able to have a family and a successful career?

Question

A 'mirror' question to the one posted earlier by our forum's most rabid misogynist

So, according to you a woman architect should give up her career. Her life's work - the education, the professional achievement, respect and accolades, enjoying new challenges, the intellectual stimulation, the opportunity to socialise with colleagues, the chance to take courses, to attend company sponsored conventions...

And then the father decides he'd rather be doing something else and ZOOM
Is never heard from or seen again

I see you have no argument. Reported, for posting illegal content and being a moron.

Answer 1

I only wish more men did care equally about their family and career, since it would provide more parenting for their children, and would require businesses to accommodate both men and women who wanted to support both their family obligations and their career.

But instead, a few of these anti-feminists cling to outdated ideas of what a man should do, which is work, and if they marry, have kids, and have a stay-at-home wife. They don't see how much they are missing out on in life by focusing all of their energy on a job. What a waste of a life.

Answer 2

Good question. That's just dumb and selfish. If a woman prefers to give up her career and stay home, more power to her. But if she doesn't, there is no automatic obligation of staying home. I know I prefer to take a break from my career to raise my own kids rather than having a nanny do it, but if I didn't, nobody would have the right to tell me to put my career on hold. I have put some serious money, time and energy into my education and career, how could someone expect me to give all that up because I signed a marriage contract?

Answer 3

Only narcissists would think that their lives are more important than everyone else's. Men who think that a woman should always be the one to sacrifice something in the name of parenthood need to think about their own role just a little bit more deeply. It shouldn't be a one-sided affair. Parenthood takes two. Family decisions should be made together. Compromise is a sign of respect between two people. If both could give a little, sacrifice a little, maybe both could retain what they really wish to pursue (career-wise), and still raise a healthy family together- and perhaps less marriages would end in divorce.

Answer 4

I don't know if i am helping you to prove your point or if i am helping the misogynist. I hope its the former though. Men have always had successful careers and familys but the success of their families is due to the wife. Behind every great man is a woman, right?

Answer 5

I hope that I eventually have that chance, but I think for some people to expect that is I guess a way to make them selves feel better perhaps? or something to look foward to without trying? I know that if you want that you need to put time, effort and live it. Not expect it to happen.

Answer 6

Because women expect a man to provide since she is gonna be busy having a baby and beeing a mom. Despite her ambitions and even if she doesnt want children, women look for just such a provider. She can make all the money in the world, she still wants somone who makes as much, unlike men. Therefore it is pretty natural that a man most of the times gets to have family and career, if the couple wants children.
So I wouldnt call the poster a misogynist at all, but rather a realist or somone trying to get reality across.

Answer 7

The so-called "anti-feminists" here are very confused. They begrudge a woman who seeks a man who can support her and their children, calling her "gold-digger". They then turn around and begrudge women for seeking self-sufficiency and being able to support herself and her family. They say they expect a woman to raise the children and to spend more time caring for the children than do men. Yet, when a marriage ends, they are stunned and outraged that the courts award custody of the children to the mothers more frequently because she has spent more time caring for them than has the father. They see women holding down full-time jobs AND doing most of the housework and child-rearing, and they see men who contribute much less to their families. As much as they begrudge women, I suspect that these so-called "anti-feminists" here are in truth confused boys who are wondering more about what is wrong with their own fathers than what is wrong with women.

Answer 8

Men have less gender-dependant short comings when it comes to being successful in most of the careers they choose to have. If a random man chooses to have a successful career as a counselor for women with post-partum or pre-partum depression, they might find it challenging.

Men also have less career-dependant short comings when it comes to being a successful father and husband. If a random man choose to have a career as multi-national sales person for a product and wanted to have his family always stationed at one place and be a successful father and husband, he might find it challenging.

Women have more gender-dependant short comings (menstruation, maternity, physical and mental capacities) when it comes to being successful in many of the careers they choose to have.

Working women have more career-dependant short comings when it comes to being a successful mother and wife.

Truth is sometimes bitter.

Answer 9

Because culturally the man is still the bread winner and the woman the home body. I think it is a strong cultural process because men can not share the duties of pregnancy, birth, and family ****** with women.

Answer 10

We need you guys to help us save the world you know what I mean It is like since you got the strength then Help us woman anyway We woman suffer more than you guys We do the chores and stuff so do understand please.give me a break