What will you do if your FRIEND never say "THANK YOU" to you???

Question

or he/she never appriciate every little good things that you've dont to him/her....

Answer 1

I know how irritating that is. Her mother and father should have taught her manners when she was 2 years old, or she should have learned "by example" by now anyhow. She is either rude, unappreciative or ignorant. But, if she is your friend, and you value her regardless of her "ways" --- then don't expect anything in return. What ever you do for her, or give to her, should be from your heart-- no strings attached (or thanks expected).

Answer 2

I just laid into her when I walked two miles to come pick her up in a borrowed car and she got out and walked away. I called her and said how happy I was I could help her in her time of need after walking 2 miles in the snow so she could save cab fair. .. If they are really your friend they would feel ashamed and apologize. Just remind them how good you are to them and if they can't see that, just stop doing things with them and act cool toward them till they do. If they still dont they wernt worth all the trouble.

Answer 3

Very close friends may not say 'thank you' for whatever good you are doing to them. It does show how close they are to you. Even some of my close friends don't thank me at times. That doesn't mean that they are not thankful to me. Even a smile from your friend would mean a lot more than 'thank you'. Some feel that saying thank you is just a formality and such formalities need not be there among good friends.

BTW 'thank you' for asking this question..lol

Answer 4

Depends on the person! How do they act? Do they say thank you to others?
My aunt settled this with a few of our cousins. When they didn't say thank you, she called them later and asked the point blank. She would say, "I was just calling to find out if you liked the gift. Since you didn't say 'Thank you' I was wondering. I gave you something I thought you would really like/appreciate. Was I mistaken? I could take it back if you really didn't want/like it."
Usually it fixed it...but if it happened again, she didn't give them gifts...and she gave NICE gifts...and they noticed and so did we! Most of us took notes and didn't let it happen to us!
Maybe they just weren't raised with manners!

Answer 5

Hopefully they will appreciate your honesty while you tell them how you feel. Don't bottle it in. Just explain that when you put yourself out there and do something nice for that person, that it would be nice to get a little appreciation back.

Answer 6

Hello there,
when i read your question, it brought me back to many years ago,
with my best friend, who still is,
there was a time, i felt taken for granted, used, convienent for my friend, but i loved her very much and wanted to be a big part of her life,,
and i was,
and i turned my world upside down just to help her and make her happy.. i will try to keep this kinda short,,
but i really want to connect with you, and tell you what i learned,

it is true, when you give of yourself, enthusiastically, and maybe emotionally, and mayabe even make a sacrifice, to help your friend or show support,, it is true you ask supposed to do a good deed, unconditionally.. and expect nothing,
yes i guess GOD DOES THIS CONSTANTLY,, AND HE IS ALSO WAITING IN LINE LIKE THE REST OF US FOR SOME GRATITUDE,
Anyway, i was very frustrated, as i thoughtr i should be the number one thought and consideration from my friend,, after all, i was giving, giving giving, doing, helping rescuing,, etc,
i felt like i was a "human 7-11 store.. and everyone at that time seemed to be more important, and respected than me,, so what do i do? DROP HINTS? come out and say, hey ,, you keep asking, more and more, and have turned me into your personal mom, dad, caretaker, mentor psych and buddy to count on, and i felt i was not only not getting thank you's i was expected to be this hero.. and i should be a big enough person to just know i am "loved" AND APPRECIATED.. ETC.

well, i know now, that i did not understand what "my part" OF THIS SITUATION WAS, TO HELP CREATE IT, AND KEEP IT GOING,,
i learned that i expected certain responses, and consideration,, for all of my goodness,
TO BE EMOTIONALLY AND VERBALLY REWARDED,, BUT OH MY GOD, TELL THE WHOLE WORLD, ETC
WHAT ABOUT ,MY NEEDS, AND PROBLEMS??
it was



was a real crisis, and painfull for me in my personal life .,

I am still best friends,with her after a few years of us not speaking and me feeling that the whole situation was cruel, to me, and unfair,, etc etc etc,, but GUESS WHAT??

expectation is the "mother" OF FRUSTRATION ,, i was creating the whole situation, not knowing that i kept making it easier for her to ask,, and i kept making it my job to be the hero,, but did not like the pay check, SORRY THIS IS LONG,, i do hope you read this and understand,, that your friend who does not say thank you (at least that right) MIGHT NOT even condsider your emotional needs, or know how to,

and the easier you make it for others to take advantage of you,, they will. after all, you created it,
SO, IT IS UP TO YOU TO STEP BACK TREAT YOUR FRIEND THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED
and sit down and share you with them and tell them that you feel like your role in their life has been demoted,or set u p wrong,

ok darn,, i dont have a clue if i helped you,
to wrap it up.. dont make ayour life and plans around someone elses needs,,,
but mostly, dont do a favor or give anything with your built in emotional need for a "receipt" JUST LEARN TO SAY NO, AND TO HELP THEM IN THE AREAS WHERE THEY ARE WEAK,, AND continue to be a good friend,, and keep your relationship on a friends level, not a paycheck, and just do not give or do more of anything,, if the results are not in your best interest,,
good luck. i hope you can comfortably tell your friend this, and let them know you still will be there, but you have needs also, that have not been met, (LIKE GRATITUDE) AND RESPECT,

Answer 7

im the kinda guy who doesnt expect anything in return for my help...

☼☼ Long Live The King Of Pop ☼☼

Answer 8

I actually get upset, after awhile. If it slips once or twice, it doesn't bug me. I say thankyou alot, just to remind them that I appreciate them. And hopefully they catch on. :)

Answer 9

Its ok for me...as long as my friend accept it. anyway im not looking forward for any return by ay means.

Answer 10

nothing, some people are that way..... there are many ways of saying thank you with out speaking the words.... i would rather have reciprocated actions than mere words.....