what if your wife stated out all night and wont tell you were she was and that i should trust her what true?

Question

what if your wife stated out all night and wont tell you were she was and that i should trust her what true

Answer 1

That is just rude. I dont care how independent a person wants to be, there is such a thing as consideration. When we love someone, we worry, and her refusing to tell you where she was is just rude. It shows she doesnt understand what love means. I would be very angry with her and I would explain to her that you were worried. If she still refuses to tell you where she was, I would be asking her to pack her bags.

Answer 2

How would she have acted toward you if you had done this? If you have ...maybe she done it to make you see how that feels? If so two wrongs don't make a right and you both need to communicate and work out your problems before things get more out of hand. On the other hand if you have never disrespected her or have given her a reason to act out like this ...it would totally be unacceptable and she better start talking to me and tell me what is going on here! I would not tolerate emotional abuse or game playing here and put a stop to it. The bottom line here is that you love each other and are committed to work out your issues and treat each other right. If you don't you will both lose each other and the marriage will become unrepairable. You definately have some deep problems here in your relationship with each other and if you mean to fix them then remain dedicated to do that! Don't get into a shouting match because this won't solve anything. When a marriage starts having trust issues your relationship is headed for the break down. If I were you and did not want to lose my relationship I would get into some marriage counseling with my wife because if you don't ...you are both headed for no future together.

Answer 3

I think you should remind her marriage isn't a series of tests, you do trust her but she is unreasonable for turning last night into a test for you- no one would feel comfortable without any explanation - if she's done nothing wrong and loves you, she shouldn't torment you with it. If, on the other hand she has breached your trust then remind her love means kindness, sometimes that means hurting you in order to avoid greater pain later.
It is possible that she really has done nothing wrong but the circumstances sound 'dodgy' e.g. she stayed at the house of a male colleague. She doesn't want to tell you the truth because she fears you will overreact and that no matter how many times she tells you she is innocent you wont believe her. I think it's most likely she has wimped out of a long, boring and ultimately pointless conversation (as she will have to spend hours convincing you)
I'm sorry you are so anxious, hang on in there - hopefully when things calm down you will be able to talk to each other properly.

Answer 4

You know your marriage has been on a slippery slope for some time, don't you? Too many arguments? Little trust? Not talking to each other? etc etc.

I'm a man and I'm not going to automatically blame your wife, I know it takes two to ruin a marriage!

Her staying out all night is a symptom, not a cause.

The questions are can you/do you want to repair your marriage or is it time for a split? If it's the former then the two of you need to discuss what happened BEFORE your wife stayed out all night. And you have to agree.

Answer 5

Wow. Did she tell you that she was out all night? And she won't say where? Have you done this to her, and she is extracting revenge?

If not, then hell no, you should not trust her. In fact what you should do, since she hasn't/won't tell you, is go to almost any small rural town, to the bar on 2nd avenue, where pert near every night there are young ladies in there looking for a good time, and will flat out tell you what they'll do for you. Go get some, dude.

Answer 6

Is she a secret service agent? No? Then I think you have a "right" to know where she was and what she was doing.

Trust is something that is earned, not handed out blindly. A husband/wife who stays out all night, and who won't tell you where he/she was, is just playing games with your head.

The only time this is acceptable is if you have done this to her previously and she is giving you a taste of your own medicine.

Answer 7

Though in theory she shouldn't need to tell you where she is to be trusted, I would be out of my mid with worry if my husband stayed out all night, or was even a couple of hours alter than expected, and to lack the respect, concern for your feelings, or any other want or need to tell you where she is suggests that your relationship is on very shaky ground. I'm sorry.

Answer 8

If she cant tell you she dosent want you to know and there are not many reasons to tell a spouse where you have been. The fact that she didnt even lie about it makes it worse. She knows you are hurting and dosent even care to cover the situation.

Now you are going to have to think back and look at all the times she was "out with her friend" will you be able to leave the past like that or will it keep you awake at night.

Answer DIVORCE!!!

Answer 9

Thats disrespectful to you for her not to tell you where she was. Especially if you were worried about her. Sounds like she is being a B. I would not trust that, because she should have NO problem telling you where she was if she has nothing to hide. She could solve the problem by just telling you, so she is creating and perpetuating the problem.

Answer 10

Definately on the lines of a "deal-breaker" ... What if the shoe was on the other foot. Sure you should trust her! But she should conduct herself in a manner that deserves your trust. I think even Springer would say the same.