2007-10-20 20:10:35 · 14 answers · asked by Gabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because you are married, doesnt mean you have never had feelings for someone else. Attending a funeral is a sign of respect. Your spouse should be fine with it. If she isnt, then she is terribly insecure. If she kicks up a stink, then I would stand my ground and tell her not to be so stupid. The former girlfriend/wife is dead therefore she cannot be a threat. Go pay your condolences, it is fitting.
2007-10-20 20:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I already went by this in August. My exhusband of merely approximately 2 yrs died the day after my fiftieth birthday & a week previously he would have became fifty one. we've 4 infants at the same time (26F,21M,19F & 16M) the youngest 2 are the two specific desires, our oldest become in her final month of being pregnant & our different daughter become recouperating from getting hit via a vehicle in June & our older son become interior the army national safeguard in Afghanistan. We have been at the same time over 24 yrs married 21, the final 12+ yrs of the marriage have been Abusive & thoroughly Sexless. He become as quickly as my love & become nonetheless the father to our youngsters, no count what a jerk he became into. confident, I attended & No, there have been no issues or scenes on the a million day mixed wake & funeral, then mourner's meal. It become a confusing for our youngsters, so why make it worse via asserting or doing something hurtful or stupid to break your infants. stable success, take care & would God bless.
2016-11-09 02:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your spouse should treat it as any other friend or acquaintance of yours. If a friend of yours passed, would she have a problem with you attending? Of course not, so the same should be true for an ex.
2007-10-20 20:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the girlfriend wasn't a girlfriend while you were married to her, I would think she would be fine with it. Ask her to attend the funeral with you. Just because you cared about someone in the past, doesn't take anything away from what you have with your wife now.
2007-10-20 20:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The spouse should understand. It's a sad event when a former friend or lover dies.
2007-10-24 20:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that she should be perfectly fine with it. People go to funerals, to pay their respect to the family, as well as to the one who has passed away. I think that going would be the right thing to do. Just make sure that you tell your wife who she was, and why you want to go. I can't imagine why she would have a problem with it.
I know it I found out that one of my exes had passed away, I would tell my husband about it, and we would go to the funeral together. I just think it's the respectful thing to do.
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2007-10-21 02:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not have a problem with it. Especially a former spouse.
2007-10-20 20:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a mature person she should understand.... it really depends though.... if this was someone that was very important in your life then I see no problem....if it were just a girl you use to date then it may be a different situation... history is the key thing here.... I guess ask yourself if the situation were reversed how would you respond.
2007-10-20 20:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would let you attend the funeral, with no qualm. She can't be jealous of a person already passed on ?!
2007-10-20 20:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really see that that would be a problem. They should be perfectly willing to let you go and be sorry for the loss of a loved one, (even if it is from the past).
2007-10-20 20:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Clementine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋