I just got married a week ago and my husband is the service. I miss him alot and honestly he isnt being very nice to me. He tells me today that I am clingy and I nag him... WTH!? Why marry me then? We are already 1400 miles away what the hell am I clinging too. I love him and I know he loves me but I am lost as to what I need to do. I want this marriage to work, but for the both of us... I dont want to make him happy while making myself unhappy. Any advice?
2007-10-20 19:30:00 · 10 answers · asked by Iamscaredformylife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for 2 years. I am 24 and he is 23. He is in the Navy and I have talked to him since then and its possible I overreacted. I am slightly insane and VERY emotional.
2007-10-22 09:03:07 · update #1
This sounds pretty typical for young, newlyweds. I am sure that you two realized that marriage is FULL of bumps along the road. I suggest working on your communication and compromise (two very key aspects in marriage). Don't worry, things will get easier with experience.
2007-10-20 19:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are off to a rough start. Consider this you need to be more accomadating to him since he is in the military. He is probably under a lot of pressure we are at war right now. Also he is far away and does miss you I am sure of that but you also need to not call him several times a day. It will look bad on his record if he is taking personal calls and you nag or argue with him over petty things while he is trying to get his work done. Just rest assured everything will fall into place soon. When are you moving to be with him where he is stationed. SOON I HOPE!!!! You should fill your hours with returning gifts, sending cards, and things like that for now. If you are in school concentrate on your studies knowing you are in his thoughts all day and night long. He loves you it is just an adjustment period in his life being married he doesn't know how to react. I take it its his first marriage. Trust me it will get better one week isn't that long to really mean much.
2007-10-20 20:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Joe A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you either lived together or courted before marrying, but one week is a bit too short to be already fighting.
I know that Army and Marines train their men for aggression to such an extent that they have a tough time settling down and being able to have relationships with women for several years after they get out of the armed forces. It takes them a while to settle back into civilian life, and some never quite make the transition and stay in macho mode.
In the case of people deployed in a hot war, you may also be dealing with post-traumatic stress when he gets back.
2007-10-20 19:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No real advice but a comment.... marriage is hard enough and to be so far from each other makes it even more difficult... I wonder why people bother getting married knowing that they are going to be separated right a way?
2007-10-20 19:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mt fiance is a merchent marine and is gone for a month then home for 2 weeks,your husband should appreciate the fact that he found someone thats willing to support what he does and can handle being away from him,its normal to miss him of course,but that was just rude of him,get out while its still early.
2007-10-20 19:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by spacey_stacey 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds to me like u need a chill pill. Guys like to be left alone. When i was gone for a while, i kept getting calls from my friends. it was annoying. So give him a break. Ur overdoing it. U prolly are nagging.
2007-10-20 19:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Oooohhh...not a very good sign honey bunches....start saving up, you might need that money. I hope that since he's so far away, he's not cheating...
2007-10-20 23:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when he comes back sit down and talk,did you marry young
2007-10-20 21:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by sky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long were together before you got married?
2007-10-20 19:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop acting like children, you may not know this but he is scared to death of getting killed overseas, he needs you! dont let him fool you.
2007-10-21 00:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋