I know it isnt okay to sleep with another womans husband, but ive been doing it for years. I do always feel guilty afterwards. Now im in love with a married man. He tells me that he doesnt love her and hes only there for the kids sake. Should i wait around for him? I also feel real guilty because when his wife goes away some times he invites me over and we have sex in their bed..and sometimes in the kids room when they arent home. Im not really comfortable with that and id like to stick to the living room and kitchen. How do i tell him this?
2007-10-20 18:59:05 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lol, you guys are really attacking me. I cant help it if i have what his wife doesnt. And about the feeling guilty thing..i do..some of the times. I dont feel guilty about havin sex in his bed or the kids..its just a bit weird.
2007-10-20 23:14:12 · update #1
are you f'n retarded? what a homewrecker!
2007-10-20 19:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Its only forever not long at all 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guilty>??>>> u must be kidding.
Lol,,,do u knw what is something called 'Self respect'
How do you feel about yourself? Is that what your life for? Break others home for your own self. Shame on you lady.
I will live alone rather than spoiling someone life and sleeping around. Plz go away and find a nice man who is matured and honest. This man, why is he cheating on his wife? That too, he does not have a lil respect for his wife, or even his kids.
I dont think u r doing right anyway. Plz try to be a nice human being. I dont want to hurt u, just saying be a nice considerate person as sometime you might need that.
2007-10-20 19:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by jenni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply say the words as you have said them here.
Or .. you say "no way" .
It's an age-old thing for a married man to tell his lover that he is only in the marriage for the kids sake. Usually, the man is just playing around .. thus, cheating on his wife. And usually, the man doesn't plan on going any where.
Be careful of what you send into another person's life - because it has a way of coming back into your own life.
If this man can bring you into his home where he lives with his wife and his kids .. he could do the same thing to you.
It is your decision whether you want to wait around on him, or not. If you get him, you will already know that you will have a cheater.
The decisions you put in your life, determines your life.
2007-10-20 19:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I been or lets say I was seeing a married man for six years and I don't do it for fun I fell in love with him and a year later found out he was married I was dumb for staying in that situation but it seems that u don't give a **** about his wife or kids u don't even feel bad ur only concern is the sex what is wrong with u? I know I did wrong too I should have never let it get that far but man ur are one twisted individual u even have sex in his bed the same bed he shares with his wife do u have any pride or respect? Omg even the kids room? What goes around comes around I know that one day its gonna come back to me for the mistakes I've done but I feel sorry for u cause ur gonna get it worse. I did what I did and I was wrong for that but I never did what ur doing now.
2007-10-20 19:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by super bad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all been there and done this ive been told that this is wrong and yes it is wrong , Ive been told by my friend that he didnt love his wife anymoe but he would leave his wife for no woman so guess what happen it ended. Your in love with this married man go over his wifes house when she is away this is very disrespectful to his wife and kids. This man has know respect either. You really dont have any morals at all you need to leave this man alone because you will wind up gettig hurt and so will his family. Why are you waiting around you need to leave him alone. He doesnt love her but stay because of the kids give me a break. he wants his cake and eat it to.
2007-10-21 14:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him that you want to stick to sex in the living room and kitchen. You leave, and fast. Think about this...if he is willing to cheat on his wife and sleep with you in their bed, what is going to happen to YOU when he leaves her, (if he even does). Honey, he wants his cake and to eat it too. Look around you in their home. Kids, HER things on the wall etc. Do you want that? Only there for the kids sake you say. I call bull schmidt! If he was there for the kids, he would take them and kid the woman out. No he wants to get it all...you, the house, his money, the kids, AND his wife. Get a grip. Go after something you can seriously have....this guy is only using you.
2007-10-20 19:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You evidently don't feel "guilty" as you say or you wouldn't be doing this. We are never faced with a temptation that we can't overcome. You just don't want to.
My world has been torn apart by the affair my husband had with someone like you. My heart was ripped out and stomped on. My bed was used as well and the thought that someone like you was in it truly nauseates me. I could vomit as I type.
Do you care about anyone but yourself? Do you have a conscience? Do you realize that the pain you are helping to inflict is so bad that it is indescribable with words? Can you comprehend how pathetically shallow you sound? Are you aware that you are the kind of woman that every woman hates? Do you know what it feels like to be almost dead inside? I do.
There are consequences for your type of perverted, selfish and immoral behavior. When they come to you, don't say you weren't warned.
2007-10-20 20:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have had some terrible issues when you were growing to have a pattern like this... dating married men? Have you thought about seeking a therapist? This might help resolve your problem, or understand the cause of why you keep dating married men. One of my close friend is actually in same position as you are now.. weird.. but she too keeps dating married men who have kids??? And she feels terrible after but keeps doing it? I actually convinced her to seek help, hehe.. You should do the same before you wreck someone elses family. The only one thats going to be really hurt are the kids, not just the wife.. think about that.
2007-10-20 19:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by mommiesville 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you have problems. He says that he does not love his wife.....well that is the damn truth, no married man that has slept with other women love their wife, nor does he love his kids.....he is #1, and cares for no one else but himself. so you think you love him....well guess what, he knows that you now know that he sleeps around, and will do the very same to you. Because he loves no one but himself. If he loved anyone else such as his kids....he would have never slept around, and jeopardized their happiness, home and family. You need to find a new hobby besides being the married man's play toy....that is all that you are you know, just a toy nothing more nothing less, and he is going to tell you anything to keep getting what you have between your legs.
2007-10-20 19:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man will always lie about how he does not get this or that and he doesnt love her and will leave her.. All you are doin is destroying a family if you only knew the pain and heartache that wife and kids will go thru you would not be so selfish. I know i have been there after 23 years he cheated and ruined our family my girls will not even speak to him. Is it worth it?
2007-10-21 00:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by pa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling guilty does not make you stop. He is lying to you. Who stays married for the kids? If people are miserable in their marriage it makes the kids miserable too. He is feeding you a line of crap. I bet he sleeps on the couch too? You are sick enough having sex in her bed but the kids beds also? I would not wait. He will also cheat on you sooner or later.
2007-10-20 20:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋