Is there men out there that don't look at porn when there married cause they know it is wrong and will distroy a marriage and actually lives for there family and puts them first then themselves and know how to treat a women with dignaty and respect or are you all just scum bags and all you care about is drinking smoking checking out woemn and porn no matter what you have at home waiting for you . Are church going men more differant and respectful then those who don't go to church ?
2007-10-20 18:57:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I must say that you pegged it right on about men that look at porn being scum. Actually, the word is adulterers and fornicators. And, yes, I am a married man, and no I do not look at porn. In fact, my wife left me over 2 years ago and I have not seen or heard from her since...and I STILL don't look at porn! It is sin, not to mention I love my wife and I vowed to be true to her "until death do us part". Looking at porn would be breaking my vows to God and my beloved wife. Love is not a feeling, it's a CHOICE!
Jesus said, "if you look at a woman and lust after her, you have committed adultery with her..." There is no such thing as a man looking at porn and not lusting after the woman in the picture! Thus, any married man looking at porn is committing adultery, and any unmarried man looking at porn is committing fornication. Both of which are sin.
2007-10-20 20:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by avidmark4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience. We are not all the same. I am not married although have many friends who are. I cherish the institution of marriage and do not think I would ever do those things you mentioned if I was married. It kind of ticks me off when I see friends go out and drink all night and party and have a great wife at home and kids. It is just plain STUPID. I don't have a girlfriend and haven't had one in years. Girls always want to go out with LOSERS and I don't know why all these years I have tried to figure it out. It all goes to show you get what you look for or the effort you put into a relationship. If you have a husband that does these things you need to put your foot down and lay down the law and draw a line in the sand and tell him you will not stand for it. It is the only way you will get him to stand up and notice. Tell him you cherish your relationship and when you got married you promised to be honest to each other and share your feelings. Tell him it makes you unhappy and you want to be his one and only PRINCESS. Tell him thats what he married you for to please him and be his one and only.
2007-10-20 20:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Joe A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill answer this question real fast-like so you can understand it, every male who looks at this knows your not a mature adult. For these reasons: 1. Ok so are you implying we should cheat
2. You didn't ace very many spelling tests did you? And yes its is rather childish to look at porn when you are married. But there is such a thing as looking at the menu but not placing an order. (Looking at other females but not having sex with them.) And porn, keeps some marriages afloat. So before you post another thread put it through a spell check. This however does not mean I support the porn industry. And you, talking about morals..pfft, this is America.
2007-10-20 19:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Matt B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1. Don't put your morals on the whole world. You can only apply your morals to you, so therefore porn is only wrong for you.
2. It only destroys a marriage when it's used to control. Such as a woman controlling her man by taking sex away.
3. Men looking at porn is equal to women shopping.
4. Enjoying sex does not mean you have no dignity or respect. It means that you know what you like and you aren't afraid of it.
5. Men are men, most men go to church to meet women.
2007-10-20 19:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Going to church doesn't automatically make you a christian. For years I had a horrible internet porn addicition (whistle clean since Jan 2000) that cost me my first marriage. This was while I was a student leader at my college campus ministry. God love my fiancee, she's been direct enough to tell me that she doesn't approve of that and loving enough to help me deal with all my issues from that. I would warn anyone against it, regardless of whether you think you can get addicted or not. It always winds up huting a lot of people, including yourself.
2007-10-20 19:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Scorned Kitty,
You'll find good people AND bad people everywhere. Sure, I'd like to think you'll raise the odds of looking at church, but like anywhere else, you have to be careful...smart...wise...you know what I'm saying.
I was a regular "church goer" for awhile, but kept having problems w/ the hypocracy of so many...now I practice my beliefs on my own.
Don't let my experiences sour you though. There are very good people out there, even in churches!!! ;-)
Regards & happy hunting.
2007-10-20 19:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by RacerX 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1. read up in the bible how the church becomes corrupt in the end days. read up on what is the proper church of the bible, there are many among you. Only 1 is the actual church (and no, its not catholic to those who think its it cause of oldest), there is a name given in the bible to His church and how to spot it.
2. sad what you speak of is among us in men due to how women dress. Again if we check the bible it says women should dress covered up, nothing sexy, etc. Now this isn't to suppress women... its actually to keep the sex light switch turned off in men. For a man is designed to go on sight... and God knew he made women fair. For even the angels came and took up wives for they too found them beautiful.
If women of the world would dress more like those in Islam do, not saying head covering and all. But more of a (bad word) moo-moo than a mini skirt and a halter top, we would see a change in men here on those topics of sex, porn, lust. Also removing the use of make up would greatly help this as well. For the book of Enoch (remember, Enoch walked with G_D and G_D was pleased with him) tells us that a fallen angel Azâzêl is who is behind make up and how its bad. Even the bible mentions this as well (Ezekiel 23:40, Jeremiah 4:30, 1Timothy 2:9).
3. Part of this problem is the churches fault. For it only speaks of things and items it so chooses to keep "the money flowing in" instead of hitting the facts, the words of the bible, the entire bible. Not bits and pieces to fit what that church so desires to hear. This falls upon the pastor, priest or minister of said church. For like a dad, they have their children before them that THEY WILL be held accountable for.
4. What you seek in a man, is what I seek in a female. But I cannot find one that is clean so to speak. And having eyes that see and ears that hear. I cannot have just a seat warmer as the one on my arm. She too must have eyes that see and ears that hear.
5. What you are seeing are parts of the end days. The scoffing, fortification, lies, etc that are spoken of. And we, those that follow G_D, the saints, are told to stand fast during these times. For these times are still to get much much worse
I do not attend church, nor have a congregation. Good luck in your venture, its slim pickings... from both sides of the fence.
2007-10-20 19:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
How Dare You judge anyone.... as a church going man I will quote you from the Bible.... Judge not lest ye be judged!!!!
I an married and my wife and I go to church all the time she has very high morals and standards but even she is not a prude.... at times we do watch porn together.... at times we watch it and laugh because some of it is funny.....Lighten up!
2007-10-20 19:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do you think watching porn will ruin yoru marriage;
or its hurt if a man look porn....?
its just like women watcing AD of men like cigerett / perfume /soap /shapoo;
we don`t get hurt or that will not ruin our marriage.
but women think other way because they feel insecure; because of their inferiority complex.
if he pass comment on porn to wife; thats wrong;
there is no difference in church going men and other men all are same. some are saints others act like saints.
As per church
thinking about BAD
Talking about BAD
and commiting it, is SIN, thats not mean that it will ruin your marriage.
2007-10-20 19:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by 498A_Crusader 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Although I am not married myself, I know for a fact my Brother-in-law is one of the best husbands. VERY CATHOLIC.
Try not to look at all the guys who look at porn and "get their fix" so to speak so negitivly, they are just thoose few going dow nthe wrong path and need alot of guidence before what they really want, is gone.
2007-10-20 19:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋