What would you do if your spouse wanted to relocate the family across the country ( away from all family and friends) and your marriage wasn't in the greatest shape? Would you pull the kids out of school, quit your job and leave if your spouse had the potential to make a lot of money? Lets say they would go even if you didn't and expected to have a long distance relationship. What would you do?
2007-10-20 18:50:00 · 7 answers · asked by Keshia G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is asking a lot for you just for the sake of making more money. Do you guy's really need the pay increase? I would ask myself what you would do if you did move and your marriage failed and you are all alone across the country. The fact that he is willing to move even if you are not doesn't speak well for him, he is putting money as top priority over you and his children. If your marriage is on the rocks as it is now then having him move and you stay would only make it worse. If you went then the stress of moving with your children would not help your marriage any either, especially since you would have no friends and family nearby to talk to and to help you out with the children. If possible try to stay where you are and if money is a problem then the two of you can look for better paying jobs in your hometown. Don't make any hasty decisions without talking it over with your husband and close friends and family.
2007-10-20 19:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think this over very carefully. Let him go by himself and stay
in contact by mail or phone and see how you feel after about
6 months. It would be very scary for you and your children to
be far away from friends and family in a new environment. Then if
you are not getting along think about more misery for you and
the children. Let him go and tell him you both need to see counselors and get the help to save your marriage. The money will not cure a shaky marriage. Talk to a good attorney in private just to see what your rights are in case
you can't work things out. If you have to get a legal separation for awhile he will have to pay expenses in the mean time until you decide what to do. Find out your rights either way in case
you take the children or if he takes them to another country you may not get them back. A good attorney will advise you
what is best for you and your family. Good Luck!
2007-10-20 19:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by MESSENGER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a matching concern ideal now with my husband different than the pass is for particular and my husband would not have a decision. he's energetic accountability militia and he has gotten orders for Alaska sometime in March of next 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. we are able to be shifting 3800 miles from all of our friends and relatives and to ideal it off i'm p/g with my first infant due in Dec. My husband has been on lots of deployments to the midsection east and so on..yet this may well be out first pass to a diverse area of the rustic. we've been on the backside we presently stay at for the reason that we began relationship in 2005. I constantly knew this might take place yet i assume i by no skill thought it would. I agreed to bypass with my husband because of the fact i knew once I married him that the militia existence may well be like this. Now your not militia so that's a lil diverse. yet my husband has offered to allow me stay living house an dot paintings at the same time as our infant is little and he will make rather respectable earnings in Alaska. So i desperate to bypass and courageous the frozen north. bear in mind you additionally could make friends everywhere and those days the internet will save you linked with relatives. Dont decrease fee this opportunity it must be a changing component on your existence.
2016-11-09 02:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not going well, the move is likely to just put even more strain on your relationship, especially if you no longer have the close support of your family and friends. I would probably let him go and move there later if things get better between you. Good luck!
2007-10-20 18:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy Indigo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say.. what does it exactly mean "wasn't in the greatest shape".... think about it long and hard, before deciding... or maybe have him go there first to set up the house and schools etc... then see how the seperation pulls the relationship..then make your final decision. Good Luck :)
2007-10-20 18:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Asya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support my husband and his ambition to have a good life and a career he enjoys. I would move if he needed to for his job. Just as he would move for me if I wanted to go.
2007-10-20 18:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd go with him if i wanted to stay with him. i would only remain if we decided to split
2007-10-20 18:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by hj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋