When my sister and I were young my parents used to bathe us together...for some odd reason I think I may have had sex with my sister. I'm not too sure on that though...I hope not. This is really killing me mentally. I can't afford a therapist and I was hoping someone here could help me out...
2007-10-20 18:44:37 · 5 answers · asked by The New Guy 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
1-800-AFAMILY (1-800-232-6459) http://www.family.org has trained counselors (and who will also provide you with valued counselors in your local area, perhaps some who are doing therapy as pastoral counseling, hence less costly or even gratis).
A good point is to forgive yourself as a child who didn't know all the prohibitions, etc. Secondly, appreciating the fact that you don't seem to have a clear memory. Thirdly, asking directly and/or through God/Christ Jesus, forgiveness of your sister.
After a "Focus on the Family" counselor (1-800-AFAMILY number) has talked with you, you will have more and genuine options. Additionally, would suggest, after the giving of forgiveness to self, and asking of forgiveness, and considering the "Focus" advice, putting the concerns on the "back burner." God is able and willing to forgive many, many things, including supposed incest.
best regards, and sorry that you have been troubled for so long,
j.
p.s. Would also recommend "Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov, a fine and compassionate book.
2007-10-20 19:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by j153e 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The very fact that you are not sure about the act , shows that you donot know what you are talking about . For sure , when you bathed together you ( and your sister) noticed the difference between the two of you , physically. You were curious , too. That knowledge must have opened some questions within yourself and , at that age , you would know know what to ask and whom to ask. coupled with that you would have seen programs on TV or other media about man and woman , boy and girl. That is all . You must have made some innocent , moves without knowing what you did .
Now, you are somewhat clear. Somewhat because you , now , know that sexual acts are NOT done with siblings (morally) and such sexual advances are perfectly ok with the other girls. Then , when you were young , your sister was also a 'girl' for you. Now you know a sister is different from a girl, in that sense.
You did nothing wrong and you are perfectly ok. A therapist is going to take you through a series of emotional trauma and you will end up feeling more .Best is a consellor in your school or if you are a christian ( I am not) use the confessional angle. The father sitting on the other side of the screen is equally a counsellor. Snap out of this guity feeling.
2007-10-20 18:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can think of countless meaningless, selfish, embarassing, and stupid things I've done in the past. But I don't dwell too much in the past. Many people have done similar things and I tell myself I am no better than others. I am not saints nor am I the devil. I am just an average Joe. And so are you. Move on.
2007-10-20 19:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by oskeewow13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? and how old is your sister? and how old were you when this happened?
why do you think it happened?
ask yourself these questions then talk to her about it untill you work out this puzzel
also id like to no the anwsers
good luck
2007-10-20 18:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Dewd. I've never met either you -or- your sister.
But why not just ask her if -she- remembers any such incident?
Doug
2007-10-20 19:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋