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Question

During my last year of college,I had a sexual relationship with this guy.It didn't end all too well because he claimed that he thought I was me who had been prank calling his phone.Anyhow, after he did accuse me of that we still continued to sleep with each other, I called him, he called me, there was no problem until suddenly I text message him about something I left at his house and he tells me to not call him anymore and threatens to tell people we mutually know about our relationship. And that he will put a restraning order against me and that He said he would'put my business out in the street" so the next day I get a call from one of his close friends whom never calls me inviting me to his event.This particular friend happens to be his best friend and who happens to be one of the members of the club I tried to join)so she invites me to his event, but I didn't go, and so everytime I see her school she ignored me, he ignores me, I'm feeling bad, feeling like I did something wrong
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11 minutes ago

I try to reach out to her to wish her happy birthday, and congratulations on her performance at a school event ad I get ignored, I see him at school he ignores me, then I see him again and he smiles and calls me over so we can talk, but I tell him I have to go to class, but wish him luck.The other members of the club speak to me , another member even gave me a hug, so i guess my question would be should I still try to join the club even though my reputation might have been ruined by me having a relationship with him?

Answer 1

I say whatever club this is, try and join. All they can do is tell you know. However, this guy sounds like BAD NEWS. Please stop sleeping with him...he's just not worthy.

Answer 2

I think it best not to join the club. I'm sure there are others you could join. Just because you don't join the club doesn't mean you can't be friends with some of the people who are treating you well.
And try to remember, if your in a relationship that you have to keep a secret, you probably shouldn't be in it. Treat yourself better than that.

In a few weeks this will all be forgotten!

Answer 3

This dude sounds psycho. He is only nice to you when he wants something, but wants you to stay completely away when he is done with you. This guy is a user and a loser.

Join the club... if he has tried to smear you, you will at least have to opportunity to prove the rumors wrong. It already sounds like the other members of the club are aware of his reputation.

Answer 4

What have you got to lose? This man is a jerk. Join the club. He has no right to intimidate you. If he wants to tell the world about your relationship, let him do it (he has all the freedom). Just don't let him ruin your life. You have only one life and you have to live it to the fullest. That was one mistake that you cannot undo. Hold your head up high and do what you have to do. Go for it!

Answer 5

those two are now secrete lovers
playing the same game
just totally leave them alone
your friends will see your more mature than they are
you can still join the club
but youll have to be able to put up with them
that guy is a total loser
he cant end a relationship like a man
he has to resort to childish tactics
and she is just jealous you had it first and moved on!
they are both losers
carry yourself like your above their petty ness
dont think your too good
but dont think your beneath them either
show and demonstrate maturity
youll easliy pass them up on that

good luck

Answer 6

Drop both of these horrible people.

You are better than this, and there's more to life.
More men, more friends, more clubs. Go find them.

NEVER get into a sexual relationship you can't tell the world about.
Again, it's just not worth the time and effort.

Answer 7

I hope you lear from every bad experience you have. Get stronger and dont ever repeat these mistakes. Stay away from sexual relationships, which is just making you cheap and you are being used and abused and discarded. Value your self and your life and respect your body and dont cheapen yourself. Concentrate on your education which is priority and will give you success in life and independence. Dont let other peoples attitudes bother you. Focus on education. Men will come and go but they are only using you for your body.

Answer 8

I would find another club to join if i were you as this guy seems to spell trouble with a capital "T". Keep away from him and the girl,who knows what they'll do to you next!!

Answer 9

have you spoken to your parents about this? although this is very difficult to do- they may have some insight on how you should handle this situation. I am pretty much at a loss. I don't think you are in a good position. this guy basically used you for sex. you may need to make new friends and learn from this experience.

there are a lot of good reasons to wait to have sex until you are married. - no commitment - no sex. period. in order to have sex - this guy needed to have taken care of you. it's just horribly selfish of him.

but you are not in a good place - I would talk to your parents - no matter how hard.
but then I'm not sure. I don't know.

Answer 10

that's a hard one. it's up to you. if you want in the club badly enough, go forit, he has no patent on it. it may make one or both of you uncomfortable, idont know how you feel about him, bu t he sounds like a jerk!!

go for it. & he shouldnt have treated you that way about getting your stuff back! or just get in another club & get around w/out seeing him all together, they cant stand to think that the girl has moved on, they're so egotistical.

goodluck w/it.

Answer 11

why would you want to join a club where you would feel uncomfortable (and I'm just assuming from the way you explained the situation) when you are around more than one member?