What gives a man "sex appeal"??

Question

With us guys attraction is very simple. If a woman looks good, she has sex appeal.. period. But with women, its very different. A guy can be a 10 and have no sex appeal or he can be very ugly and have sex appeal.

Seems like women find sex appeal in certain personality or character traits in men.

I'm sure its different for every women, but what turns YOU on about a man? What does he have to have to give him sex appeal vs. "just a friend".??

"Molly" Well you have to start somewhere!!! Confidence doesn't come out of thin air... your mean

Answer 1

Sexual attraction is generally different for women because women have to consider so many things, like, is he going to be an animal and try to rape her (women in general can be and are overpowered more often than are men), is he just looking for another notch in his belt and a new story to gossip about with the guys, does he see her as meat or as a human being with feelings, would he stand by her if she got pregnant, would he make a decent father if she got pregnant and would she want him in her life forever due to a child they shared, does he have a disease that might make her infertile, and other such stuff.

By carefully considering those concerns and being sensitive to them, men appear much more sexually attractive. I mean, men who use the words "who*e" and "c*nt" to describe women and put women down in general in conversations that women hear, who act like immature boastful apes and "alpha" males, bite the heads off parakeets and who bully and intimidate people, for example, aren't going to get laid very often. Also, men need to remember that, although they relax by having sex, women have to be relaxed BEFORE they generally feel sexual desire. Most men look a lot more sexually attractive when a woman is relaxed.

After those considerations, most women go by phernomes pretty much the same way men do. Attraction is a unique mutual harmony created by the blending chemistry and energy of two individuals. The "magic" isn't really something that can be "learned". It's either there or it's not. Plain old sexual need and hunger, though, happens just as often for women as it does for men, but, because of social constraints which deal more harshly with women than they do with men, women in most cultures tend to restrain themselves from open smorgasbording and behaviors that can be misconstrued as promiscuous.

But, when men are extremely attentive to a woman's subtle concerns for privacy, women are more likely to engage more freely in casual relationships. Some men have this weird notion that flamboyancy is sexually appealling to women. It is not usually. Nothing scares a woman off faster than a man who thinks it's cute to "call her out" in public as a test of her "love" for him. That's also the weirdo who shows up at her place of work and deliberately embarrasses her. Flowers sent to her workplace are fine, as long as the note doesn't say something stupid like "LOVED the Fellatio, Hotlips!" Basically, women find men to be more sexually attractive when they appear, at minimum, housebroken in social manners and present themselves as the kind of people who possess the gentility of discretion.

Women tend to be enculturated to one degree or another, too, with the primal imperative to bed preferably with men who could advance and protect them and their possible children, which in modern times translates into an attraction to men who are self-sufficient, mentally stable, financially prudent, and who appear to be capable of holding his own in the pack. That's just a generality, though. Guys who whine and blame others (women, mommy, Mexicans, liberals, whatever) for their own laziness and lack of effort, lack of education, lack of character and lack of self-rising are obviously not very attractive as potential sexual mates. It's not so much that women may be attracted to successful, wealthy men but that women are really turned off by the losers who don't have what it takes to self-rise. Why breed with losers? Our species' survival depends on women NOT breeding with losers. Although women may only be interested in a casual relationship with no further intention related to marriage and family, I believe that imperative influences their behavior somewhat.

As for myself, someone older and no longer interested in monogamy or childrearing, I am most attracted sexually to healthy, optimistic men with moustaches who can beat me in a race up a mountainside.

Answer 2

Sex Appeal In Men

Answer 3

I can't answer your question, as I am not a woman, but I do wish to say this: speak for yourself, Rico!

"Us guys" are not all the same. Some of us actually have more complex feelings toward women and our sense of "sex appeal" involves much more than appearance.

Answer 4

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He has to be able to make me laugh.
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Sadly, if a man is wealthy, he'll attract incredibly beautiful women even if he is ugly (physically or in terms of his personality
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Confidence and high self esteem without the ********* is the sexiest thing about men

Answer 5

I think that a man has sex appeal when he is:
Intelligent-that means common-sense wise and education.
Has a sense of humor.
Is open minded.
Has manners. The basics will do. Please and thank you etc.
Various interests and is willing to share them.
Has a decent personality overall. That means that he is someone that I would not mind having around in any type of setting.

Answer 6

It's what i call "friction". Some people may say pheromones. To me, if I meet a guy and get the sweaty palms, butterflies in the stomach. It's also a look I get, or the way his butt looks in a pair of jeans, or maybe his beautiful eyes. I don't have one "type" of guy, if there's no "friction" theres no sex. Period.

Answer 7

Sex appeal means differently for every woman. For me, a man's sex appeal lies on his ability to show that he is intelligent without being arrogant and overbearing, for being able to show real attention without being patronizing, for being able to know which jokes make me laugh and which don't, for being spiritual but not a religious fanatic. Most of all, he is sexy when he is not afraid of me!

Answer 8

Being rich, good-looking, novel and showing no interest in her.

Don't listen to all this other BS such as "honesty", having "good manners" or being "caring"; believe me, these factors are irrelevant in sex appeal-- women just claim they care about them.

Answer 9

A man has sex appeal when, one, when he smells nice, and two, they dont act like losers by asking about what gives a man sex appeal on Yahoo! answers. :)

Answer 10

it depends. it's different to every woman. what i might find attractive in a guy, my friend might find very unattractive.

well obviously every woman would find a good looking guy sexy. but if the guy is a jerk, she can easily be turned off.
but a guy could be average looking but have a great personality, makes you laugh, respects you, treats you like a lady, ... and that's also attractive.

it could be just his eyes,the way he looks at you or whatever.
it just depends on the person.

we can look at a guy as just a friend, alot of people start off as just friends! the way i see it in most of the guys around me, they can't talk to a girl and think wow she's intelligent, they'd be talking to her and thinking, Hmm i wonder what colour panties she's wearing!!! but girls don't need to do that.

Answer 11

Confidence!

I love confidence in a man. Just don't over do it where you come across as cocky. Oh! A good sense of humor always helps.