Teach me how to speak...= X!!?

Question

How do I start a decent conversation.I only have like one friend and I think I have social anxiety.My friend tries to help me talk to the other college kids when we hang out after classes but when all attention is on me There is this lame moment where I can't think and I just run out the room like a noob and go somewhere by myself.lol...<:C...What can I talk about that'll keep the conversation rolling.When im siting in the room with everyone else ppl just start talking about what ever and other ppls responses are automatic,they react instantly like they had all day to come up with an answer.They can do this for hours...

Answer 1

There are a number of things you can do. First, sit with your anxiety, don't run out of the room. Other people are anxious, too. Then, take deep breaths, that will help. Listen to what other people say to each other and try to say similar things. Read newspapers and magazines and watch TV, so you know what people are talking about. Try reading the book by Dale Carnegie, "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Know that other people feel the same way. Good luck!

Answer 2

Just be yourself. You have an enormous strength in you, a unique and interesting personality. To harness your inner self, you just need confidence. The words will come. One thing though is you need to be comfortable with yourself. Don't seek out people just to seek them out. No one is an island, but you shouldn't need to be in some group to feel good. Feeling good comes after you already can while alone. In the fight to overcome this social fogginess, you'll take punches, but the more you're hit, the harder your bones become, and the less it will hurt. But you have to get your *** kicked for a while. And give people credit, too. If you get funny looks, oh well. That's their baggage and all. But there are folks whol will understand. And if you make the effort... this type of people will make some effort too, to help you along the way.

One good way to gain the confidence and focus you need is Meditation. It's something I worked with that helped me with my anxieties. You should read about it, transcendental meditation, and try it. It teaches you to identify less with your thoughts, and more with your intuition. It takes lots of work and practice, but frees you, and helps you to see yourself.

Anyway, good luck and march on.

Answer 3

you can't think of nothin cuz you're all anxious and stuff. so you have to find some way to relax. try drinking a fifth of crown and then see if you have trouble coming up with something to say.