please read my other questions, you will understand the situation alot more, and it will be easyer for you to answer me. if you dont read my other questions, dont bother answering becuse you wont have the information.
my parents kicked me out as soon as lana got pregnant, they never contact me, exept in a christmas card once a year, and when i call them and ask if they would like to meet my daughter they refuse. she is 14 and i think that they suld meet her, as she is there only grandchild, and i am there only son.
2007-10-20 17:21:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i no that it upsets kell, but it upsets me more, how can they do this to there own family? shun me, like we dont exist?
2007-10-20 17:22:15 · update #1
they have held this grudge for 15 years already. will they ever forgive me, or get over it?
2007-10-20 17:22:50 · update #2
I have gone through similar things although I don't have a daughter. I think that you have done a lot already even trying to get them to meet her. they obviously are narrow minded not to meet their own grand child. I say, bring her to the folks place and introduce her without an invitation as a surprise. See how it goes and if it gets ugly then that's thier loss. And you tried.
2007-10-20 17:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by cutey patooty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They raised you and in some part their teaching and influence has made you who you are.
I would continue to let them know where you are living so that if there was any change of heart on their part they could contact you.
But I would no longer ask if they wanted the gift of knowing their granddaughter. They are losing their only son and grandchild and that is a very sad thing.
2007-10-22 02:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times in our life that we need to stop wishing for parents we don't have and accept the ones we do. I can't imagine how much pain and stress your parent's rejection has caused. I am so sorry. However, it seems like you are at a crossroads in your life... keep banging your head and getting hurt or take a deep breath and let them go.
Will you stop wanting to have them in your lives? Probably not. Will you have less stress and anxiety over trying to get them to be the parents and grandparents they should be? Definitely.
You can't make people be something they are not. It's difficult, but I think it's time to let them go and live your life as happy and fulfilled as possible.
2007-10-22 02:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other questions, I know you feel wronged and in my opinion your parents did wrong you. And YES, ya'll SHOULD be reunited. Obviously, they haven't changed their minds in 14 years, I suggest stop asking them. Their actions are the only real language. It truly is THEIR loss...Don't let your daughter know how passionate you are about yearning for their acceptance.You have succeeded an accomplished more in your life that any non-blood parentsShould be happy to accept you. I've found in my life my non-blood mothers love me better. Build your daughters self esteem by you being strong,confidant,an accepting of yourself. You'll see...she'll come out tougher and wiser.
2007-10-21 21:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by sillylittlemonkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say you might as will m move on and let them be you must now teach you daughter how not to act and the best person she can be ever day.
Good luck and my prayers are with you all
2007-10-21 00:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at this point you have to accept that your parents don't want to be a part of their grandchilds life. I'd make an ultimatium (which you will more then likely be sticking to for the rest of your life): If they don't want any part of this aspect of your life, you don't want them to have any part of yours anymore.
2007-10-21 00:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by kagato23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋