my dad got a random 17 yr old girl at a party pregnant when he was 15, and stayed with her. when i 1 month she split and my dads looked after me ever since. he has mates over all the time but wont date. it makes me feel guilty, as if i ruined his life. he tells me that "i am the only girl he needs" but i don’t believe it. he wont go out to clubs, where he could meet heaps of chicks, and he is a good looking, nice bloke. i think he is worried about the change, because his parents kicked him out when he got the girl pregnant. So iv never had a mother figure, or grandparents. My dads parents say that they don’t want to meet me, and the only contact they have with him is when they send a Christmas card. It has only ever been the two of us, and friends, never girlfriends. i want him to date but he wont. what can i do? we are very closeand a girlfriend would make him happyer. he th
2007-10-20 16:10:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well first of all I'm sorry to hear that your grandparent's are that why with you.well there no need to fell guilty it not your fault first of all.maybe your dad scared of getting he's heart broken again,but your dad needs to give love a second chance because every one is not same,I know its hard right now for him to see that.maybe you should tell him your fine with him dating.tell me some body is waiting to love a special guy like him and his baby girl.well i hope that this helped a little bit.all remember that god as a special plan for every body even you good luck. From the broken heart girl...
2007-10-20 17:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by The Broken heart Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your dad sounds like a really nice man you loves you greatly.
It's not unusual for an only parent to put their "life" on hold to give what their child needs to grow up "normal".
You might just sit down with him and have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you feel "guilty" that he doesn't have a "personal" life and would to see him start dating some nice woman that would make him happy.
I am so sorry about your grandparents reaction. You sound like a very sweet caring person. It is your grandparents loss.
2007-10-20 16:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't want to date right now because he isn't ready to get too involved with someone that may cut into his time with you. 15 can be a tough age for a girl and even though you sound really mature for your age he may feel that you need him around right now. I don't think that any one worth while would run away screaming because he has a 15 year old daughter. Don't feel guilty, you don't have a reason to be. When he is ready and the time is right he will start to date, he is young and has plenty of time, it sounds like he just wants to be there for you.
2016-05-23 23:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by dona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try sitting down with him and letting him know that you give him your approval to date. And let him know what an upstanding guy he is to become a single parent because that is very rare among young guys. Or you could try playng match-maker.
2007-10-20 16:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by thaplatinumchic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋