2007-10-20 16:05:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to say but you don't trust your wife because you are insecure!! maybe you feel you had a lot to do with your ex cheating on you. if you don't want to lose your wife shape up cuz that's where that's gonna lead. we do get tired of having to carry someone else burden on us.
2007-10-20 16:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your DW anything like your ex? If not then you need to stop and think about a few things. Your wife is a different person and therefor deserves to be thought of a different way. You need to treat her as a husband would a wife and communicate with her about what is going on. You should also look into counseling. Marriage and individual. It might help your wife to understand where you are coming from.
2007-10-20 23:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hey Wife!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a wife who's husband had the same problem you have to realize that she is with you for a reason and it is not fair for you to punish her for something a past spouse did to you..she is not that woman and all you are doing is pushing her away you have to realize that you cant control what your wife does no matter what you do if she is going to cheat or lie to you there is nothing you can do about regardless of how controlling you are..you have to trust her unless she has given you a reason to do otherwise dont punish her for your past it is not her fault. Until she does something you have to teust her because she is not that person and it is not fair to her..if she is a good wife you need to enjoy that and if she does leave you it isnt gonna be because of her cheating it is going to be because you pushed her away.
2007-10-20 23:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try confronting this woman that hurt you in the past, and it will help you make leaps and bounds. Make sure your wife is by your side the whole time. Not only will you get to the root of your issues but you and your wife will bond over your healing.
2007-10-20 23:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to get counseling in order to deal with this and learn how to trust your wife. Remember what happened before is past and there is a good future ahead of you if you can learn to let go of what someone else did to you.
I hope you can learn to trust her because she is also trusting you and you can make it with counseling to deal with with problem.
2007-10-20 23:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it.. Past relationship . Your wife is your new relationship she has nothing to do with the past so like they say put the past behind you and start your new life with your wife. If you don't you may not be married to long.
2007-10-20 23:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugwatson_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I know exactly how you feel. I have been hurt so many times by my husband that it's hard to trust him again. Now, I am wondering if I do trust him again will he hurt me again. And of course he will but....he's human and humans make mistakes all the time. BUT they are suppose to learn from them and move on. NOT continue to do the same s**t over and over again.
People shouldn't tell you that "I will NEVER hurt you because I LOVE U" It's a BIG FAT LIE, and we use it to keep the wall from coming up by our love ones.
Best thing I can tell you is this....If you can't get over it then you need time to mend your heart away from her until you figure out if you want to continue with your marriage or not.
2007-10-20 23:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, well you have to figure out what you want.
if you want to stay together:
- stop sabotaging the marriage
- stop holding a grudge, it only steals time that you could spend being happy
- consider counseling to handle your insecurities
- don't use the past against her in current and future fights
if you want to get divorced:
- continue to bring up the past
- continue distancing yourself from her emotionally
- continue punishing her for something she can't change
2007-10-20 23:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling might help. You most likely are not over what happened and she needs to find ways to earn your trust back.
2007-10-20 23:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a therapist.
2007-10-20 23:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋