had sex with her once and of course unprotected can this be true? If so should I live him please help
2007-10-20 15:55:46 · 19 answers · asked by candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it could be true. Only takes one time. Whether you should leave him or not is up to you, but I will bet you any amount of money that this was not his first time, just the first time you have caught him at it.
Edit: Contrary to the poster above, you certainly CAN make it on your own with two children. I did, and so do thousands of other women. Don't let that be the deciding factor that makes you stay with an unfaithful man.
2007-10-20 16:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he had sex with a woman even once unprotected, then yes, she may be pregnant. It only takes one time to get pregnant. Additionally, it is very possible that he may have an STD. You need to be very careful so that you don't get infected also.
Whether or not you leave him is entirely up to you. You have to think about certain things, such as: Will he ever be able to be trusted again? Will he stay faithful? If you are unsure of whether or not you should stay with him, I think you should contact a counselor (someone you can meet with in person) or a life coach(someone you meet with online). It is important to work with someone to try to figure out what you truly want from this situation, and how to successfully work through it. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.
Good Luck!
2007-10-20 16:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you not know how the body functions? Of course she could get pregnant after sleeping with him only once. And unprotected sex? You better have yourself checked to STD's. If you don't respect yourself, keep on living with him, but you better expect him to cheat on you again. Likely this isn't the first, nor will it be the last time. Just remember, you're setting an example for your kids whatever you do. If you have a daughter, do you want her growing up thinking it's okay for a man to treat her that way because you let your husband treat you that way? And if you have a son, do you want him to treat a woman that way? Protect your kids if you aren't going to protect yourself.
2007-10-20 16:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by sandwolf2112 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, go get checked out for STD's, there should be a free city clinic that does that.
Next, I am sorry to say that if he has done it once, he has probably been doing it all along. And will continue to do so. Seriously, you need to be checked out for STD's, don't delay on that ok.
Now he is going to have a baby by another woman. Personally, I would kick him out, file for divorce, child support, AND alimony, and never let him back in.
You deserve better than that, and there are some really awesome men out there. Whatever you found attractive in this guy now? WATCH OUT for it in the next guy you choose, and be very careful about the kind of guy you are attracted to in the future.
2007-10-20 16:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, most likely he is lying, but there is a small chance it is true
we don't know how many girls either...is so selfish because any disease she/they got, he can/could give to you
sorry you have two kids with a bozo like this
it's a growing shame in our society
How much do you love him? How much does he do for you? Is he willing to reform to try some sort of counseling? Can you guys get involved in group meditation? (meetups.com lists some)
In meditation, it raised vibration and surrounds you around people with values. In our society, even in our music and movies, being bad is deemed as cool...but it hurts people, especially the kids in the middle
you will have to way the pros and cons to decide if you should stay or go. Do you have good family/rents/siblings and friends to turn to? *will he pay child support? He works?
In the end, in general, a cheater is a cheater...can you accept this? In some religions,they accept man having more than one wife/love. I wouldn't want to accept, but for the kiddies, it would depend on how much he is doing and providing and if he can be redeemed. Otherwise, I would see what my options are.
2007-10-20 16:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it only takes one time! as far as should you leave that's a decision no one can help you with. i wouldn't only be furious at the fact that might have someone pregnant but about std or even worse aids?! he acted irresponsible! he put your life at stake. think about your kids! would you like to leave them without a mother because some jerk you call your husband wanted to cheat?!I'm sorry to sound so harsh but these things are upsetting to think that you are home caring for his kids and for him to come home with an extra kid or worse some kind of sickness.
2007-10-20 16:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't just leave yet.
Take everything with you, take the kids.
He has already confessed to his crime, let him do the time. Think of the baby, he should be responsible if it is his.
Make him pay for two-timing you, you have your rights as a wife, your kids have their rights too. That girl and her baby have their rights too. You can't stand by him and defend him in this situation.
2007-10-20 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah it could be but I would tell her not to contact your family until there is a DNA test scheduled. If your state has alienation of affection laws, you can sue her. I saw it on Dr. Phil the other day. You have to decide in your heart if you can forgive him and try to move on or if your are best off starting your life over with someone else.
2007-10-20 16:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Uh yes, everytime a man and a woman have sex they are risking pregnancy. If he had unprotected sex with her, then yes, she could become pregnant even after just one time!! You have two children, yet you don't understand the facts of life?? OUCH! Let me guess, you're American too and want to keep sex education out of schools...oi!
Leave him? Yes, if he's out and about having unprotected sex, other children is not what you need to worry about. He doesn't respect you enough to wrap it up, so now you have to worry about sexually transmitted infections. Call your doctor ASAP!
2007-10-20 16:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
being 18 days later..it's hard to say if she's really Knocked up..
thats a bit to soon to tell...She might be just running late and that could go on a week.She might just be saying that cause she wants him to her self..And second nobody is perfect everyone makes mistake. Have you ever did something wrong.? are you perfect in every way? never doing anything wrong ever? If you are perfect in every way then leave him..
2007-10-20 16:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋