2007-10-20 15:50:14 · 74 answers · asked by inagony13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants a divorce.
2007-10-20 15:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When tensions are high between husband and wife, dissolving the marriage may seem to be the easiest course of action. But, while many countries have experienced a shocking rise in broken families, recent studies indicate that a large percentage of divorced men and women regret the breakup. A number suffer from more health problems, both physical and mental, than do those who stay with their marriage. The confusion and unhappiness of children of divorce often last for years. Parents and friends of the broken family also suffer. And what about the way God, the Originator of marriage, views the situation?
As noted in previous chapters, God purposed that marriage should be a lifelong bond. (Genesis 2:24) Why, then, do so many marriages break up? It may not happen overnight. Usually there are warning signs. Small problems in a marriage can grow bigger and bigger until they seem insurmountable. But if these problems are promptly handled with the aid of the Bible, many marital breakups could be avoided.
2007-10-20 15:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u know what that means...r u in shock?
well, I wish u told us more, like how have things been going between the two of you, your pasts, etc
I would guess not too well...either u r fighting 2 much or u have grown apart, he has lost respect and interest 4 u
*That's a pretty mean thing to say...my b/f has said that after a fight but didn't completely mean it.
I'd have to know the background to know more.
Your u/n is in agony so I assume it's a deeper issue.
If u r in agony, not sure this guys a keeper. Start preparing as best as you can, can you find a good therapist or shrink (I prefer therapist b/c don't care for the chemical cocktails).
I mean unless he's willing to get into some counseling, not sure what your future is.
Pray. Get back in touch with your powerful inner spirit. You have group meditation? Check meetups.com for your city
u might want to get in fetal or panic. It's ok to mourn, let it out, purge, this is karma being cleansed. Pray to higher power/your higher self/white light to help you, for grace, forgiveness and to align with that whichis true and lasting happiness. Don't give up keep praying and taking whatever steps you can.
*U r seeing a big red flag that this guy is no good, don't take it personally BUT take honest look at yourself and your responsibility for bringing this event into your life. Don't beat yourself up, learn and grow. It hurts now, but pain rings us best growth and if we are willing to face it, see how strong we are no matter how our ego may feel...it can lead to much better things that last
Go within but also find good company like at group meditation and possibly a good therapist
True and lasting love will one day come your way but get this crap clear and bow down to the Divine
2007-10-20 16:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
inagony1,
What he means is what he said, he wants to be single....not married. Sorry to put it so bluntly but stop and think about it,"what would u mean if u said what he said"? I understand how hurt u must feel but look at it this way, he was man enough to tell you and not have a affair or just leave u. He pass u the chance to make the next move or say what u think about what he said. Now what you going to do? It's your move!
2007-10-20 17:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Flowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may feel the grass is greener on the other side. When people are in committed relationships sometimes they wonder how it would be if they were single. Sometimes deciding to end a relationship to explore was is out there may turn out to be a wrong decision. But the answer is honestly up to him. You can not force someone to stay in a relationship that does not want to truly be there. Besides if he really feels like being single than you are better off without him. Who needs someone that does not put the effort to make a relationship work.
2007-10-20 15:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just love David's answer to this question.
I think you shouldn't feel it is your fault.
He wants to be free from commitment. Let him have his freedom and space. You can have your fun too. Go out, enjoy yourself with friends. Focus on other things in your life like work, get a job if you don't have one, get a pet.
Let him miss your presence a little. Don't ask where he is going, who he is with, what he is doing. Just don't pay any attention to him anymore, that is what being single again means. Don't share and don't care. It will be tough, but you will emerge a stronger person. Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-20 16:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It's definitely not simple and to say I or any other people trying to answer your question know the answer would be foolish.
I would work on your communication with him and try to find out how this relationship is not meeting his needs.
Most often a partner's needs are not being met (whether those needs are justified or not is a different story). Those needs must be explored and communicated. Working as a team is the only way you will be able to resolve this.
Get professional help if you have to.
2007-10-20 15:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by ddaniel_dr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him to elaborate? I mean, what is it exactly that he misses about being single? Is it going out? Or going with the guys? Or worse... with other women? If you haven't been married that long, maybe he's still trying to adjust. You need to talk with him more about it. No yelling, no accusations, no tears, crying or pouting. A real heart to heart conversation. Hopefully he just chose the wrong words. Good luck. I hope everything works out.
2007-10-20 15:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Vic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this means that he misses the excitement of single life. Could mean that you can save your marriage by spicing things up in bed (or out of it) or that you don't stand a chance in hell of making this work. Ask him if he's found someone else that he might be interested in.... good luck.
2007-10-20 19:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has challenged you to a heavy marital discussion. Pursue his statement with sincere concern and a cool temperament; asking why he wants to be single again?
Try to steer this situation to both of you agreeing to seek marriage counseling.
2007-10-20 16:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's either already seeing another woman or has the desire to. You can either explore the open relationship avenue or accept the fact he's going to do it anyway since is giving you fair warning. On a positive at least he was man enough to come to you and tell you. If you guys communicate that open and honestly maybe a brutally honest talk can help things one way or another. I truly wish you the best of luck!
2007-10-20 15:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by rumrunner 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋