i recently tossed my good for nothing cheating man out, it's not been easy I still wake up at night to look for him. It hurts very badly. Last night I watched the style channel all night long.
2007-10-20 15:31:05 · 21 answers · asked by itsjust me123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
>About 20 seconds after you find another man.
I do have some doubts that man will be found on the Style channel, however.<
2007-10-20 15:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Druid 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Breakup depression is something that should be watched as it can subside and lay dormant for a time and grow without being seen or felt until it is out of control. Any type of depression should be looked at by a professional or friend or someone that possesses rational and prudent thinking. Depending on what type of person you are this could turn into very destructive patterns of behavior. Do yourself a favor and protect yourself and the ones close to you and ensure that things are healing and normal. It never hurts to be sure.
2007-10-20 17:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not that you miss HIM, it's that you're alone. You need to do things to occupy your time. Don't fall into thinking that you have to be with someone to be happy. There's a difference between being lonely and alone. Pursue things that you wished you could have when you were with him, but didn't because you were with him. You can be with someone and still be lonely and you can also be alone and be content. Learn to like yourself and enjoy the company of yourself. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and think about what hurt worse. Being alone or being with someone that doesn't love you or even really likes you. What could you possibly be missing from a good for nothing cheating man? Don't you deserve better than that? And when you wake up at night to look for him, just remember, he's probably in someone else's bed. Do something to better yourself and forget about him.
2007-10-20 15:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by sandwolf2112 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm kind of in the same boat as you..I just broke up with my fiance and I spent the whole day today watching TV and going online. My eyes tear up when I think about the good times, but then I stopper them by going through the mental list I have of all the things he did to make me angry and hurt. Just keep trying to remind yourself of all his faults, not thinking about how much you miss him. And try to keep your mind occupied with an engrossing book. Try to catch up with friends and family so that you won't be alone.
They say the equation for getting over a breakup is the length of time the relationship lasted, divided by two. Not sure how true that is, I'm sure it varies from relationship to relationship and for each individual.
2007-10-20 15:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by questionable 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would give it several months. It becomes less and less painful as time goes on until such time that you've completely recovered.
One of the things that I did after my last break-up that sped the recovery period along was to prevent myself from remembering happy moments that we had shared. Anytime I passed by a place where I remembered something fun that we had done, I instantly recognized what was happening and I usurped those thoughts and instead thought of what a shiit she had been to me and how much I despised her. It worked so effectively that at a certain point I had to tell myself to tone it down a bit or risk becoming another O.J. Simpson.
2007-10-20 15:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Trevor S 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It will suck, for about a year or even three. You will wake up every morning, and think about them every time your mind gets a free minute. You will second guess your self. You will be angry at them in the shower, you will be angry at yourself as you dress up to leave the house. But after a while you will realize that it is three in the after noon and you have not thought about them. Then you will wake up weeks later and you will realize wow it's been three weeks and I have not thought of them. But one day you will wake up and be over it. You will wake up and you don't care anymore. You will wake up and when you think about them, all you will remember is the funny things that happened this one time, or that other time.
2007-10-20 15:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not sure how long it takes, but you did the right thing, i told my now exwife to leave last month and sometimes it hurts, but after she cheated on me i realized she wasnt worth the hurt. There has to be better things to watch besides the style channel though. Just do something that totally distracts you from the hurt
2007-10-20 15:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, you don't get over someone so quickly especially if you have heart. Give yourself time. And please do not jump into another relationship until you are ready. You will end up hurting yourself more than the other person. Find things that will make you happy like going to the movies, taking up some hobbies and things like that to get your mind off your break up. Don't sit around feeling bad for yourself...because he ain't sitting around missing you since he was cheating on you. Understand.
2007-10-20 15:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
so I have a theory about this :
however long you date someone so say a year and then you break up then you should be over it in 6 months
so basically half the time together is the healing process
2007-10-24 15:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by bells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another thing that may help is to get a dog. Remember, a dog loves you unconditionally, will not cheat on you, and all you have to do is to feed him and let him out a time or two now and then so that he doesn't mess up the house; some dogs may even sleep on the bed with you and might even be better looking than the ex!!
2007-10-20 16:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's hard, I know. It is like mourning you are going through. Just remember that each day you will get better and better and the bad feelings will ebb away and be replaced by feelings of wanting to move on, wanting to do something positive with your time. The pain is real and will take time to heal.
From someone who has been there. Whatever you do, don't move backwards. Then you get to feel the pain twice.
2007-10-20 15:37:35 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Moltisanti 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋