My period is late and my mom knows my schedule but hasnt asked. My period normally starts the 1st day of month but it is now the 20th(im still a virgin only 13). |But lately ive been thinking about birth control. Should i go on the pill?
2007-10-20 15:22:15 · 43 answers · asked by Haleigh F 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hi Haleigh. Wow, what a question!! If only more people were wise enough to think about birth control at such a great age. You mentioned you're a virgin. Make it "your" choice, when and with who. There is birth control and there is self control and once again that's "your" choice. How scary is your Mom?? If you think it's going to blow her away, try confiding in a mutual friend who would be comfortable opening up the conversation with her. Speak with your pastor or pastors' wife if you'd feel better talking it over with a woman. You're a very special person so treat yourself and your body respectfully. God bless and good luck.
2007-10-20 15:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by MissnNC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother myself, I would definitely lean towards "no". I say this but there are also two reasons that it would be a good idea. The first would be if it would help you. For example if your period was very heavy and you had really bad cramping I would be willing to go and discuss this with my child with the doctor and if he decided it was something that would do you good then I would say yes. The warning I would give you is that this would not be a free reign to have sex. The second reason is that you are sexually active and obviously you aren't. Please stay that way for as long as you can. Once you take that step you lose a part of yourself and you can't get it back. It's a really big step and should be taken seriously. Wait until you are much older to even think about it.
Honestly though, at this age your periods are going to be extremely irregular. It will take many years for you to become regular and some women never do. I am sure your mom understands this from her own personal experience.
The best advice is to just tell her you want to talk to her about some things and you want to be able to talk freely. Then just say what you are feeling and thinking. Being honest and open are the best ways to have a good relationship with your parents. I know it will be hard some times but in the end all we want for our kids is to be happy, healthy, grow up strong, get a good education, get a job that they love, and some day have a family of their own.
Best wishes and God bless.
2007-10-20 15:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When your period first starts, it can be irregular. I'm in my early 30s and I've never had a 'regular' period! I'll skip months here and there, double up some months... it's all over the place!
Perhaps you should discuss this with your mum. Personally, as an (accidental) single mum, I feel that contraception is important, but it is even more important if you're planning on being sexually active to use a barrier protection (like condoms). As I got pregnant while using condoms, I prefer to double up and use Implanon as well as condoms.
Really, when it comes down to it, it is your decision. I hate to encourage a kid to go against their parents, but if your mum says no, and you feel strongly enough about this, then you may have to go to a Family Planning Clinic by yourself. Don't forget that there are more options available these days than the Pill, things that are a lot more reliable.
Mum might say no because she's not comfortable with you being sexually active. This is something that you and she really should discuss together. When you go to her, go with some research and some calm, logical reasons why you want to do this.
2007-10-20 15:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Beth H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your period will fluctuate quite a bit throughout your adolescence, so a delay is nothing to be really concerned about. I would keep communication open between you, your mother, and your doctor regarding all sexual health issues (and issues in general between you and your mother). The only reason to go on birth control at your age would be if you were anemic, or had a very heavy flow. Otherwise, it's pointless, and adjusting your hormone levels with the pill could pose problems in the future. The pill is not intended for someone your age, but for someone who's body has matured (the female body reaches that point at 16 or 17, usually). If you really feel the need to go on the pill, then open up discussion, but it may prove more trouble than it's worth. Good luck!
2007-10-20 15:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by city_vixen21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want them regulated, then go ahead and tell your mom that. It could also lighten your periods and ease your PMS symptoms.
Just talk to her. Maintain an open relationship.
WOW some people are just plain ignorant. There are more reasons than just prevention of pregnancy that girls would take birth control pills!
You have a very good reason to get on birth control. I started mine at age 11 and I was NEVER regular until I got on birth control around age 18.
2007-10-21 01:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the conversation with your mother. If you think you are mature enough to need birth control then you are certainly mature enough to talk to her about it.
In fact if you're really this mature and serious maybe you should talk to your father as well.
OR you could just recognize that you are 13, and while that's the oldest that you've ever been it's not particularly old when compared to the rest of us. Hell it's not old compared to a high school senior.
Better idea. Don't put yourself into a situation where you need birth control at 13. In short, don't be an idiot.
2007-10-20 15:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really not necessary. You're only 13, your period is not going to be exactly on time every month. Eventually it will get fairly regular but you need to give it time. If you still think for some reason you need it just tell your mom your concerns about your period not being regular and see what she thinks. If she is open to the idea of birth control discuss it with your doctor. Also, if you're getting really painful cramps, that might be a good reason to get birth control. But again, it is important to discuss this with your doctor, he/she is the professional and knows what is safe and OK for your health.
2007-10-20 15:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, just tell her that you're concerned about your irregular period, and you worry that it'll have some consequences. Just bring up the subject by saying "hey mom, did you ever get irregular periods?" lol...I know this sounds like a corny scenario, but if there's no other way to approach it, maybe this'll help. That way you can open the issue with her. There's no need to tell your mom directly that you want to be on birth control. Just tell her you'd like to go see a doctor about this, and when you go to the doctor, more than likely, your doctor will put you on the "pill" without thinking twice about it. That's the usual procedure. good luck
2007-10-20 15:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely an effective way to get your cycle regulated. I started my period when I was ten, and around age 12 it started to get irregular, and the birth control helped a lot. A lot of parents are more understanding than you'd think. Just explain to your mom that your cycle is irregular, and that you'd like to know if birth control could be a good option for you. Chances are she'll agree as long as you're open and up front with her.
2007-10-20 15:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to your mom. At 13 it isn't unusal for you periods to be irregular. Tell your mom, your not interested in sex but you read the pill can help regulate your periods and help with pimples(yep, my daughter is on them for acne, she has a pretty face now)
you are still young, and if you are in no way interested in sex, you may want to wait awhile. She may understand better at 14 or 15. But ask, if she says no ask her what about when i turn 14? my daughter was almost 15 when she asked
2007-10-20 15:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by charm1936 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋