I get so worried when I hear that he's going to be riding one, I wasn't at first but then my dad (who used to ride one) told me about the dangers, now he's gone to NC for a week and I'm really worried, I know he'll be riding motor cycles and he JUST got his motorcycle licence, what if something happens to him? I become an absolute wreck whenever I think about it?
Should I ask him to stop riding his motorcycle?
2007-10-20 15:13:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Motorcycles
No, but you should tell him your fears.
If that changes his mind, so be it.
If it does not, so be it.
There are dangers everywhere. There are pleasures as well.
The best are intertwined.
Every time I leave the yard she says "Be careful."
I respond "I love you too."
2007-10-23 09:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Firecracker . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bought my first bike at 18, a 1942 HD 45. Told no one about it until I had it running, and my license. My folks complained a bit, but I kept riding. Sold the bike when I went away to college, got another one in the spring, with my Dad's help, as I needed it to get to work after classes. Some years and bikes later, had a pretty rough accident, not my fault, car, passing on a curve, whipped put in front of me, bike hit him about the left headlight. destroyed the bike, broke my wrist, and a few scrapes. As I was recovering, I heard my Dad tell someone he made me promise not to ride again. Actually, he had never mentioned it. And I told him so, in front of his friend, and that I would ride again, ASAP. Few days later, I came home with a bike. All that ever was said was that he hoped I did not leave it parked behind his car where he could not get out. That was many years, and a half million or so mile ago.
Bikes have contributed greatly to all that I have ever done in life. No one should ever be asked by a parent, friend, or lover to do anything or not do anything, that is legal, and something that can only be a personal choice, such as bike riding, playing sports, etc. Tell him to be careful ride like you are invisible, take a course, and ride safe. Stress obeying traffic laws. Do not harp on speed, that only makes a young one want to see what it is all about. (I know, I had two speeds, wide open, or broke down.) My oldest at home son is 17, is just now developing an interest in bikes. Went to the Texas Mile as one of my pit crew a couple weeks back, think/hope he is developing an interest in rel racing. He is about ready for his first bike(s), we have a couple in the shop which he can have to fix up and ride. I want him to enjoy the joys I have had in the last 55+ years and half million+ miles of bikes. And if he wants to be the speed demon I was,more power to him, I just want to get him doing it on the strip or track, not the highway.
Tomcotexas.
2007-10-21 07:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by tomcotexas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NO!
The safety issues are valid, but what is the ues of living, if you are afraid to do the things you like?
You can insist that he be safe, like wearing a helmet, and if he decides not to stop riding, that is his business, not yours.
I have ridden 25 years accident free, because I ride as safely as possible, it can be done!
If you are not happy with this, you may have to let him go. You cannot keep him off a bike. My brother's wife tried that, he became depressed without his bike, and after a few years, he couldn't take it. She decided it was better for him to ride, than for her to not have him. He is a safe rider, and his wife reminds him to be so.
You only hear the bad stories about motorcycles! Have you ever ridden? you should not knock it until you try it. You are missing out on a fufilling time with your significant other!
2007-10-21 05:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jim! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Riding is only as dangerous as the 'nut behind the wheel'.
A safe and competent rider can significantly reduce their chance of crashing. Then good gear can reduce it even more.
There are millions of riders who've been at it for decades, with no trouble.
It's just like driving a car - some people are safer than others at it - then some are crummy drivers, but lucky!
My opinion is that you can definitely tell him you're concerned. If he participates in risky behavior (no riding gear, stunting, street racing, etc), get online and find out some ugly statistics to quote to him. Give him reasons to change the behavior. Other than that - he's an adult, and the choice is up to him.
Someone else mentioned going riding with him may set your fears to rest - and I' d recommend this if he's a safe rider with years of miles under his belt - but if he is new and still unskilled - I'd skip that ride for now.
2007-10-20 17:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by ducatisti 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what your relationship is with this person. I do know however that someone asking me to give up something I enjoy, for whatever the reason, is the quickest way out of my life. But that is just me. I do totally understand what you are saying though. My family has worried about me since I started racing as a small child and many years later they still worry.
2007-10-23 08:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Assuming "he" is a husband or boyfriend, asking him to stop riding is just going to be seen as a control attempt by you...and it could eventually wind up being the undoing of an otherwise great relationship.
Personally, if my wife (or girlfriend) handed me an ultimatum, like "it's me or the bike" I'd hafta say, well, I'm gonna miss ya baby, and get my *** in the wind...K ;o)
2007-10-23 04:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave up riding motorcycles while I was raising young sons,but recently bought my first bike in 20 years. My oldest sons let me know they did not like it, they worry.
I told them I gave up alot of my life while I raised them, but now I want to enjoy my life doing things I enjoy doing for me.I also told them if something were to happen to me on the bike and I was killed, be rest assured I died doing something I really enjoyed and I lived my life to the fullest.
I told them I worry about them walking on the sidewalk these days, but what kind of life would they have if they stayed in the house all the time. We have to allow those we love, to live and enjoy their life!
2007-10-20 18:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Broadgonebiker 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question, if you force him to stop he will regret it and you.
You need to calmly talk to him and explain how you feel and discuss his reasons to want to ride.
You need to listen to his reasons as well as he needs to listen to why you don't want him to ride.
It has to be his decision if he does decide to keep riding you can ask him to wear safety gear and take a safety class, also helps with insurance discounts.
2007-10-20 17:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Chad F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is "he" your husband, boyfriend, son? How old is "he"? The answers to these questions would help in answering your question. I'm going to assume "he" is an adult. As such "he" is the only one to decide if "he" should ride or not. You should tell him your concerns, but the ultimate decision is his.
2007-10-20 17:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by BikerBob 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hope he has a good time. No one should have to stop riding if they don't want too. If he didn't want to ride it he wouldn't have bought it..Leave the man alone.
2007-10-20 15:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by bill b 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋