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2007-10-20 15:10:00 · 19 answers · asked by scottishbeauty 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Thank you, I know.

2007-10-20 15:14:03 · update #1

This question is actually for a friend of mine. That's why I'm breathing and typing at my computer.

2007-10-20 15:16:54 · update #2

19 answers

Obviously this person wasn't your soul-mate.

You can start by first by putting the relationship in it's proper perspective.

2007-10-20 15:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stedway 4 · 7 2

and ur friend is still breathing also.

look, weather its a soulmate or just a mate, its hard. usually it takes 1 month for each year they were together to get over them. that can be a very long time.

what can they do, they can just take each day one day at a time. live for today, do the best they can to forget about yesterday and don't worry about tomorrow until it comes. don't dwell on the 'why's' and the 'how comes', try to forget all the 'lies' that were told in the name of love, toss all picts and momentos of the relationship...in other words, start over from square one, page one, chapter one, first sentence. in the book of life, this is the next chapter.

i should know, i'm on the 16th chapter and keep hoping this was just a penny novel not a da*n epic that its turned out to be.

2007-10-20 15:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0 0

Wow, some rough answers there, either they have been severely burned or are not experienced enough to at least FEEL they have found a soul mate.

Just because he can leave (you) does not mean it wasn't or didn't feel like a soul mate to the person who got left/dumped. Quite a few people said, oh, well it wasn't your soul mate then, SO WHAT?! It still feels like it TO YOU.

But same thing, like a few people said, it takes a long time to get over, you think about them, you miss them, you cry, you laugh. Sometimes you don't want to breath, you don't want to get out of bed, nothing. Just know in your heart, you have to move on, no man is worth losing YOURSELF over. You are still you, a human being with other people who care about you, family, friends (obviously this person has a very caring friend) and they will be there and help support and get you through this.

I "lost" my "soulmate" 8 years ago and there are still days when it hurts, but it is the memories, the what could have been's. Because since then, he has shown his true colors and shown what an a** he truly is. I can now see him and walk away, not want to talk to him, or wish he would talk to me.

I wish you the best with coping with all the emotions you will be going through.

2007-10-20 19:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lunar Fairy 1 · 0 2

Girl, bye. There are other men in this world who will treat you or your friend better. Just don't look for them and let them come to you. Seem like when you go out looking for love you end up with the low life dogs of the bunch. Then, he ends up hurting and for what? Now, you are scarred even more than before. To be able to breath again...just out and do things for yourself to make you feel better....like dye your hair a cool color, buy some sexier clothes, etc. Find a hobby(outside the door) like crafts, etc. You will get over him but you always love him.

2007-10-20 15:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It will suck, for about a year or even three. You will wake up every morning, and think about them every time your mind gets a free minute. You will second guess your self. You will be angry at them in the shower, you will be angry at yourself as you dress up to leave the house. But after a while you will realize that it is three in the after noon and you have not thought about them. Then you will wake up weeks later and you will realize wow it's been three weeks and I have not thought of them. But one day you will wake up and be over it. You will wake up and you don't care anymore. You will wake up and when you think about them, all you will remember is the funny things that happened this one time, or that other time. What do you do? You take it one day at a time, and accept that your feelings are part of breaking up. You will breathe, even when you don't feel like it, you will breathe even when it is hard, but most importantly you will breathe and not know you are breathing, and the day you wake up a realize you have been breathing all along, you will not care any more.

2007-10-20 15:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 2 0

Accept it and move on with your life. If he can leave you so easily, or your friend, then he is not really a soul mate. You need to realize that you deserve better and get back out in to the real world.

I know it will hurt for a while but it does get easier with time. Start socializing with friends, go to movies and out to lunch and pretty soon you will realize you are living again.

There is someone else out there for you, someone who will apprecaite the way you are and love you the way you deserve to be loved

Good Luck

2007-10-20 15:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0 0

I guess that we just have to take it one day at a time, I know how you feel I am going through the same, I thought my husband of 30 years was my soul mate, but found out he was having an affair with the company tramp for a year before he moved in with her. Guess I was wrong, or else he would be here, instead of living by himself now (she kicked him out after she broke up our marriage, he wasn't as much fun when they didn't have to sneak around). I have been told I will get over it and I am sure I will but it is still devastating now.

2007-10-20 15:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0 0

First, let me say that most of these answers are terrible.

Second, you don't need another person to make yourself complete or to live a happy life. In fact, most of the time people are nothing but trouble. If you stay single you can be as happy or even moreso, and you don't have to deal with all the drama another person drums up, that they make everything so complicated or that you argue over everything.

2007-10-21 06:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Eleanor Roosevelt 4 · 0 0

is not that easy life goes on. right now going throught same thing you going throught.when spouse say they got your back they got you.but when bad times coming around the corner.you never think someone that close to you will leave high and dry.right now my wife is at her moms house am stuck in the boondocks(in woods) she got 2 boys.to make worse even when I call they don't want to pick up the phone and when they do\ oh what you. is rough for me right now but just keep head up.and just pray it will be all right.

2007-10-20 16:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Its so hard but you need to keep yourself preoccupied...sorry your friend does.... having routine and stuff to do will help her..its hard though dont get me wrong...and it never goes away in full, they still enter your head every now and again when something reminds you of them...if he was her soulmate then he'll be back

2007-10-20 15:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Very few people actually meet their soul-mate in this life. A soul-mate would not leave, so with that said, the pain stops when you want it to stop and yes it is that simple.

2007-10-20 15:24:12 · answer #11 · answered by April First 5 · 0 1

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